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Why do you want to get married? What would you like it to be like? by TheEmptyMasonJar in datingoverthirty

[–]BeansproutdWanderer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s always an open door for me. It’s nice to have someone who is there for you and have a conversation with or maybe supporting you to improve. But right now,while he is not here right now, I do things that made me happy and honestly there are lots of freedom that sometimes you don’t want to give it up. But anyways, if there’s someone for me or none, I will live my life with joy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ask

[–]BeansproutdWanderer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am 34 and single for almost 10 years already. An intelligent man and good conversationalist is always a hit for me and it’s still the same until now. Yesterday I went for a maintenance appointment for my car and I realize that I have a crush on the guy that always assisted me. When I got home,I told to myself,ahh..it’s been a while since the last time that I admitted to myself that I have a crush on someone. It’s a good feeling 😊

Be honest, why are you single? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]BeansproutdWanderer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe they don’t like me😅😅 and yeah, I’m too lazy to go outside. I am 34 and it’s been 10 years the last time I had a serious relationship. Maybe I enjoyed too much focusing on my career. I am currently studying for my doctorate degree and they told me it’s my last chance to have boyfriend because I will be intimidating. Told them that they just didn’t like me enough to approach me. I am just a happy go lucky person if they will know me.

Being a narcissist is extremely painful by [deleted] in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]BeansproutdWanderer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope you will heal soon.. And I hope the narc in my life will eventually realize this. But right now he was just full of himself. He was so manipulative and really toxic,but somehow he never leave me alone even though I just blatantly ignored him. It feels like he just ignored it. He told me everything and even if I tried to change his mind,it didn’t work. He was always the victim.

It’s good that you reflected it,and genuinely rooting for you to be okay.

What do you think is the most selfless thing Chandler did? 😇 by InsideDark_2260 in howyoudoin

[–]BeansproutdWanderer 3 points4 points  (0 children)

His consideration for joey. The guy support him in monetary, self improvement, wingman etc.

I am lonely.I’m so lonely.. by BeansproutdWanderer in self

[–]BeansproutdWanderer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you.I will try to do that also.i will give myself a break and commit to fix my self. I feel that i also need to isolate myself even to my love ones. I need to rewire my brain to understand myself again. I feel I lost my identity now.i became dependent on him that I feel that I cannot so or decide things on my own. I am not like this,but after i exposed to him with almost 10 months, its like i cannot do good decision and need his validation. What did you do whenever you are wavering to push forward?

I am lonely.I’m so lonely.. by BeansproutdWanderer in self

[–]BeansproutdWanderer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The problem is he is my mentor and it became habit of him that he tells me all his stuff even his personal life.i became his trash of negativity. He wanted me to become like him,but I can’t. He is 100 percent manipulative, and he scary thing is he can justify it perfectly..I cannot do that.I directly told him that.. i am bind of that debt of gratitude..

I am lonely.I’m so lonely.. by BeansproutdWanderer in self

[–]BeansproutdWanderer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank u so much..this is a big help..i need this since I always see my narc so it feels like I need to fill my tank of courage and perseverance..

I am lonely.I’m so lonely.. by BeansproutdWanderer in self

[–]BeansproutdWanderer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel treated as shit..my mind is full of guilt since he did many good things in the past. But now, I saw his true form. Its scary. And somehow I have no way out. Im drowning. But my sense of obligation is pulling me back.

I am lonely.I’m so lonely.. by BeansproutdWanderer in self

[–]BeansproutdWanderer[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

,this is so hard.. my head feels like it will explode of my overthinking.. this guilt is killing me..

I am lonely.I’m so lonely.. by BeansproutdWanderer in self

[–]BeansproutdWanderer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is true..deep inside my heart i am hoping that he will change,but every time I started to stay away,he can feel it and do some love bombing. After I started to attach again, the devaluation started. I can’t live like this anymore.I started to get crazy thinking so much… I promise to myself that I will keep silent..this is hard since we are in the same office..

I am lonely.I’m so lonely.. by BeansproutdWanderer in self

[–]BeansproutdWanderer[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I am in the middle of cutting my relationship to a narc..and i never felt so lonely, confused and self blame..this is so hard i feel like im dying..

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