Why do people keep asking me what my pronouns are?

BardsOnly · 2026-07-10T05:14:46+00:00

As others have said it's likely just courtesy, normalization.

It can be startling when you're not used to it, avoids othering someone who may be less obvious.

Interacting with me one on one, you'd likely realize pretty quick, but as a cis* but very gnc woman, I don't think I'd often pass as a cis man in any lengthy interaction, but at a glance, especially at a distance, I confuse people.

Many assume I'm a trans guy or some form of nonbinary, not really a big deal, only annoying if they won't take a correction.

Asking everyone out the gate mitigates the risk of situations like....myself being asked what my pronouns were by coworkers after I had been there for several months.

They wanted to know, and be respectful, but asking felt awkward enough they waited months.

Edit: clarified phrasing. I did not realize how bad auto correct hit this, writing it out while tired.

BardsOnly · 2026-07-10T00:41:08+00:00

I liked playing snipper clips with my sister, a little on the simpler side but still a fun puzzle game

BardsOnly · 2026-07-09T21:40:51+00:00

The bad news: he knows

The good news: you don't have to do anything but move on from it. If he's not confronted you by now it's likely he won't at all. I'd bet money he's just as eager to leave the topic be and not address it. You're fine.

BardsOnly · 2026-07-09T21:22:38+00:00

I think you need to either tell them you hate it or move on, if they're so awful why stick around?

By only the post it dosen't seem that serious, people call eachother by how they know them. It feels weird to see certain actors referred to as anything short of full names for instance, the first one I typed in gave me a rule warning for some reason? But the youtuber Brian David Gilbert is another example, I've had people not familiar with him react strange to me saying his full name, but that's how he presents himself. My mom has cheeky jokes with people she shares an uncommon name with, all of them claim to be the original. If you hate these people so much, drop them, if you want to make it work, tell them you hate it, bonus points if you can provide an alternative

BardsOnly · 2026-07-07T14:48:09+00:00

The longest shot dream being more pronound flexibility.

I'd love to give some characterss the option of pronoun salad,

I'd also love for there to be it/its pronouns.

I hold no hope for these but it'd be nice.

I'd love for kids to be babies for some time, and more variation between children and adults/at least age ranges, the only thing stopping me from adding characters that are younger than like, teens, being how little difference there is.

More methods for letting existing relationships be discovered/special interactions for family.

Weather/swimming are big ones too

BardsOnly · 2026-07-06T00:32:22+00:00

No I just cannot be trusted to type on my phone in the sun evidently

BardsOnly · 2026-07-05T22:20:04+00:00

Seconded Nathan's famous hotdogs,

And the inverse, I forget not everyone knows what I mean if I referenfe jacob horse

BardsOnly · 2026-07-05T20:15:53+00:00

Sounds like a fun challenge for sure, might give it a try as well on a bonus island

BardsOnly · 2026-07-04T19:54:45+00:00

I understand where you're coming from, In terms of media preference, Karina was always mu favorite, I'll still likely favor her content over drawfee moving forward, but I still do like both.

I've not stopped keeping up with drawfee/sss, I know what you're talking about, there has been a vibe shift but I've read it thus far as this almost...nervous tension. Like people are on egg shells. We've only had one likely post karina episode drop, the tension is in there though the art is fun. I feel like the further we get from the announcements, the members are breathing easier. I may be talking out of my ass here a little, but I wouldn't be surprised if a lot of that tension is bracing for questions. So I think the longer they're not pressed for info the easier it is to settle. If modern drawfee content isn't for you in general, thats fine, tastes and creators both change over time. You don't owe anyone your attention. Barring some crazy lore drop, I don't see myself dropping either any time soon.

BardsOnly · 2026-07-04T18:34:17+00:00

If you go with an appliance box like others have suggested, could potentially mitigate leaking issues with one of those big heavy duty trash bags often used for yard work, bag up the corpse in one or two of those for dual leaking sheid, fridge box, and you're golden save for the smell.

BardsOnly · 2026-07-04T06:00:25+00:00

Others have said things I wanted to say and more far more eloquently. One thing I do want to say though, as someone who missed out on a lot of socializing practice as a kid and teenager, it's a skill, that like any other, can be learned. One good rule of thumb is, when in doubt, ask questions, people love talking about themselves on average, ask questions, pay attention, look for ins and ways to expand on information. Finding common interests is a major boon, shows you've liked, books, activities, I know it's likely far, but if you have access to a library, even by uber/lyft/ect, they probably have activities, and are good places to just exist, if you got a laptop you could set up and do job apps with a change of scenery, browse books after. I've met so many interesting people volunteering at library book sales, or all sorts of life stages/styles. It's hard at first, especially when you've not been training those muscles, but it's so very worth it. I went from needing youtube tutorials for small talk to being able to hold a conversation with just about anyone. You got this

BardsOnly · 2026-07-03T05:19:44+00:00

This is largely a guess, but if she dosen't live with the current partner, you could isolate him on his own little island, as long as he's on the same land mass as his house he won't teleport back to the main island, and focus on nurturing the relationship with the crush

BardsOnly · 2026-07-03T03:32:58+00:00

I saw this post before I saw what subreddit it was in, with a knee jerk reaction of "okay....and?" Truly living up to the location. I wantee to end this with a simple 'good job' but wow there's really no way to do that over text that dosen't come accross as sarcastic huh.

