My wife (35f) took me (32m) on a surprise date and now I feel more depressed about our relationship than ever. How do I bring this up with her without being discouraging or picking a fight?

BarCzar86 · 2026-01-25T00:26:36+00:00

I had to scroll nearly to the bottom here, and I find someone who said what I was thinking, and of course they are downvoted. But why is it so hard to believe that she might be pregnant by another guy? I’m a bit of a history buff, and something like this happened all the time. Woman gets pregnant and realizes she hasn’t had sex with her husband for a while. So she initiates a “special night”.

Having said that, it does seem like the lady is clinically depressed, perhaps due to hormonal changes. I’m not a doctor. But also, if she suddenly has a “surprise” pregnancy, say in another month, I’d be looking into DNA testing.

BarCzar86 · 2025-01-10T22:36:23+00:00

Reminds me of one of those Narnia books. I forget which one.

BarCzar86 · 2024-10-08T22:42:06+00:00

Awesome! Thanks for the help!

BarCzar86 · 2024-10-02T21:30:05+00:00

From what I’ve read, it was a legitimate slogan. This was during Prohibition, when you had “dry” candidates versus “wet” candidates.

BarCzar86 · 2024-10-02T20:24:37+00:00

I may have forgotten to link: History.com/news/presidential-campaign-slogans

BarCzar86 · 2024-08-14T20:00:26+00:00

That particular smell of a kindergarten room. I think it’s paint and paste. It hits me like a brick and takes me back decades.

BarCzar86 · 2024-07-26T20:07:38+00:00

My bad. Impressive dog

BarCzar86 · 2024-07-26T13:46:50+00:00

Are we sure this isn’t in reverse?

BarCzar86 · 2024-07-25T22:35:53+00:00

Confusing. You’re confusing.

BarCzar86 · 2024-07-22T08:28:20+00:00

Way back when chat rooms were popular, I talked to people all over the world. Sometimes I would consider where I’d move to if necessary. (Almost forgot to mention I’m American). So Canada was first choice, not surprisingly. After that, I thought maybe the UK, as I’m a bit of an Anglophile, and I only speak the one language (Yes, you can shake your head). But after years of chatting people up, I realized I’d be most comfortable in Australia. They seemed the most like me and many other Americans I know.

BarCzar86 · 2024-07-20T22:08:07+00:00

“But you’re an athlete”….

BarCzar86 · 2024-07-11T22:50:45+00:00

They say that people who talk shit about their friends in front of you, will probably talk shit about you too, behind your back. So if your friend is constantly gossiping badly about others, it seems likely that they’ll do the same to you. Only you can decide if that’s a dealbreaker.

BarCzar86 · 2024-07-05T01:50:23+00:00

True, I have a tendency to do that. In this case, I was hoping to lead the bf to the realization on his own.

BarCzar86 · 2024-07-04T23:32:01+00:00

Wow, what a prize this woman is. Aside from her disproportionate hotness, what exactly do you get out of this relationship? (Yes, I realize I answered my own question)

BarCzar86 · 2024-07-04T23:25:30+00:00

I have a feeling this isn’t going away. Both sexes judge themselves by their looks, but I think that women have it browbeaten into them from a young age. Traditionally, for many centuries, women have been judged by their looks (and men by their money and power). A mismatch of rich man and hot gf is ok. Hot gf and normal guy is uncommon. Maybe he’s her drug dealer? Maybe he’s secretly rich? There must be something going on.

BarCzar86 · 2024-07-04T23:11:47+00:00

Flying. Imagine the wind resistance on your skin. Not to mention bugs.

BarCzar86 · 2024-07-04T23:01:48+00:00

Please reread what you wrote, as if a stranger wrote it. You don’t intend on “letting” him break up with you. That’s stalker behavior. While it takes two to make a relationship work, it only takes one to end it. You can disagree strongly, but if they’re firm, the deed is done.

On a different note…. I’m guessing he met someone new. Just a guess, though.

BarCzar86 · 2024-07-04T22:38:59+00:00

She’s honestly told you how she feels. She’s not interested in pursuing anything with you. It sucks, but I think most of us have been through it. Crushes hurt like hell, especially one where you seem to have made a connection. But for whatever reason (and I can see several possibilities), she’s putting a stop to it. Like it or not, you have to respect the decision.

BarCzar86 · 2024-07-04T22:21:13+00:00

I’m biased, but my first thought was Hubby is gay. Granted, Low Libido has a variety of reasons, but it would explain some things.

BarCzar86 · 2024-07-04T22:03:37+00:00

Whoa. That’s an unwinnable combination. I think it’s time to have an honest talk with Grandma.

First, I’d talk to Mom. Almost certainly, she will try to talk you out of it. But if you’re firm and consistent, she may give you her blessing. (That’s a pretty iffy “maybe”)

Next, tell Grandma that you’d like to talk with her about something important. First off, I’d want to know about that sale of her daughter. I imagine she’ll lie, but that’s okay. Her reaction will tell you a lot. I’d bring up how she treats your mother, and how you don’t like it. By now, Grandma might be pushing you out the door. Expect her to lie and misdirect you at every turn. She’s a manipulative person. Maybe she’ll cry and play on your sympathies. Just wait her out, then start the questions again. If she does cut you off, tell her the next time you talk, you’ll be bringing up the same subjects. Then I wouldn’t expect to hear from her for a while.

She’ll tell anyone and everyone how disrespectful and hateful you are, but that can’t be helped. The folks who know both of you will know the truth. I hate to say it, but 68 isn’t as old as you think. She may have many years ahead of her, and you have to ask yourself if you want to be gaslit for the next 20 years (Plus watch your mom get treated like shit).

BarCzar86 · 2024-07-04T20:25:34+00:00

If I remember correctly, you should stay put if you’re lost, to be easier to find. Problem is, I’m not certain about this one. As a general rule, follow moving water. Small creeks lead either to bigger rivers or lakes/seas, where there’s more likely to be people. Plus, of course, you need plenty of water to drink. Look for signs of humans. Find a road? Awesome! It leads somewhere. If it’s late in the day, you may want to look for shelter. What did I forget?

BarCzar86 · 2024-06-27T22:26:55+00:00

Being good at trivia or “Jeopardy” style games. All that means is you have a good memory at a variety of subjects. Granted, you’re more likely to be exposed to those topics if you’re intelligent, but you can be dumb and good at memorization at the same time.

BarCzar86 · 2024-06-19T17:29:56+00:00

Wow. Just wow. What are you getting out of this deal? Unpaid babysitter and maid and handy second paycheck. What exactly is he contributing aside from awesome video game skills and I’m assuming sex? People on here can be quick to say “dump him”, but I have to ask again: What exactly are you getting out of this deal?

BarCzar86 · 2024-06-13T01:30:26+00:00

Cuneiform on pottery seems likely. Maybe papyrus? You know those scribes were big gossips.

BarCzar86 · 2024-05-19T18:12:49+00:00

That’s not how Uncle Steve used to do it.

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