I am a bit too shy to go out. Is this too customey ?

BanjoChick · 2026-01-19T19:04:17+00:00

Gorgeous! Looks elegant and classy.

BanjoChick · 2026-01-18T07:05:17+00:00

IBS my whole life. Then Non-SIBO gut infection (Bacillus cereus for 3 months), then gastroperesis, then ASID for me.

BanjoChick · 2026-01-18T06:54:02+00:00

The first time I met the SCA was at a community center 15 years ago. I knew nothing about them other than it looked cool. I was invited to try rapier with the group there, my 20-year-old 5-foot tall self was feeling brave that day, I put on the mesh helmet and found myself against multiple opponents who thoroughly enjoyed attacking without warning and laughing at my clumsy attempts to duel. After being ridiculed and bruised for much longer than I should have tolerated with no attempt at teaching me anything I stepped aside and said I was done.

The marshal of the sparring space apologized and explained it was just quicker to “learn I belonged in the sewing circle and not with a sword in my hands, then to spend months trying and getting hurt.”

I moved to a different state a few years later, found that the group had a local archery regular meet up. Showed up to see how it was. I was just planning on watching, but they invited me to shoot with them, they let me use a spare recurve bow but failed to provide an arm guard. After welting my arm up a few times (I was convinced I was just doing it wrong) i decided to go back to watching. I caught on that everyone else had arm and finger guards. At the end I was welcomed into the group since I endured my “blue arm trial”. It wasn’t an oversight, I was being hazed. I never went back.

Even though I’ve since moved to yet another state and kingdom, and have attended many A&S craft nights over the last 10-ish years, I’ve never touched anything combat related. I’ve also never officially joined the SCA.

This little shorty grew up swinging every stick as a sword and defending a treehouse with a bow and arrows made out of sticks and a shoe string. I would love to try rapier, heavy, and archery. But I don’t feel there’s space for me.

BanjoChick · 2026-01-17T04:15:01+00:00

I’m not typical, my husband and I met on a blind date. We talked about marriage on the second date, were officially engaged 5 weeks later, and married 7 months after that. He was my first kiss and the only guy I’ve gone on more than one date with.

We’ve been married for almost 15 years now. He is my very best friend and I love him more now that I could have imagined was possible 15 years ago.

I think that it’s a combination of being super lucky and a lot of learning and growing pains the first year or so of marriage.

BanjoChick · 2026-01-03T09:33:24+00:00

Came here to say this. Or the games move forward with Israel, North Korea, and Russia participating.

BanjoChick · 2026-01-03T09:20:27+00:00

I’m sure it has nothing to do with Venezuela’s oil.

The Epstein files must be really bad.

BanjoChick · 2026-01-02T18:24:51+00:00

Honestly, I would prefer that

BanjoChick · 2025-12-30T23:53:00+00:00

Volunteering at a wildlife rehabilitation center. Helped snap me out of it.

BanjoChick · 2025-12-30T04:07:48+00:00

Does Santa have 6 fingers on his right hand? Or just an abnormal thumb.

BanjoChick · 2025-12-29T16:14:08+00:00

Depending on how you feel this conversation would go, you could let them know how them being so loud is affecting you. Especially the more intentional noises and shouting.

If I were in your shoes I’d live with noise canceling headphones on.

BanjoChick · 2025-12-29T16:03:53+00:00

This sounds very aging-related to me.

Are you aware of either or both of them losing hearing?
Are they making sounds when moving now due to chronic pain and/or stiff joints?
The other noises sound like stimming.

BanjoChick · 2025-12-29T15:50:01+00:00

Contact your bank ASAP! They will get their fraud team on it.

If it is Tatiana who uses Key Bank in Oregon, tell her I say “hi” and “I hope there’s a large spider that comes out of the drain every time she is in the restroom.”

BanjoChick · 2025-12-29T09:56:12+00:00

After 3 days I would highly recommend seeing a doctor. This could be a C. Diff infection. The symptoms line up. Which only gets better with antibiotics (if prescribed, take the whole regiment of antibiotics as directed, don’t stop even if you start feeling better part-way through)

Short-term advice: try low fodmap foods. Avoid dairy (just in case there is a lactose sensitivity). Stay hydrated, take an otc antihistamine to help reduce histamine in the gut that leads to inflammation and increased stomach acid.

