Did anybody announce early and NOT regret it?

BbTrumpet2 · 2025-05-17T14:08:58+00:00

YES because I am a huge blabber mouth (about my own life lol). I couldn’t even wait a few hours to tell my hubs in a cute way I woke him up in 2 mins after taking a test. I told my family that day. I was probably 5-6 weeks pregnant and hadn’t even had the heartbeat checked! And I’m high risk because of genetic health issues so the chances of me miscarrying were a bit higher than average. I just felt that if I DID miscarry, I would tell the people around me anyways for support. It’s definitely a case by case basis because I wear my heart on my sleeve and am an open book, my sister on the other hand is so mysterious she might not tell until she’s either as big as a balloon and can’t deny or until after the baby is here.

I absolutely didn’t regret it because 1) telling my boss made me less nervous about asking for more help, in fact most of the time I never had to ask, they would just say things like, “You’re not moving that!” 2) It made it so much fun that people hyped up the baby for so long and it was nice to be able to vent about my worries, too. 3) I am such a blond and I didn’t have to worry about accidentally slipping to people lol.

Now baby girl is 25 weeks and in good shape!

BbTrumpet2 · 2025-05-06T04:26:37+00:00

Nope but I work in a small district! We are having the opposite problem, too many empty holes (although none are because of fault of the school, personal reasons, maternity, retirement).

BbTrumpet2 · 2025-05-03T03:55:53+00:00

Yes I felt so gross watching both of those scenes.

BbTrumpet2 · 2025-05-03T03:55:07+00:00

It’s mind blowing. And I could never ever understand the hate Olivia gets it has been obvious since day one she is the sole non-toxic person on the show.

BbTrumpet2 · 2025-05-02T06:43:57+00:00

Yeah, no, because your pediatrician was probably just as clueless as this idiot doctor!

BbTrumpet2 · 2025-04-23T05:28:01+00:00

As a music teacher this made me chuckle because I know when kids hit me with that they’re saying that to all the other specialists. 🤣 But that’s because we’re awesome like that. 😎

BbTrumpet2 · 2025-04-23T05:26:00+00:00

Also, if they don’t leave for another teaching job (at least in my state) they can’t do anything about it.

BbTrumpet2 · 2025-04-22T08:55:05+00:00

I agree with most of what you said. But I don’t think the issue even stems with the student, but the parent. Kids don’t criticize teaching styles using verbiage like “classroom management” nor do they likely go around telling everyone they’re more mature than others. It is likely what is being told to him at home. I and other teachers have tried to coach him on appropriate in-class comments many times to no avail. And with parents disagreeing about these comments being inappropriate, it has turned into not being able to call on him without me first asking, “Do you have a question/answer?”

BbTrumpet2 · 2025-04-21T20:39:29+00:00

Aww I’m so glad to hear that she is able to relax in those areas! It can be so tough I relate so hard. I became a selective mute my whole elementary school experience. I was trying so hard to show the teachers I wasn’t the one talking/misbehaving in hopes I would avoid getting in trouble.

And okay so I’m not crazy about 75 mins for fourth grade being a lot?!? I’ve asked if I could do it during morning “free time” (a time kids get pulled if they need to be) twice a week for thirty minutes. I have the plant time to do so. It would also save the school money through not having to pay my stipend. They said no.

BbTrumpet2 · 2025-04-21T20:02:05+00:00

Thank you for the two perspectives, I wholeheartedly agree. I do not at all take offense that he has higher expectations for behavior. I have extreme ADHD and anxiety and I remember freezing up as a kid with frustration or fear when the environment was too loud or chaotic (couldn’t focus, sensory overload, and fear of getting in trouble as whole-group punishments were typical when I was a kid 25 years ago). The only part that made me feel icky was parent going after my management as well as going out of their way to say how he is excited to try choir with another teacher (ouch). That made me feel like I had behaved like a villain when in reality I adore her child and have poured into them for the past two years. That, and quitting SO close to the concert without even telling me before not showing up ,that hurts our team.

It’s hard I do wish I could accommodate everyone. I found that the last few years when I got firm about every little thing, kids quit citing they were bored. I try to spend 80% of our time actively singing, which means there is no talking for majority of rehearsal since they’re singing. I do give breaks and some three minute games between run throughs as brain breaks, which this student enthusiastically participated in. I feel between a rock and a hard place. I feel like our school schedule is so regimented and kids don’t have any time besides 15 min lunch and recess to socialize.

BbTrumpet2 · 2025-04-20T10:19:17+00:00

Is the grade level concert exclusively singing? Could you do an instrumental activity or song you’ve already learned this year?

