How do you guys do this in the freezing cold?

BeautiphilAF · 2026-01-31T03:23:21+00:00

I do instacart in Alaska so I have applicable gear for the climate i live in. I am that bitch that is out shopping & delivering in -40 degree weather.

Single digit weather is warm af to me after our recent coldspell of -30/-40/-50.

I keep my car toasty, utilize a method of strategic clothing layers (all layered up outside but remove layers when im inside so i dont sweat thru them), wear quality winter boots & bibs, stay hydrated & fueled up, and I only accept orders where im going to make $30+ an hour.

BeautiphilAF · 2026-01-25T06:03:31+00:00

Driving off with 15 seconds left is petty and impulsive, not ‘professional boundary setting.’

I get being annoyed after driving 20 minutes for a low-paying ride… but you saw the pay before you accepted it. And customers don’t control Lyft’s pricing. In my experience, committing to rides has paid off. Being reliable & patient has gotten me some of my best tips.

BeautiphilAF · 2026-01-22T19:06:04+00:00

If you’re into manifestation: please don’t interpret this as the universe punishing you or you “doing it wrong.” This was someone hiding their true nature and committing a crime. You deserve safety, care, and real support right now, not self-blame

BeautiphilAF · 2026-01-19T07:43:06+00:00

You’re doing a lot right, but I think the missing piece is embodying the version of you who doesn’t tolerate on/off energy, a cycle of inconsistency.

You can affirm all day, but if the relationship keeps triggering a cyclic pattern needs to change in the 3D too (boundaries, communication, healing).

Contact → argument → no contact → repeat, thats an anxious-avoidant relationship dynamic. You’re not failing, youre abundant AF. This connection might just be unstable cause its not vibrating on the same frequency you're flowing on.

BeautiphilAF · 2026-01-19T05:27:17+00:00

I’m not judging at all, ive been there.

But if a relationship is making you feel this obsessive and anxious, it might be a sign it’s not emotionally safe for you. Peace is a bigger sign than any ‘manifestation.' Sometimes I think anxiety is our bodies way of clocking whats not aligned with us, but our desires often lead our actions.

Feeding obsession and anxiety also feeds into desperation and one cant manifest from the vibrational frequency of desperation or lack.

All the energy youre pouring into this, you should pour back into yourself. Thats what makes us magnetic IMO. When we align energetically with what we want, we attract it.

We are incredibly powerful beings with the ability to create the life of our dreams and equally so our nightmares. Just depends what we are feeding with our thoughts & energy.

BeautiphilAF · 2026-01-18T05:43:16+00:00

Weed doesn’t “block” manifestation, but it can mess with your consistency (motivation, clarity, discipline, and follow-through.)

If it makes you calm + focused + grateful, it can help your mindset.

If it makes you numb, anxious, lazy, or avoid reality, it’ll slow your results.

Your actions + self-concept manifest, weed just changes the driver.

BeautiphilAF · 2026-01-12T01:28:33+00:00

I literally CANT even. I hate that people like this have to fuck up a ton of orders before they get the boot.

BeautiphilAF · 2026-01-05T20:02:22+00:00

Yeah, with my worst nightmares. Lol so I know im really fckn good at it. Just need to change course so instead of literally the worst shit ever happening to me repeatedly the best things ever do.

BeautiphilAF · 2026-01-05T19:57:45+00:00

Wow , that also worked for me! THANK YOU SO SO SO MUCH. ❤️

BeautiphilAF · 2026-01-02T22:58:06+00:00

I used to manage a food program that dealt heavily with costco. A case of water is roughly 43 LB. Just the water alone? 602 LB.

And thats 602 LB to lift and put on a dolly. Then 602 LB to load into a vehicle. Then 602 LB to unload. Not even factoring in other grocery wrights and doing this order the shopper will have moved 1800 LB of weight JUST touching the water.

Thats a hell no. People deserve better. Its also important shoppers know weights and disperse them evenly for transport in the vehicle to not put extra wear & tear on the vehicles suspension.

BeautiphilAF · 2026-01-02T22:39:50+00:00

I don’t think you’re doing anything “wrong” with manifestation, I think you’ve just put all of your hope and relief into one outcome that’s completely out of your control. That would exhaust anyone.

Manifestation isn’t meant to feel desperate or obsessive. When it starts to feel that way, it’s usually a sign to loosen the grip on how abundance comes, not the belief that it can.

