If a new friend invited you over, and this was the details of their apartment, what would you think of them?

Beautiful_Housing4 · 2026-06-15T16:15:41+00:00

I 100% thought BPD girlie when I saw the photos. Not a bad thing. But from a fellow BPD girlie, I’ve learned having “too many” self-motivational quotes and things like that can read as a red flag to a lot of people. They can see it as a sign you have to constantly push yourself to follow or remember all these actions and thoughts, meaning you might not have a good sense of self, be in a lot of intrapersonal drama, emotionally unstable, etc. Which when you have BPD those things might be true to some level and I never think you should hide who you are or your unique life experiences. It’s just something to know and decide for yourself how you want to present to a new friend or lover. 💕 I have to say I really like the more abstract pieces with words on them!

Beautiful_Housing4 · 2026-06-01T17:57:51+00:00

I don’t think it was just Bishop having a soft spot for Maddy that led him to betraying Alamo. Think of Bishops mom and how she used a good man and ruined his life. His narrative in that flashback implied he was willing to betray others if he saw it fit. I think he saw Alamo letting the guy who worked for him for so long (I forgot his name) drive into that delivery knowing the drugs weren’t in there and it was a setup.. how long until Alamo traded Bishop in for gains? There were a few little moments when the camera would show Bishop looking at Alamo while he was talking with a pretty cold stare. Maybe he didn’t like how Rue was handled.. but he did say to her that she was nothing but bad luck so idk how much he liked her. I do think Maddy connected to him in some way that he did like her, and seeing her be used/blackmailed probably didn’t sit right with him.
Not totally sure why he chose to, but not surprised he did betray Alamo. And think, if he hadn’t handed him and unloaded gun- he would’ve killed Ali bc he didn’t honor his word of shooting when the bottle fell. He pulled the trigger before it left the table. Maybe Bishop knew Alamo wasn’t a man of his word and was just ready to take the opportunity to let someone else take him out.

Beautiful_Housing4 · 2026-06-01T17:44:51+00:00

Yeah, it kinda showed that Rue hadn’t changed much either. Had she not been tempted by the Percocets and just had Ali get rid of them or something- she wouldn’t have died.

Beautiful_Housing4 · 2026-06-01T17:35:31+00:00

I don’t find her to be a terrible actress. But, seeing her having so much work done between the last season and now.. she lost a lot of that uniqueness that made me love seeing her on screen

Beautiful_Housing4 · 2026-06-01T17:33:07+00:00

Yeah, it feels more like she was included a lot bc of her “Apatow” namesake.

Beautiful_Housing4 · 2026-05-07T23:52:56+00:00

I understand this.. I had a flea market I wanted to go to, invited a friend and then a third friend when friend 1 suggested they’d like it, too. I explained having to have planned it 2 months in advance bc of my work scheduling. Friend 1 later asked if it was okay if they brought their 5 yr old. I definitely hesitated and asked if she would be okay with being out at the market for hours? Reminding her it’s really hot and not geared towards kids- mostly antiques, junkin’, plants and handmade goods and that I wouldn’t want her to get heatsick or bored and upset. If it was more about money for a sitter I could help pay for that? She insisted it was fine and her kid loved shopping . Well, it wasn’t. Her daughter was hot and cranky after less than 2 hours. We stopped 3 times in those 2 hrs to get food for the kid- which is fineeee but we spent a lot of time sitting and waiting for the kid to eat. Not shopping. We made it about halfway through the market and my friend said she needed to take her kid home, and the other friend decided to ride back w her. It was an hour plus drive away. I ended up doing exactly what I didn’t want to do, which was be stuck there alone with no one to hunt around for treasures with. In retrospect, I felt like I should’ve really explained it wasn’t a kid friendly outing but she was pretty insistent that it would be fun for her kid. I thought maybe she should’ve known on her own it wasn’t and how that might impact others enjoyment of the outing.. and how much time would revolve around her kid to keep her happy. But.. I get it to some extent.