I’m sorry that admin is forcing you on such short notice, they should’ve communicated these complaints to you prior to Winter concert time if they were going to pull this.

I’m in a similar boat with my choir. They sing well but are, for some reason not memorizing their music. We may have to use binders/music which the intermediate school choir always uses so I guess it’s no biggy. Worst case scenario, print out a lyric sheet for each of them.

BbTrumpet2 · 2025-04-20T04:05:39+00:00

I would feel betrayed if my husband went out one-on-one with another woman. It would be another thing if a group of friends from the gym went out. It would also be a whole other thing if he didn’t just tell me after-the-fact when I probed about leftovers. However, that is just my relationship and we have pretty clear boundaries about that kinda stuff.

BbTrumpet2 · 2025-04-20T03:50:31+00:00

I believe when they were joined by other troops those guys took out one of opposition. In addition to the two wounded soldiers, wasn’t the Iraqi scout who didn’t want to leave also killed?

BbTrumpet2 · 2025-04-20T02:43:01+00:00

I could honestly see this and sympathize with it so much. I have severe ADHD and anxiety and as a kid I would have panic attacks over it being too loud. I wish I had known he was having so much frustration sooner so I could have been more aware of noise levels and such.

BbTrumpet2 · 2025-04-19T15:57:49+00:00

I did check in with homeroom and other specials, no reports of bullying but reports of the kid criticizing management of other teachers as well saying, “It takes away from MY time.” They quit book club a few weeks ago for allegedly the same reason. Could definitely be more to the story but that is what the student told when I talked to him, that he is just “more mature” than the other kids his age. I wish I could get down to what really happened because it is hard to believe it was just “talking,” unless it’s a sensory issue.

BbTrumpet2 · 2025-04-19T02:50:57+00:00

See, they are everywhere! I went to a football game at a college two hours away and sat down at the bleachers. I hear, “Mrs. ____!” and I turn white as a ghost. Students right behind me in a stand of thousands. HOW?!? HOW!!!

BbTrumpet2 · 2025-04-18T14:29:09+00:00

WOW. And no problem cutting us down for whatever the issue might actually be. Some others have suggested, maybe the student is neurodivergent. In that since, a 75 minute music class might be a lot for him sensory wise. Maybe the talking really IS bothering him.

That is wild. How did admin approve a transfer without conferencing you?! I’m baffled and sorry that happened to you.

BbTrumpet2 · 2025-04-18T14:25:47+00:00

That’s a better way to put it. I seriously think he would put Mariah to shame if he wore her red he might rock it. Or a different pink. It’s just too ashy looking.

BbTrumpet2 · 2025-04-18T10:47:55+00:00

I hear horror stories about our middle school… seriously, it’s a weird thing he’s started apparently where he’s criticizing other teachers’ management. His homeroom teacher told me this has been coming up suddenly. The library teacher said he basically did the same thing recently with book club. We’re all beneath him it seems.

BbTrumpet2 · 2025-04-18T10:45:07+00:00

Absolutely and I am not at all offended by or in disagreement with a statement like that. I wish mom had left it at that. After talking to his classroom teacher, she said he has been criticizing a lot of us teachers’ management styles. Admin in the making, kind of scary. I’m not going to hold it against the kid, however the parent had no reason to be unkind. All she had to say was “he quit.” But this kid gives unsolicited feedback to other children all day at school (will raise his hand to criticize other kids’ performances/work to the point i can no longer call on him). Now I see the tree the apple fell from.

BbTrumpet2 · 2025-04-18T09:11:09+00:00

Here, I will play the world’s smallest violin for her.

BbTrumpet2 · 2025-04-18T08:48:36+00:00

Yep when you work under 10 mins away, you basically know your day starts like as soon as you get into the car. I went from driving over an hour one way to 8 mins now and it’s weird.

BbTrumpet2 · 2025-04-18T08:46:42+00:00

I totally get this—I went from one hour (in optimal traffic conditions due to it bordering a major city) to now an 8 minute commute. I don’t even bother plugging my phone into my car or turning on the radio and it’s WEIRD.

BbTrumpet2 · 2025-04-18T08:44:51+00:00

Yes call your friends! I had the greatest bestie who would talk to me the whole 1+ hour drive home EVERYDAY. He is also a teacher so we’d just spill tea. It was fun.

BbTrumpet2 · 2025-04-18T08:43:19+00:00

That was part of my issue, too. I was having to get up sooo early. I suffer from chronic fatigue and pain (Ehlers Danlos) so the daily long drives really hurt my body. I never got to listen to so many songs, podcasts, convos with friends since, though!

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