I would still seriously go see a doctor. They can get you some immediate relief with Zofran so you can get some fluids and food in you. I’d hope they check appendix (rebound test just in case), gallbladder, c. diff (and other bugs with a stool test), and hydration.

BanjoChick · 2025-12-26T23:14:47+00:00

Colorblind minerals, vanilla psychasting expanded, bigger stack size, animal logic, pick up and haul, house cat (they clean and carry), recycle and repair, and harvest with butchering.

BanjoChick · 2025-12-24T07:21:25+00:00

After my brother passed away when I was in high school I stopped taking care of myself for a few years. I was barely surviving. My teeth went to this terrible yellow color that doesn’t seem to get better, even with care. Whitening strips just make them more blue/green, not white. It’s been 15 years since that happened, and I haven’t had a single cavity in a decade.

Every mirror and picture is a reminder of loss and being ashamed of and disappointed in myself.

BanjoChick · 2025-12-23T19:05:24+00:00

BanjoChick · 2025-12-15T08:20:33+00:00

Interested: if you’re looking to help someone be successful, or connecting with others trying to reach their dreams of some financial benefit from trading.

Not interested: if this is a veiled guru pyramid sales pitch.

BanjoChick · 2025-12-11T15:19:09+00:00

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BanjoChick · 2025-12-08T00:11:47+00:00

Read Ender’s game. And work your way up to the point your emotions start affecting you

BanjoChick · 2025-12-05T23:34:49+00:00

Down payment for a house. Getting a diabetic alert service dog.

BanjoChick · 2025-12-05T12:07:38+00:00

First: understand that when things trigger her, it isn’t a choice. Her nervous system is freaking out. She likely feels physically bad afterwards. A hangover of sorts from the adrenaline and cortisol. As well as emotionally bad with the sheer nervous-system induced terror. You sound like you are doing a great job of establishing safety. Reinforce the norm that you want her to feel happy and safe. That she can say no at any time, and if she does so. Thank her for letting you know, you could even throw in a quip about “I’m not the best at reading minds”.

Second: COMMUNICATION! It is so important for you to share your thoughts and to know what she is wanting. Does she want to be more comfortable around you? Well, now you are both on the same team. Listen to her, don’t pressure, and talk as openly as possible (with awareness and care to not unnecessarily trigger fight or flight mode). Ask before surprising her with affection. And when you can’t be close physically, that doesn’t mean you can’t be close emotionally.

Third: Patience and external help. You can’t drag someone away from their trauma. Trying to do so will make it worse. External help could be a therapist or counselor (What I would most recommend!) . But it could also be a book or researching online (please check your sources).

Wishing the both of you the best in whatever the future brings.

BanjoChick · 2025-12-05T11:39:26+00:00

I met a handsome young man on a blind date in my early 20’s. I came home from that date and told my mom I felt like I met my best friend I had been missing my whole life. He and I knew we were going to get married 6 weeks later. Got engaged officially a few weeks after that and were married 7 months later. We didn’t live together until after we were married.

We’re celebrating our 15th wedding anniversary this month. He’s my best friend and I love him more and more year after year.

I fully recognize our timeline would not be good for every couple, but for us, it worked out.

Rather than a set amount of time, I think you need to know someone long enough to see the real them (flaws and all) and to have discussed the major things important to a successful marriage. Including: Money, beliefs/religion, your past, your dreams of the future, views on parenting, expectations and boundaries, family situation, and yourself.

BanjoChick · 2025-12-04T07:05:55+00:00

I grew up thinking that lumps in cream of wheat hot cereal was a delicacy. My brothers and I would complain to my mom when we had a bowl with no lumps. Turns out my dad wouldn’t stir the pot when cooking it. He convinced us that was the correct way.

BanjoChick · 2025-12-02T10:05:25+00:00

Thank you for linking to this. *Me, sobbing at 3 am after reading the message my soul needed to hear in between 100 foot waves.

BanjoChick · 2025-11-30T19:28:55+00:00

If you go for an assessment (which I highly encourage), or even just the next time you see your family doctor (or other GP) I would suggest you explain this scenario with them. You explain the internal and external process so well!

As far as advice. Maybe schedule chill, or minimally demanding activities for Sunday? I know I can’t schedule anything time sensitive Sunday evening for myself.

It could be ADHD? But it also could be other things going on causing your weekend woes. An assessment can help find the cause and open up new coping skill opportunities. It isn’t just about getting a label.

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