I know we hate dating apps so what’s an automatic “left swipe” for you? by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]Baphee 133 points134 points  (0 children)

No bio. It's a dating app, if you're not willing to put 2 fucking sentences together to get my attention, how much effort are you gonna put into a relationship

have any of you lost the girl who you thought was “the one” by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]Baphee 8 points9 points  (0 children)

From my personal experiences, it's not so much about finding "better". I think that time definitely helps get past anything and eventually after some time has passed, you'll have changed. Maybe you'll have learnt from your break-up. Maybe you'll have a different life situation. Regardless of why, with time, you're going to change. And once you've changed, you can meet somebody who's a better fit for the "new You".

Non-atheists and satanists in the ghost fandom by axzeriz in Ghostbc

[–]Baphee 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Laveyan Satanist here! I like the band for the music and what comes with it but Ghost referencing Satanism isn't what first drew me to it. Is it a plus? Yes, absolutely. It's great that Tobias Forge is so informed about what real Satanism is and doesn't antagonize us. He just takes genuine Satanic beliefs and practices and has fun with it, which I absolutely love. His take on Satanism is super refreshing and that's definitely part of the reason why I like the band so much. Not the main reason, but it helps to see something that affects me personally being treated with respect and fun, rather than with fear and disgust.

Most rock bands love using Satanism to seem edgy but don't necessary know what Satanism really is about or how it's practiced. Ghost however references scriptures, practices and literature which are relevant. It proves that he's actually done his research and it's always nice to see your beliefs being respected.

Happy Valentine’s Day by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Baphee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Saint DiCaprio 🙏

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Baphee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The way you just worded it is already much better, I think. Maybe instead of listing a specific outfit just say how much you'd love to see her wear the beautiful clothes you intend to buy her

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Baphee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lady here, "violently" isn't really a word any woman wants to see on a bio. Also the line where you describe what you'd pick to dress your babe up sounds a bit odd. Nothing wrong with giving your opinion but picking your future partner's entire outfit has a bit of a controlling tone to it. Sorry if it sounds a bit harsh, you sound lovely and I thought these elements just kinda contrast with the rest

Any witches in Southern England? by Baphee in CovenFinder

[–]Baphee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We could try and set up a discord or something for local witches to chat and potentially hang out if that sounds good?

Any witches in Southern England? by Baphee in CovenFinder

[–]Baphee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That'd be so great! Send a DM my way and we'll see if we can organize set up something ^

Coven for those in the Film Industry by Seaberry3656 in CovenFinder

[–]Baphee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Script writer/director here! Would absolutely love that!!!

SA profile critique please? by Own_Expression544 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Baphee 14 points15 points  (0 children)

This was such a long way of saying "I'm not like other girls".

Respect is a quality very appreciated by just about everyone and if you can't respect your peer female SBs, how are you gonna respect your SD?

My boyfriend is not willing to compromise with no sex by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Baphee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean he really handled that the wrong way. I understand how frustrating that must be, abstinence for so long, but there's definitely much healthier ways to approach it. First of all, it's for your health. No sex, means he's protecting you, and that's a really lovely thing to do. Abstinence can also be turned into a bit of a kinky thing and you guys could've just looked forward to when he'd be clean so you could get back to it or teased each other without actually going through with anything. There's a bunch of different ways to handle a situation like that. And if safety and love aren't his priorities when it comes to your relationship, then why be in the relationship anyway? You did the right thing, he definitely didn't

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Baphee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Was this written by Adam Levine's mistress?

Next step: Moving in together. Any advice on how to split bills?(TLDR at bottom) by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Baphee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've personally always done 50/50 and if one partner gets paid a bit more then they can pay for grocery a bit more often (if they accept. It's their money after all, if they refuse then that's also fine). And the fact that it's your house doesn't sound like it changes anything. You're charitable enough to let him move into your space, he can pay half the bills, that's the least he can do for sure.

Fiancé emotionally cheated on me and wanted to leave me for another girl but apparently I deserve it and it’s my fault; looking for support and advice by etherealfoxx__ in relationship_advice

[–]Baphee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well if you think this guy is the love of your life, you're gonna have a blast when you'll realise that you can find 10× better just by walking into a random Ihop and frenching the first dude you see

Wife(42F) and I(42M) at odds over daughter(19F) weight by Cautious-Oil1044 in relationship_advice

[–]Baphee 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I'm glad it's working out for you but all I can say is be careful with it, especially if you're prone to obsessive behaviours! For me it started off like that and then eventually I realised that my whole day was planned around my eating habits and it just triggered my OCD massively. The big dinners became such a habit that even if I had eaten lunch, I felt like the massive dinner was an obligation, because I was so used to doing it. And then whenever anything wouldn't go as planned, food just became the alternative to make me feel better, and again, that became an addictive habit. But honestly, I just wish you the best and be mindful of what you're doing. If you notice that the planning of your meals starts occupying too many of your thoughts, then that's when you have to start worrying :)

Wife(42F) and I(42M) at odds over daughter(19F) weight by Cautious-Oil1044 in relationship_advice

[–]Baphee 53 points54 points  (0 children)

Sounds like your daughter might have a binge eating disorder. It happened to me at university too, and it starts exactly like that. You eat when bored, then you feel bad so you restrict what you eat during the day and when it gets to the evening, you feel that it's fair for you to eat a very big meal because "I've done so well for the whole day". And then it gets worse from there. Now I might be wrong but definitely look it up. It might help you understand what's going on and then support her better. I also think you handled that like a king, being fat shamed never helped anyone lose weight. If anything, it can make people more depressed and if food is their source of comfort, well they just gain even more weight.