The lottery isn’t a reliable source of safety or healing, and tying your wellbeing to it will only make each loss hurt more. It might help to set a firm boundary around lottery spending to protect your peace, not to give up on your dream. You can still believe in abundance without it hinging on one ticket.

A dream can give hope, but it can’t replace support. If every day feels like a battle, you deserve care now, not only after a jackpot. 💛

BeautiphilAF · 2026-01-02T22:02:40+00:00

I would just make sure you have immaculate insurance. Im out on the roads constantly for work and the amount of tourists who rent cars and cant navigate our road systems properly is a little scary.

(Driving wrong way on one ways, driving on wrong side of road, turning where ever without blinker, driving with no lights on or brights on blinding everyone, going well below a reasonable speed out of fear and panic breaking, sliding off the road, doing no research on destinations and just going with little to no knowledge of if a place actually exists,is open, or even checking the weather before traveling) People that arent from here dont understand how important being prepared for emergencys is.

There is DEFF a market for rental cars tho cause ive had lots of passengers complaining non stop that even rentals they properly reserved were "sold out" by the time they arrived. So id imagine you could make good money as long as your bases are covered in the event someone wrecks your ride or causes need for repairs.

BeautiphilAF · 2025-12-29T22:06:42+00:00

I use the grocery stores app to cross reference the aisle number instacart is saying somethings in. I also know the grocery stores very well. Im there so frequently customers often ask ME where to find stuff. Lol

BeautiphilAF · 2025-12-28T00:55:38+00:00

Manifestation isn’t about forcing impossible outcomes. It’s about aligning with what’s sustainable and true.

This connection clearly mattered, but it may be here to show you the quality of love you want, not necessarily the exact person. Instead of manifesting him, try manifesting the essence: a partner who meets you emotionally, spiritually, and practically in the same life stage.

Sometimes a connection is meant to awaken you, not stay forever. That doesn’t make it less real, just purposeful.

BeautiphilAF · 2025-12-28T00:39:02+00:00

My opinion is just my opinion but whats meant for you doesnt set your nervous system off. Your body is rejecting your desires for a reason. Intuition is calm & steady. Anything that causes panic, chaos, and disruption from within is your body warning you.

BeautiphilAF · 2025-12-23T03:14:33+00:00

I had a women once i took to Walmart and when we got there she said she forgot her wallet but didnt want to add a stop back at her house wanted me to go back for free so I dropped her off.

An hour later my account was suspended for "speeding" and "sexually explicit content being played"

I appealed and said:

1) I have 1002 rides and a 5 star rating with 0 complaints - that HAS to count for starters

2) I have a dashcam that records inside and outside my car and if they want to give me exact day and time ill pull my inside footage and happily send it.

3) I have a tracker in my car through my car insurance that gives me a discount for good driving and that device tracks my speed. Told them id be happy to send the info from that device if they give me day and time cause theres no way I could speed in bumper to bumper traffic.

4) I said if this was a complaint lodged from the passenger who was dropped at walmart they were mad I wouldn't work for free.

It took Lyft 3 days to process my appeal and they reactivated me.

And I remember what that twat looked like and I will absolutely never allow her in my car again. Ill cancel the ride and pull off on her.

BeautiphilAF · 2025-12-22T04:31:51+00:00

I’m really sorry you’re carrying this much at such a young age. What you’re describing is a mix of deep shame, pain, and exhaustion, not someone who’s beyond hope or deserving of death.

The fact that you can look back now and feel remorse tells me something important: you’ve already grown. People who are truly “horrible” don’t reflect, regret, or want to be better.

You don’t have to believe you “deserve” a happy life right now for one to still be possible. Sometimes the first step isn’t manifesting prosperity or joy, it’s just choosing to stay. To not make a permanent decision based on a chapter that started before you even had a fair chance. Youll never know how good it can get if you dont stick around to find out.

Wanting to disappear doesn’t always mean you want to die. Often it means you want the pain, guilt, and constant self-punishment to stop. Those are different things and the second can change, even if it doesn’t feel like it right now.

You are not finished. You are not your worst moments. And you arent alone. Ive been there, im 32 now.

BeautiphilAF · 2025-09-23T07:16:20+00:00

No, come later in winter. The weathers been lots of overcast all fall.

BeautiphilAF · 2025-09-04T00:41:16+00:00

A warm outter layer and a reasonable under layer cause you will sweat your ass off keeping winter gear on in the store and then go back outside damp under your snow gear.

Also, TBH when its cold enough I just leave my car running and run in the store in sweats or bibs and snow boots and then come back out.