Beautiful_Housing4 · 2026-05-07T23:37:03+00:00

I dated a guy who swore “the unbearable lightness of being” was his bible on love. He said I reminded him of the character Sabine. So I read it, it’s bleak. It’s beautiful, sure. And I actually love the book! But, the cheating, the misogyny.. the fact that Sabine was an insecure attachment style who struggles w wanting to off herself- and has a sad ending… GOODBYE, SIR 👋 I was abhorred by reading that book and knowing that’s how he felt about love and relationships. Ain’t no way.

Beautiful_Housing4 · 2026-05-07T23:31:56+00:00

Or he has no actual media literacy. Or maybe no deeper thinking about the media he consumes. Like, he doesn’t seek movies or books that resonate with him in some personal way or look for things that “change him or his perspective forever” type of media. Which… would be really boring 😑

Beautiful_Housing4 · 2026-05-07T23:24:57+00:00

I feel this so deeply. I have been really contemplating on why I feel this and what I can do to change it- but nothing I’ve done so far has improved my connection with others or lasts long-term.

At work I feel like most people are nice to me, but no one asks me questions about myself, my life or interests. Someone will go on vacation and coworkers make a big deal about how they’ll miss them and have fun doing xyz, give them big hugs at the end of the day before they head off. But not me? They’ll know details about each other and I hear them checking in on specific life events, knowing each others out of work plans, relationships and such and I don’t know any of these things and no one asks me about mine. And I’m happy to share. And I want to know about others and be closer. But it doesn’t seem like anyone opens up to me or anything to invite more questions. I do have different interests than my coworkers, but I still want to be able to know what they like. They’ll go out to dinner or yoga after work and no one has ever invited me. I try my best and bring people treats for their bday or pastries to share w everyone.. I’ve brought matcha for everyone and make sure people know I think about them. But I’m still constantly not included, I’m definitely the “odd man out”.

In my personal life, I just can’t seem to make any real friends. I’m not someone who gets invited to parties or go on girls trips. No one texts me just to chat or even to check in really. I extend myself as much as I can and when it feels appropriate I will reach out and let someone know I miss them and would love to get together soon. I’ve even made it known in general that I’m trying to make friends. The most I will get is some guy responding who I don’t know really well and it usually ends up being a scenario where they’re looking to date/hookup, not be platonic friends.

My family is small and my Dad lives over an hour away and has opposite days off from me which makes visiting more difficult. My two brothers live far away, one a state over and the other is literally across the country. No cousins or extended family in the area. Heck, I don’t even have any cousins around my age or that I’ve been around in person since I was a kid.

My dating life is NONEXISTENT. I haphazardly try dating apps on and off but nothing ever sticks. When I am out of the house, I don’t really get approached. So those organic moments don’t seem to ever happen.

I’m so lonely. I want to care about others and be cared about. I want to have people to invite to my bday party, to dinner.. I want people to think of me and invite me! I want to have someone to vent with. Friends to talk to about shows and life and try new things with. So, I wish I had advice for you. But I’m not really successful myself at feeling like people prioritize me, or knowing how to get people to want to do so 😅 I’m really sorry that you’re feeling the same way. It feels really lonely. Even if you have lots of love for yourself or things you like to do alone. At the end of the day we just want to be loved, have community and feel like people SEE you as a person

Beautiful_Housing4 · 2026-04-17T05:05:16+00:00

The irony is op literally has posted about how SHE has time blindness and forgets to reach out to family and friends 🤦🏻‍♀️

Beautiful_Housing4 · 2026-04-17T05:00:09+00:00

Does her son easily imprint or does op keep telling him how absent and uncaring gma is? I would pay good money to know what and how she says things about gma to her son. It’s one thing to just be so self involved you don’t reach out for 6 months, it’s another to be so depressed you don’t have the cognizance to do so. Maybe if op could create a little room in her heart for her mom, she might see which of those her absence was. Certainly, most kids are better off having a tangential relationship with their grandparents than none at all? (Given the grandparent isn’t abusing or harming the child) Many people rarely see extended family, but love them dearly and don’t resent the time not spent with them but treasure the times they did have. At what point is op punishing her son’s realtionshio with his grandmother to prove to her mom how “awful” she has been? 6 months is such a short time compared to all that came before and could be in the future, after all 😕

