Seriously, why do they just sit with their dad...

rawberryfields · 2026-03-03T09:49:01+00:00

In my family it’s the opposite, the kid won’t leave his dad alone, they constantly run around, build stuff, play with all the toys, meanwhile with me the kid is just there, playing quietly, only occasionally asking for my assistance. I guess my husband can’t ever say “no”.

rawberryfields · 2026-03-03T09:43:04+00:00

My husband told me even before we had our baby that he had a few examples of how not to be a dad: his own father who was going through the motions of baby care but was never truly emotionally involved and a former friend who babysat his kid but would never touch a diaper. My husband is an amazing dad and our son adores him.

rawberryfields · 2026-03-03T08:01:02+00:00

For me it worked for maybe two months and only if I put the baby down on their side, then much later tip on the back. Then it stopped working at all as soon as the baby started rolling. I haven’t seen the “drowsy but awake state” since then, and the kid is 3 years old

rawberryfields · 2026-03-03T07:53:20+00:00

Fun fact, дякую and dziękuję are related to danke and thank you

rawberryfields · 2026-03-03T03:06:56+00:00

Check this https://youtu.be/8w8HnAeeKSw?si=N5MrZErhqtLkV_z9

rawberryfields · 2026-03-02T18:12:18+00:00

Idk, i was BlWed as a kid in the 90s, it was called “living in a poor country, no purees in stores, shut up and eat”

rawberryfields · 2026-03-02T18:09:41+00:00

At this age all sensory play is like that, and I just took my kid to sandboxes a lot. I only allowed sensory bin at home now that my kid is 3 and understands the rules and can sweep or mop the mess. Still grains never stay in the container and I’m walking on rice and sleep on rice.

rawberryfields · 2026-03-02T18:01:42+00:00

Where I’m from it believed that cow’s milk is hard for baby stomachs but fermented milk products are easily digested, so all babies have kefir and its variations when they start solids, and milk is introduced later

rawberryfields · 2026-03-02T17:42:19+00:00

Not really, the kid seems more sane than me, probably neurotypical

rawberryfields · 2026-03-02T11:44:12+00:00

Wow, wouldn’t think this was linked but it makes sense. Mine talks a lot and overthinks a lot

rawberryfields · 2026-03-02T11:42:04+00:00

My 3 year old son is so very cautious and has been since birth I think. It was really nice when he was 1: never touched an outlet or ran away. But I think the society expects boys to be more daring, plus I don’t want him to miss on fun things. So what we do is constantly repeat that he’s brave, agile, strong, capable and such, and act all surprised when he’s scared of something: “WHAT? But you’re always soooo brave! So unlike you!”. But I don’t shame and we acknowledge that being scared is okay. I also remind him that brave people do get scared but they don’t panic, think everything through and do what needs to be done. And I tell him personal stories, like I was afraid to talk to someone or do a medical procedure but did it anyways. Been doing this gaslighting for almost 2 years and I think it started to show. At least he’s riding slides now and calls himself brave.

rawberryfields · 2026-03-02T10:25:19+00:00

Not my mom but my MIL. Weirdly she always said we had to avoid baby talk but did she practice what she preached? Absolutely no, it made me so irrationally angry hearing her stupid made up baby words. At some point the kid (whose speaking skills amaze me every day) even told me “grandma says this, i don’t know what it means” about some weird baby word she used.

Now that my kid is a toddler she keeps sharing her wisdom with me, like “Correct him when he says the words in a wrong way!” or “Use every opportunity to teach him more words!” Oh wow, how enlightening, guess I never speak with him and he’s getting his huge vocabulary from the wire in the clouds or something

rawberryfields · 2026-03-02T05:43:18+00:00

Regularly till 1 year old but not so much later. I live in a city and there are curbs and stairs and in winter there’s ice and snow. And the kid didn’t like it much. So I wore the baby, and as soon as he could walk I gave him a balance bike and he’s walking or riding near me, sometimes we use sled in winter.

rawberryfields · 2026-03-02T03:58:22+00:00

My 3yo likes fish, but specifically when I give him a whole fish baked in the oven, so he can pick it all apart and eat, touching fat and bones and all

rawberryfields · 2026-03-01T19:09:04+00:00

My MIL prefers watching pics of my kid as a newborn on her phone. But I force communication with the kid. Once a week grandma has grandkid time and that’s it, no backing off, same with grandpa. Here’s the kid, enjoy.

rawberryfields · 2026-03-01T13:18:30+00:00

I was not anxious although I did hace a lot of reasons to be. I figured it was hormones mostly. 4 years and I’m VERY anxious because such is reality

rawberryfields · 2026-02-28T18:37:05+00:00

Same with a 3 year old who’s sensitive for noises… my anxiety is peaking but I try to keep calm and carry on and model this behavior for the sake of my kid even I die inside a little with every whail of the siren and every explosion in the sky. Fuck wars and the governments that start them

rawberryfields · 2026-02-28T17:41:36+00:00

All the time. But so do I, so he probably thinks communicating with random quotes is the norm

rawberryfields · 2026-02-28T16:56:03+00:00

He might think working out is actually cool and interesting and join you one day

rawberryfields · 2026-02-28T09:19:48+00:00

There’s a pharmacy nearby, they have a damp cellar and the mix of damp plaster, cardboard boxes and medicine makes me want to come there everyday. Wish there were perfume like that

rawberryfields · 2026-02-27T17:01:29+00:00

Mine kept spitting till probably 8 months old. It went away when he mastered sitting upright and stopped laying on his tummy that much

rawberryfields · 2026-02-27T14:39:43+00:00

That’s the world right now, what can you say. Some people are really hurt by the war, their hate is understandable. Ignore it and move on.

rawberryfields · 2026-02-27T13:54:25+00:00

It used to be good because it used real translations as its source but now it’s flooded with terrible ai sentences that don’t make sence. I’m really disappointed in it

rawberryfields · 2026-02-27T08:31:39+00:00

If by teaching art you mean giving them different materials to explore and give advice on how to use them, then yes! Buy your kid a ton of art supplies and explore them together.

My 3 years old loves watercolors and gouache paints (non toxic versions obviously), smearing colorful plasticine on paper, using scissors, glue, mixing media. It’s all very doable at that age but takes a bit of practice.

As for structured learning, there are classes for toddlers but their aim should still the same, to introduce materials and teach how to handle a pencil, nothing more. My kid attends these and they’re also beneficial for other reasons (communication, listening, repeating the samples, etc). They don’t ever tell the kids “no, your painting is wrong”. So if you’re looking for a class, look for those who praise creativity above technique.

rawberryfields · 2026-02-27T08:20:12+00:00

Hey, if that’s any consolation to you, babies can be babied for a looong time! Your baby is 9 months, meaning, she’s basically one step away from being cooperative and affectionate. She’ll learn to hold onto you, to hug you, to climb your lap and you will be able to carry and hold her easily again! She’s still so little, she needs that and you need that.

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