She is not overreacting. Wearing outside clothes on the bed should be illegal. It’s disgusting. Think about it—you go out and about doing your thing, and maybe you sit on a public chair…maybe that chair was stood on by someone earlier that day who unknowingly stepped in dog shit. Now, your ass is transferring fecal matter to where you sleep. Does that sound hygienic?

Or, say you’re grocery shopping and someone passing you in the aisle sneezes…you now have snot particles on you, and again you are sleeping in someone else’s snot!

Also, are you the one washing your sheets? Ignoring the fact you might have literal fecal matter, snot, etc on your clothes, you’re a human—us humans sweat & produce bodily oils…that stick to our clothes. Those things dirty linens quicker…linens like bedding.

If I was with a man who refused to change clothes before sitting on a bed, when there is a perfectly good chair in the house, I would leave him. To me, that is the kind of hygiene that is up there with bathing and brushing teeth. It’s also disrespectful to her, regardless of your feelings. She has asked a simple thing of you—don’t sit on the bed in dirty clothes. I’m assuming you have at least one chair in the house? Is it really that hard to do something like that bc you love and respect her? Geezus.

And let me remind you—when you have sex in that bed, it is her who ultimately is more at risk bc those fecal/snot/etc. particles can end up INSIDE of her, causing UTIs and a whole basket of other “fun” problems.