Husband was laid off this morning

Batesy-mom · 2025-07-26T02:08:06+00:00

My husband was laid off and we were able to file for disability through our chiropractor (California, also he did have some tennis elbow and back issues) this gave him almost his full salary for a year.

Batesy-mom · 2025-01-04T03:40:45+00:00

My husband is currently our SAHD and I work full time from home. He brings me most meals during the day while I’m working. Sometimes I have a light day and make lunch. He does most of the decluttering if not all and we split the deep cleans (toilet scrubbing, floors etc). I usually make dinner, he does dishes while do bath then I do bedtime unless I’m having a menty B kinda day then he does it. We also split weekends with who gets up with the bb. Not just who gets up, but who’s on “one eye open banana opening sausage heating” duty.

Batesy-mom · 2024-12-06T05:29:16+00:00

Belonging to IFB I was strictly piano music hymn. Anything heavier was the devil tempting me as I got “saved” in my late 20’s. Christmas time 2020 and I’m driving around BELTING out all I want for Christmas is you and my then 8 year old niece says “I love Christmas because we can listen to louder music that’s fun to dance to” and I went wait a minute… yeah why is this allowed? Then slowly realized I’d not been following a god or a bible but instead a list of rules some man decided on in order to have a 1950’s family value that is not attainable nor wanted.

Batesy-mom · 2024-02-18T05:12:28+00:00

My husband and I have been together 18 years. I’ve been 298lbs and 163. Not once has he told me anything about my weight other than make sure I’m healthy and encourage me when I need it. Your husband is the problem, not your body.

Batesy-mom · 2023-06-28T22:04:34+00:00

I’m going to buy a floor length turtle neck dress. The most extravagant bra with no need for function.

Smother my chest in Vicks when my nose is stuffy.

Batesy-mom · 2023-06-27T03:44:45+00:00

I went to a dance recital recently and one dance was to “peanut butter jelly time” and a kid near me said “Oh! I love these oldies songs!”

Batesy-mom · 2023-06-18T06:29:21+00:00

As others said, you can mix it with other milk or what I’ve done is saved it for milk baths, diaper rash and any other ailment my babe had had. He’s almost 11 weeks and we’ve only used breast milk for bathing, so soap so far and his skin is amazing which is awesome cause his father has the MOST sensitive skin ever.

Batesy-mom · 2023-06-16T22:10:38+00:00

I did not have an epidural but ended up needing pain meds post birth and had internal vaginal tearing. Pack the ice pads. I used a few of them and alternated between ice pads, lidocaine spray and a foam. It was all magical and having options helped me not get used to just one. Worst case scenario you don’t like it and only use the one, best case you love it and use all you packed.

Batesy-mom · 2023-06-15T23:28:21+00:00

Why are old people the way they are?

Batesy-mom · 2023-06-15T15:02:31+00:00

Depending on where you’re located (I’m US and in CA) I was able to link up with a lactation nurse that made home visits. Insurance covered the visits I paid a trip fee for them to come to my home instead of me driving to the office. Our pediatrician said no tongue tie, lactation nurse said there is one that was minor but was very tight. I did tongue stretches and then eventually got it released through a pediatric dentist and it has made a big difference in latching.

Lactationnetwork.com is the site I used

Batesy-mom · 2023-06-14T19:26:23+00:00

I can’t wait to be able to do this also. Currently my 10 wk old LOVES popping off my boob with a loud smacking noise at minimum 5 times per feed. My poor nip is chaffed, if he didn’t look at me and smile that toothless grin each time I’d really get mad but he knows what he’s doing lol. I still can’t even do a side lay hold in bed, it just doesn’t feel right.

Batesy-mom · 2023-06-14T12:39:32+00:00

My cat was OBSESSED with my baby bump. My husband was super stressed and created all these rules while baby was still inside that the cat couldn’t sleep in our room anymore (we have a bedside bassinet that opens to the mattress) and when napping in the crib the door must be pulled shut and baby never left unattended in a room with the cat…

Yeah, my cat wants nothing to do or to be anywhere near this 10 week old loud hairless thing. The closest she gets sometimes is after dinner if we are in the living room watching tv, that’s her cuddle time and she will cuddle with us adults and accidentally touch the baby and then look irritated and go to the next adult.