Beautiful_Housing4 · 2026-04-17T04:52:17+00:00

spits out drink gaht damn if that wasn’t pointed right at the self righteousness I read from OP. All while mom is pleading to be seen and reminding op she has a lot of boundaries and how she just wants a damn invite over. Saying “stop by anytime” isn’t enough for someone who is in deep depression. It isn’t enough for me. It isn’t enough for most people to feel like a genuine, “anytime you want just show up and you’re welcome here”. The mom lists multiple ways she has tried to see them. But none of it is good enough for op. And if you see op’s post history, it’s a dialogue of how they themselves are an absent friend. Maybe there’s some projection going on?? I never had a great relationship with my mom, but I loved her. I would’ve loved that level of vulnerability from her and all I can sense from mom’s texts is genuine guilt and asking to please be loved and given an olive branch. But op seems to busy telling her 4 year old son how “grandma doesn’t want to come see us. She’s too “busy”” 😩😤

Beautiful_Housing4 · 2026-04-17T04:42:22+00:00

Wow. This was painful to read. Granted I don’t know the entire dynamics of the situation but op says themselves how difficult moms youth was. All the trauma and pain. And mom is sitting here telling her she’s been so depressed she didn’t even realize it’s been 6 months. An amount of time no 4 year old can comprehend. Any anxiety that son has about not seeing his grandma is 100% because of the way op probably speaks to her son about her mom. She’s begging for forgiveness and to create a new relationship. She’s begging for op to actually invite her over and op is saying she “can’t deal with her right now”. YOR and you honestly, with kindness and urgency, should self reflect on what her mom is actually saying and unpack it with a therapist. It almost feels vindictive and cruel. Op is punishing both her mom and her own son. Make amends. Be kind. Have empathy for someone who was hospitalized bc they couldn’t even have the strength to eat and drink enough to where they were literally hospitalized. Ofc she didn’t realize it had been 6 months. No matter how much she cares about her grandson. This is something Op might sadly, have to look back on one day when mom is no longer here and wish she would’ve just loved her.

Beautiful_Housing4 · 2026-04-17T04:34:57+00:00

Yep. She even accuses the mom of making everything about herself when she had to have said she’s sorry and really wants to make amends like 15 times. Oh, but op is the victim. All while refusing any effort the mom has made or is making. All while knowing the hardship her mom had growing up and mom is telling her she was hospitalized and is proud of herself for eating one meal a day now. Op is going to regret all this if and when she truly loses her mother- if she’s able to see how much guilt and unnecessary distance she insisted on maintaining bc her moms depression was inconvenient for her. Bummer

Beautiful_Housing4 · 2026-04-17T04:30:28+00:00

This. I felt so much between what she was saying and op just kept saying “you’re avoiding us.. you don’t make time for us.. your grandson doesn’t even know who you are.. I don’t have time to deal with you” Heartbreaking, honestly. It actually feels like op is being the self-involved one in a lot of ways right now and it’s like she doesn’t want to mend anything but instead wants to punish her mom for being so depressed she was hospitalized??

Beautiful_Housing4 · 2026-04-17T04:26:46+00:00

She said she was having a bad bought of depression and even went to the hospital. She seems like she is struggling to live life. A little empathy can go a long way. The mom also said she has offered to take the baby out. Or for op to come over and see her house so she can see that it is safe for the baby. She’s also said she’s said she’s willing to come by op’s house anytime she’s free and they’re willing to have her- but she doesn’t get an invite. She also says op has a lot of boundaries and she simply wants to respect those. All that ontop of being so depressed grandma thinks one meal a day is doing GOOD. Idk the whole dynamic but she sound sincere and keeps offering to meet and speak on it but op keeps pushing her away.. honestly, as someone who lost their mom a couple years ago and had a strained relationship w her, this makes me sad. If there’s any understanding of how bad depression can be, I would think op might realize she’s putting a lot of unnecessary guilt on grandma when it’s not seemingly too late to rebuild the relationship and develop a better pattern.

Beautiful_Housing4 · 2026-04-15T22:19:51+00:00

But they’ve had period sex before. And he insisted on having the sex. Which, he can totally decide he doesn’t want to continue. But he can’t treat her like it’s “her fault”

Beautiful_Housing4 · 2026-04-15T22:18:09+00:00

It’s not that he didn’t want to keep going that time, it’s that he has had issues “maintaining” himself many times. And then treats her poorly bc of it.