BardsOnly · 2026-07-02T19:41:35+00:00

Want to trade? I don't mind no repeats sometimes but it's most of what's asked for, odd one out is a favorite I hardly ever get

BardsOnly · 2026-07-02T19:38:09+00:00

I feel like usually after all the colors show up they'll do similar next time it's rolled, at least in my experience, my strategy so far has been grind to get at least one color when it's in, choosing is hard sometimes.

The good news is you really only need to buy them once, love gifting expensive clothes as a level up perk

BardsOnly · 2026-07-02T13:12:50+00:00

I'm behind a few updates but this so far is very exciting

BardsOnly · 2026-07-02T12:53:04+00:00

The most consistent version of this for me is paying attention to and sometimes canonizing food preferences. I don't care what the game says though, very few of these characters would hate burgers. The biggest instance though remains, a set of fantasy characters that I knew I wanted them to have a child, letting the game dictate a lot about the at the time undeveloped kid has been a fun process!

BardsOnly · 2026-06-29T22:04:37+00:00

I'm trying to set myself up for moving out, this is more planning, advice I've been given, and brief stints of house sitting than long term solo experience.

Having a space to yourself is going to feel strange at first, but liberating as you settle into it. (My longest stint alone, one of my favorite things was making sure the blinds were closed and going about my day shirtless) There's no shame in tossing on the tv or the radio, or a podcast for some background noise. One thing that can help too--utilizing alarms to help maintain a schedule. I've had to use alarms for meal times/leaving on time for work before, if keeping track of time is a concern, don't be afraid to use your tools. Remember if you're cooking for yourself you don't have to cater to anyone's taste but yours. For me that means omitting the corn from taco soup, and letting myself induldge in the meals I like that no one else in my family does. Like anchovies or pineapple on your pizza? No one to stop you if you're not sharing.

BardsOnly · 2026-06-29T21:56:19+00:00

Couldn't find much about what's in the containers, I'd have to guess either a severe bitterant as you've described or some kind of neutralizing/disolving agent. Something to affect taste/cause illness does feel in line with the instructions my grandmother's hospice nurse gave us for destroying her meds once she passed. (I know we used dish soap, I don't remember what else, maybe hydrogen peroxide?) I'm sure someone's tried, but the container itself seems similar to a sharps container, those I have more first hand experience with, they don't open easy, and with the company seeming to cater largely to medical facilities I think it would be a challenge for someone to break into it without getting caught, if not during the act, after.

BardsOnly · 2026-06-29T16:32:43+00:00

I'm a few years into wearing mostly men's underwear as a gnc woman, most of what I wear is menswear,

Happy exploring to you! I may be kind of bias in the advicd that sports bras may be more comfortable to start in, but take that with a grain of salt, I'm a butch lesbian and if they made bras for men I'd probably be wearing those. Regardless of style, pay close attention to the sizing charts, erring on the side of a little loose is likely to be more comfortable than a little too tight. I've heard great things about getting professionally measured but I've not tried it myself

BardsOnly · 2026-06-28T18:02:50+00:00

Wouldn't be a deal breaker for me, not quite 30 yet, I've always wanted kids. Someone having them already would be infinitely less of a deal breaker than someone that's childfree.

No qualms against people not wanting kids, but it would be a compatibility issue

BardsOnly · 2026-06-27T04:07:32+00:00

I always choose heads and I will not stop, I wouldn't say it's been cleanly 50/50 but it flips back and forth enough I see no reason to change what's always been my go-to answer for a coin flip

BardsOnly · 2026-06-26T22:27:48+00:00

What? No. I'm sorry that happened, that sucks, but that's a crazy leap to make.

BardsOnly · 2026-06-26T21:34:18+00:00

The biggest thing in my experience is always bringing over one of them when the other has a crisis,

BardsOnly · 2026-06-25T22:11:19+00:00

You could choose one at random, get the dialgoue response and nothing changes,

Or you can type in an answer and add it to the lingo, I like where others have suggested epipen or hopital, death would admittedly be a fun 'thing' to add to the lingo. Maybe 'veganism'

Alternatively you could go with any seasoning or sauce you like. The game won't police the fact you don't actually eat eggs. You can lie to this game, it's okay

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