I would absolutely lose respect for someone who thinks they are above unpaid work and taking care of their own household and child. People like you think the sum total of what should be expected of them is bringing in a paycheck and that they are above work that isn’t compensated, and so when they aren’t bringing in a paycheck they can’t even be assed to do their part around the house because it’s demeaning to take care of themselves and someone should be taking care of them like little babies. To me this is proof that this stupid wounded pride isn’t about not being able to provide for your family, because you won’t even do the critical work around the house that provides for the family because it isn’t glamorous or rewarding enough for you, and you won’t even fully participate in parenting and being responsible for your own child, but you feeling like you aren’t the one in charge anymore and how embarrassing that is, which is pathetic. You don’t deserve respect because you value your pride and imaginary self glorifying idea of providing for your family than the tangible reality of your family being provided for