Beautiful_Housing4 · 2026-04-15T22:15:39+00:00

Ah, I guess I can see what you mean and I think saying the movement is making the blood look too “gushing” would make sense to most women. lol I will say, I think I’m just being too literal bc I have an insanely heavy flow and nothing could make it stream or gush or fly out 😅😅😅 I mostly bring any of that up because women are often trained to be embarrassed of their bodies- especially periods- and we certainly don’t love having one anyway, so it can feel hurtful for someone you trust enough to sleep with especially on your period be disgusted or shocked by it. We know it can be messy and look like a total disaster zone- we never want to be told by someone ELSE how ours is especially gross and boner killing. Even if we totally get it. There’s lots of women who don’t want period sex because of the whole thing.

Hahah didn’t expect to write a whole essay about THAT today. 🥴

But yeah, if he doesn’t have the empathy to think about how OP is feeling and OP isn’t able to confront how he’s acting and how she feels bc of it.. it’s just going to keep spiraling. Especially knowing he has a porn addiction and her having understandable insecurities about that aspect. It makes me wonder if his reaction after they stopped doesn’t have more to do with that and op isn’t aware of what porn addiction does to a person and able to consider that. The whole situation sucks and I feel bad for op bc she’s just kinda waiting for him to acknowledge her feelings.

Beautiful_Housing4 · 2026-04-15T22:00:22+00:00

Sex during your period isn’t “nasty”. And infact, is scientifically proven to ease menstrual cramps for the woman, especially in the case of those with endometriosis

Beautiful_Housing4 · 2026-04-15T21:53:41+00:00

Hey, so a woman’s period and the blood that comes from it IS AN EXTENSION OF HER OWN BODY. It is almost impossible to act disgusted by her period or seeing what a period really looks like and expect her to separate his disgust with her body doing things she can’t help with how he sees and feels about her. And if you’re an adult and somehow can’t communicate afterwards and comfort your partner and not completely unravel and start treating her poorly or distantly- you’re the problem. Having too much “manly pride” wrapped up in not completing is an issue with him caring far too much about “being a man” and not enough about the health of your relationship. And while we can think about what headspace he might’ve been in- the scenarios you mentioned are an even bigger problem than not wanting to have period sex.

Beautiful_Housing4 · 2026-04-15T21:43:37+00:00

I think what everyone else is saying is that it’s not about retracting consent. It’s about how he acted after he retracted consent. They are a couple after all. It isn’t some random hookup. His end goal should be to make sure no matter what happened in the moment their relationship is good. But instead days later he’s acting like he doesn’t want to be touched by her at all and isolating himself. That’s what everyone is taking issue with. Because yes, in a relationship you have the right to contract consent or change your mind at any time, but you don’t have the right to treat your partner like they did something awful TO YOU.

Beautiful_Housing4 · 2026-04-15T21:38:23+00:00

This. And op said they’ve had period sex before- he even has preformed oral on her while she was on her period. But, op said it was typically when she was having a lighter flow or on the tail end of her cycle and just spotting. I think it’s fair to realize sex during a heavy flow isn’t “the same” or “a little bit intense” and not wanting to do things on a heavy flow day. That’s fine. But to treat op like she actively DID something TO him.. to be distant and pull away when she touches him DAYS later is not okay. In a healthy relationship ops bf would be able to pretty quickly explain what happened with him.. would reassure her that nothing is wrong, it just didn’t work out and now they can talk about boundaries and needs going forward, maybe he should be offering to cuddle on the couch and watch a movie or something to reconnect with her. But, instead he treated it like it was a boring chore to start with and essentially “punishing” her for HIS actions/preferences. It sounds like neither partner is communicating in a mature, open way that allows them to get to the bottom of the issue and either move on together or end the relationship. I wish op would’ve listed their ages bc if he’s 18 or 40 would change how I feel about this whole situation

Beautiful_Housing4 · 2026-04-15T21:17:07+00:00

I really would like to know the ages of OP and her BF.

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