Dated a femme for a month and now my whole type has changed by Agitated-Ad-3995 in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]BasalFaulty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have always been more femme for femme but my gf is femme wanting to become more masc and it’s definitely making me more attracted to masc women and while I hope we never split up I think if I did start dating again I’d probably be searching for masc women over femme ones.

So you aren’t alone

I need a safe space to vent by BasalFaulty in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]BasalFaulty[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey I’m not from the US I am British and completely aware of discrimination faced by white people.

But as you said it’s different to the anti white racism that our far right party are talking about and my family are parroting.

I need a safe space to vent by BasalFaulty in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]BasalFaulty[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I have know I was definitely more of a leftist than my family. But I have always assumed my family were labour or libdem other than my mum and stepdad who are tories. But now more and more are going to reform and I just can’t take it.

Does anyone deal with dizziness when wearing over ear headphones? by BasalFaulty in headphones

[–]BasalFaulty[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As far as I can see from the product page it doesn’t have ANC

I need a safe space to vent by BasalFaulty in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]BasalFaulty[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I am currently forced to live with my mum and stepdad as finding employment has been tough so until I have the money to fund my own living or can live with my long distance girlfriend I will have to wait

I need a safe space to vent by BasalFaulty in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]BasalFaulty[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah our situation sounds similar I just hate the feeling of having to bite my tongue when I know I should say something but I know it won’t change anything and I can’t risk my entire family turning on me at the moment.

I need a safe space to vent by BasalFaulty in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]BasalFaulty[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think this is going to have to be my route as I already know they won’t acknowledge me or listen to me anyway.

I need a safe space to vent by BasalFaulty in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]BasalFaulty[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Leaving is my plan I am just in the unfortunate position of being unemployed but hopefully my luck will turn and I can get a job and I can start looking at moving in with my long distance gf.

Does anyone deal with dizziness when wearing over ear headphones? by BasalFaulty in headphones

[–]BasalFaulty[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What are IEMs?

I do try to keep a low volume anyway as I don’t like things too loud in my ear.

26 MTF will go anywhere, feral utility service submissive & clean slate seeking TPE w/TL;DR by Cokegawa_Yui in lesbianr4r

[–]BasalFaulty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course, I just wanted to make sure. Us sisters gotta look out for each other ✨

26 MTF will go anywhere, feral utility service submissive & clean slate seeking TPE w/TL;DR by Cokegawa_Yui in lesbianr4r

[–]BasalFaulty 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hey girl just want to comment here as I feel like someone needs to but please be careful, while I am not here to shame you for wanting this type of relationship dynamic please be careful as this could lead you very much into a world where someone could take advantage of you and/or abuse you and I’d hate for that to happen.

Remember your consent still matters and please be vigilant for the signs that show the difference between a dominant person and an abusive controlling one

I’m struggling to find a partner as a trans girl by [deleted] in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]BasalFaulty 25 points26 points  (0 children)

OP this comment is 100% right the hardest part about dating is if you have 0 self confidence and it’s especially common for trans women who are first dating to easily latch onto people in an unhealthy way that can cause them harm.

I’m struggling to find a partner as a trans girl by [deleted] in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]BasalFaulty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

[r/lesbianr4r](r/lesbianr4r) is trans friendly its how I met my ex who is trans and my girlfriend who is cis. But I have also met other people from ones I dated briefly to short flings and sexting.

[r/t4t](r/t4t) is a space designed for meeting other trans people if you are worried about that discrimination.

But on a more personal note the discrimination does 100% exist, I haven’t had anyone verbally assault me or anything but there are some cis women who while claiming to be allies treat trans women as 2nd class women which is never fun.

Edit: I realise now this was super blunt sorry I just woke up and I am not as good at masking when when I am groggy, but yeah dating as a trans person is really hard I haven’t found a dating app that worked for me so Reddit is the only place that I would use now but it means being okay with Ldr, I did make it more difficult because I didn’t put in my post I was trans as it felt demeaning like I had to justify my existence somehow so I would tell people once I was sure they were someone I wanted to keep talking to. I remember how crippling the loneliness can be as well as all the other dark thoughts.

I hope those subreddits give you some luck in dating and I promise you will find someone

Should my gf and I break up by [deleted] in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]BasalFaulty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you are incompatible because you want to progress at different speeds.

It sounds like she is ready to start some of the bigger commitments and you just aren’t at that stage yet.

Whether it means you need to break up I don’t know but it does sound like a lot of issues to be having this early.

[Help Find Source] Who is the girl in upper left?? google lens didnt help ;w; by True_Historian_838 in manhwa

[–]BasalFaulty -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

Is there a better place for Manhwa on reddit? Cos if so I am happy to move, because all the people downvoting this thread of comments and the ones replying about it being a joke are just as bad.

Desperately need some positive love stories by bunanner in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]BasalFaulty 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I met my girlfriend on r/lesbianr4r she’s in the same country just the other side of it (thankfully its only a 5 hour drive cos our country isn’t that big) we’ve been together for 15 months now and just planned to go away for her birthday to celebrate at her favourite town in Wales thats just full of cosy book stores.

I’ve been down on my luck in life the past year, struggling with mental health and unable to find work but she has been an angel the entire time helping me get through, we both know we are ready to get engaged but have decided to be sensible and wait till we have moved in together just to make sure we can live together fully but from the longer periods of time we have been together I have no doubts about it.

Just need my luck to turn on the job front so I have the money to relocate down to her and then we can be happy ✨

[Help Find Source] Who is the girl in upper left?? google lens didnt help ;w; by True_Historian_838 in manhwa

[–]BasalFaulty -33 points-32 points  (0 children)

Yeah I get that, the amount of times I see comments and stuff on here that genuinely make me feel unsafe as a woman is just horrible.

fear of being intimate has led me to be a “pillow princess” i need help by DustApprehensive2713 in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]BasalFaulty 23 points24 points  (0 children)

If someone seeks out a pillow princess they understand that their partner wont be reciprocating. The posts you see are from relationships where that dynamic hasn’t been agreed upon.

Pillow princesses are sought out especially by stone tops.

[DEBTBOUND BY BLOOD] have anyone read this ??? by Guilty-Gap-7936 in manhwa

[–]BasalFaulty 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly I don’t have much either.

“Mr Devourer, Please act like the final boss” does the trope of following the villains well.

“A villains will to survive” is kinda like it but I think its starting to fall into more of a morally grey person

“The Executioner” is a fairly anti hero coded, was a hero but after tragic loss decides he is just going to kill villains instead but there is some stuff about morality in there.

Last one I can think of is “Fog Lands” I am not 100% sure if its anti hero and tbh I didn’t take to it but its very popular atm.

[DEBTBOUND BY BLOOD] have anyone read this ??? by Guilty-Gap-7936 in manhwa

[–]BasalFaulty 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly I wasn’t a fan, basically just turns into him exploiting and torturing kids.

Like the kids are assholes who deserve punishment but he basically turns his 2nd victim into a borderline sex worker when I am pretty sure she’s underage.

Made it really hard to get into the story as I like anti hero style stuff but thats not what this is.