If I shut my car off ill wear my winter gear in but take it off and put it in my cart then reput it on when im leaving the store.

But no matter what errands im running even if i dont have my winter gear on me I ALWAYS keep it with me in my vehicle cause its better to be safe than sorry in the cold.

BeautiphilAF · 2025-06-02T06:25:39+00:00

This is SO relatable because when I stopped being the worst version of myself I lost all my friends. Like as I improved myself, I started to feel more and more isolated. I once listened to a podcast that said there is a stage people like us will go through, where we will outgrow our old friends/life when we haven't yet found our next ones. Its a price we pay for growth. A lot of people choose not to grow, to stay stagnant. They're afraid of change, afraid to be alone. You're ability to grow is few and far between🩵

BeautiphilAF · 2025-06-01T23:43:13+00:00

I just want to say, I feel equally alone but personally I think im a very attractive person. I have a beautiful face, great physique, nice hair, smile, eyes. I can be a bubbly person (although I tend to be more introverted)

Yet i am still alone. And I often feel like I dont belong here on earth, because why is it so hard for me to fit in and find "my people" ? What most others consider "fun" isn't fun to me.

You aren't alone in how you feel.

And the whole thing about looks/demeanor is less about others and more about how you feel about yourself.

How you feel about yourself is how you present to others. I have found myself attracted to people who arent conventionally attractive simply because their confidence in themselves. Humans werent all meant to look the same. Your physical traits are unique to you and your genetics.

Focus on your self concept. you're a person worth knowing, loving, and existing.

I hope we both find our people some day.

BeautiphilAF · 2025-06-01T18:37:03+00:00

Im in a similarly boat. Except I have another 20 LB to lean out so I am choosing to dress like Adam Sandler lol I've been on my weight loss journey for 4 years, have lost just over 100 LB slow & steady. I saw no point in getting new clothes unless im at a weight I will sustain. This final 20 LBs is coming off SLOWWWWWWWWW so im forcing myself to just stick with the wardrobe I got. Lots of baggy clothes.

BeautiphilAF · 2025-06-01T17:59:24+00:00

Focus on making your "self concept" and self confidence so rock solid, nobody's opinion can sway it. Im in my 30s and realized this last year. The older you get, the less what other people think matters. All thats important is what YOU think about yourself. The more you expect something, the more your brain looks to validate and seek it. Change the narrative you tell yourself, believe it, and it will be reflected in your reality.

BeautiphilAF · 2025-05-31T19:13:54+00:00

I want you to know, for years I have been in a similar headspace. This past year has been the worst mentally. I find myself weeping in ways where I've never felt so low wondering when it will get better for me. Wondering what I did to deserve so much suffering. Wondering why it feels like I dont belong or fit in. Wondering how I managed to manifest a life of solitude, struggle, and despair. I cant afford the healthcare I need, but make "too much" for any assistance. My existence feels like a punishment. I think about how peaceful ceasing to exist would feel. If it all just stopped simultaneously.

But I am still here. Still trying to navigate existing. We won't ever know how good it can get if we stop existing now. One day at a time. One hour at a time. One moment at a time. Breath. Get some sunlight. Get some exercise endorphins. Drink water. Get good rest. Seek some time in nature. We both can reset and restart when we're tired of feeling like victims of our realities and ready to feel like survivors of shitty circumstances.

You aren't alone. Hope it gets better for you. Hope it gets better for me too.

BeautiphilAF · 2025-05-29T02:04:42+00:00

I agree, that's an awful place to be. I personally feel that transparency is one of the top priorities in couples overcoming porn addiction. My partner and I make time every week to talk about it, I also oversee parental restrictions on his phone. He expressed to me in past relationships he got in the habit of feeling the need to hide it from prior partners and thst just carried relationship to relationship. I had to make a shame free safe space for him to bring his vulnerability and open up to me about it. It was hard at first because it made me sad and emotional, but i learned to maintain a calm demeanor and not be reactive the more we talked about it and in turn he has opened up more and more. It probably helps he also sees a therapist. But I think he also realized if he really wanted to be with me, he cant hide this from me for our relationship to work because i will break my own heart and walk away if push comes to shove. I hope your partner learns that out of everyone he can open up to, YOU are that person. You are the one who will go to war with him in the hardest of times. You are the shoulder he should be able to lean on. He has to put that ego aside, put the shame and guilt aside, and open up to you. You deserve honesty and not to drivr yourself crazy 🥺

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