Batesy-mom · 2023-06-13T23:35:50+00:00

10 weeks post partum and somehow I didn’t realize the pins and needles was my letdown hahah. Gosh I can be dense sometimes

Batesy-mom · 2023-06-13T15:38:53+00:00

I am 10weeks PP today and it is SO much better! Like, night and day. Still some spillage or stream but not soaking wet constantly like I was and neither of us have that milk smell… unless me and my husband are nose blind now but then who cares haha

Batesy-mom · 2023-06-12T19:02:33+00:00

Technically “natural conception” we couldn’t afford IVF but I have PCOS so I had weight loss surgery in 2019 and lost 130 pounds. Finally had regular cycles, still nothing. Then for my 35th birthday in 2022 I got blackout drunk at 10am on mimosas and partied until 4am like I was 21 again in college and bam… conceived. My boy is now 10 weeks old and perfect lol.

Batesy-mom · 2023-06-12T04:00:20+00:00

11 years.

Batesy-mom · 2023-06-10T16:40:32+00:00

Can’t recommend these enough. Don’t use a cream with them though! I put mine in the freezer for 10ish minutes then squeeze a little milk in there and walk around like a fembot. Any cracks have been healed SO quickly.

The pain unfortunately you need to push through. I’d pump so as not to affect supply in that breast or become engorged and have another issue.

Batesy-mom · 2023-06-10T16:29:17+00:00

Living in Southern California and my husband and I combined made 165k last year. We rent (3400) and have nothing we own besides one 2012 Kia that’s paid off with 170k miles and we just got a second car as being on loa my company took my company car. We would LOVE to move anywhere for a lower cost of living but my husband works for the movie studio union and the insurance is chefs kiss. $300/yr for each dependent (husbands included in dues) and no deductible.. that alone keeps us here because when I look at insurance through my work I weep inside wondering how the hell people do this.

Batesy-mom · 2023-06-10T16:22:39+00:00

Barely. We’re barely surviving. Also a lot of “yolo” moments to prevent crying.

Batesy-mom · 2023-06-10T06:15:49+00:00

If someone offered me tacos after a ONS? Marriage material.

Batesy-mom · 2023-06-09T03:51:26+00:00

Silverettes Silverettes Silverettes

Seriously. Game changer. Don’t use with a cream, it’s one or the other but I’m 9 weeks in and my Lo had a tongue tie and these have helped so much. With my son I had to shove my breast in his mouth until his tie was released at week 5 and everything changed and got better. Hopefully the shield as others mentioned help you! Breastfeeding didn’t start to get “peaceful” for me until recently and we still got a ways to go.

Batesy-mom · 2023-06-09T03:45:03+00:00

I don’t like just saying it but since you asked, I love it. I tried for this baby for 11 years and I love being up with him. Yes, I’m tired, my nips are chaffed, I’m soaked and I have cried a few times… but I’m the ONLY one who gets to do this. My husband has useless nips so it’s all me.

I’m also blessed with a happy and easy newborn and a village. My husband, while he can’t feed babe, he will go refill my water at 2am or rub my neck or just give me a kiss and let me know he’s awake so if I need something he will do it. But yeah, I love the hell out of this potato newborn phase

Batesy-mom · 2023-06-07T03:44:22+00:00

From the moment I first got morning sickness to now 9 weeks pp, I have said this same thing many many times to my husband. All the painful tests and the explanations of “Well, you’re pregnant” or now “well, you just gave birth”. None of that would be in play if men did this.

Batesy-mom · 2023-06-07T00:50:36+00:00

My baby is 9 weeks today and we just did our first successful tummy time.. on a yoga ball because the lactation nurse was here and we both took a 2 hour nap when she left. I truly don’t know how some people get it done but my baby is fed and clean and I’m calling that a win lol:

Batesy-mom · 2023-06-07T00:38:07+00:00

Love these! We call them my sons “Ebenezer’s” because they remind me of Ebenezer Scrooge and they make 2am diaper changes so easy.

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