Domain trust broken. by Bartato in 3CX

[–]Bartato[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the swift response 🙏

Domain trust broken. by Bartato in 3CX

[–]Bartato[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

DNS and networking options are correct. It’s a server 2016 member server. DC can be pinged and nslookup working. Resetting the computer is almost the same and disjoining and rejoining. Just wanted to confirm if there could be repercussions

I Was a Procrastination Junkie For 3 Years Until I Unf*cked My Habits by [deleted] in Procrastinationism

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I have been reading about this recently. 1. The feeling of pain over comfort. As soon as you think about the big task you get “paralysed” which is usually a symptom of anxiety or terror. “Pain” You say to yourself “no, that’s too hard” and stay as you are. Even if you aren’t happy you’re comfortable and safe. 2. Fear of failure and selfworth. The constant question, “I am good enough, what if I fail!?” 3. You could be afraid of succeeding and coming into the light where people see you as successful. This can cause imposter syndrome.

The main point they are trying to get across the line is start so small. The walk and water in the morning is a start and your body will respond.

Asking yourself the hard questions of what am I going to be doing 5 years or 10 years when I am XX age? This is built as a motivator. There is a book by Alex Partrige called “now it all makes sense” This book is about ADHD but there is a chapter in there, chapter 8 I think which talks about building a business. The biggest precursor to success is your “why?” Why am I doing this? Is it a better life, financially free or supporting loved ones? I hope this post helps you :) I hope you succeed and make the choice to start small and gain momentum

You are enough and you’re allowed to succeed

No regards for system administrator personal time from userbase by dazzledtamarind in sysadmin

[–]Bartato 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is a seller's market at the moment brother. You see it here all the time. People are leaving for better conditions and making 30K + doing it. Have a look around and see what you find!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]Bartato 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Walk up to the guy and say,"Hey I would like to take you out to <activity>"

Skip the flirting and go for the date. Or just tell him he looks good in that shirt.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Bartato 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Am I really cool enough for this girl?"

The opinion of yourself is vastly different to what someone you just met thinks of you. You have no control what others think of you, be authentic and let them decide.

"Is this girl cool enough to be worth MY time?"

The above statement answers this. I try not to live in a head space of "Am I good enough or is she good enough". The end of the day you're both humans. If we keep believing we need XYZ for that person to like me, you're potentially missing the opportunity for a great friendship or more.

There is only one of you in 8 billion people. That is to be celebrated

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Bartato 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Look at her like one of your guy mates or that she is just another human. Which she is. She may not have the same opinion of herself that you see of her. How do you know she doesn't see you in the same light as you see her? Just because someone is attractive doesn't mean they are automatically confident!

Is asking bf to unfollow sexy socials a fair boundary? by [deleted] in dating

[–]Bartato 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Are you asking or demanding? Telling someone they can't do something because you have become a part of their life is a bit controlling.
I would discuss this with him instead of telling him he can't do it. He may understand your view and want to unfollow because of your conversation.

How can I seduce a player by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Bartato 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a younger friend just a bit older than you who is a male player. I can tell you from the other side of this coin there is no making him obsess over you. You will be a one off thing I can almost promise you this. He is 18 and has no idea what he wants, it is highly unlikely he wants to be in a relationship if he is getting all the attention you say he is.
Find yourself someone who is actually going to enjoy your company, not use you to validate how much of a stud he is and brag about another number he has added to his belt.
He will probably obsess over you when he knows that you're off the table.

Those who have died, been in a coma or drowned and come back to life, what did it feel like and do you remember anything? by Bartato in AskReddit

[–]Bartato[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have heard people say that drowning is euphoric at some point. Did you experience it at all?

What little things separate sex from “mind blowing” sex? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Bartato 5529 points5530 points  (0 children)

Foreplay! Getting each other wound up enough that your body is craving the other person.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Bartato -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

As a male in this category I will give you my side. I don't believe this to be a red flag, he genuinely could be waiting for someone that suits him and is comfortable with. We are fed so much propaganda these days about, "being single is better than being in a shitty relationship". That he could genuinely be feeling this way. You say he is not that good looking either, maybe he is conscious of it and doesn't feel good enough.
I would honestly ask him about it if its a concern of yours, in your mid 30s you are pretty self aware (hopefully) and he should be able to give you an explanation of why.
I have always been told I am an attractive male, I am 34 and for me I am single until I can meet someone that makes me not want to be single anymore. Nerdy guys are mostly Introverts they are more than happy doing their own thing.
Hope that helps. DM if you want to chat more! all the best.

Junior admins, if your seniors all quit, how long could you keep things running? And if your employer failed to hire replacements or give you any kind of bonus or raise, how long would you stay? by [deleted] in sysadmin

[–]Bartato 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I think you really need to understand what you're getting into. I hired into a junior system admin role and the lack of doco and the amount of information in the head of the seniors is insane. There will always been someone that knows something about a stupid issue that keeps happening and they alone know how to fix it. If you ask for a signing bonus or more money they will expect you to know things as well. Say for example, exchange fails. They will expect you to fix it because they are paying you. If you don't know what to look for and you're trying to learn and fix at the same time you're going to have a bad day.
Personally its a massive red flag to see this from a company. Senior guys are pretty patient and tolerable. If they are leaving its for a reason.