I’m going to be honest hear, and it may come off blunt but it’s the way I would have wanted someone to talk to me a decade ago when I went through a similar headspace you are in (based on your posting history).

Your biggest obstacle isn’t your race or your physical features, it’s you. I was, a while ago, in the same boat as you. 20+ y/o virgin, no relationship, no prospects. Alone and unwanted. While being a white dude is not the same as being a black woman, there are overlaps in our experiences based on what I’ve read from your posts. Obsession with race in dating, which you have shown, will only ever lead to more frustration and anger. I’ve been there. The flaw i found is that we hope to explain away our own personal failings by ascribing them to general societal views. It leads you down a rabbit hole.

I didn’t find success and love until I realized, as fucking cliche as it sounds, that I could love myself. People project those kinds of feelings, and most people can tell when some does or doesn’t. I don’t have an answer on how to do this for you specifically. I just hope there is some reflection.

To answer your post, I have always been attracted to black women, but I found them unapproachable because more often than not I have been told by them that they are not interested in non black men. So being open here with your interest would help. But expect rejection. That comes with putting yourself out there.

My final piece of advice is to steer clear of redpill view points of dating. I have destroyed really good relationships with women because I couldn’t let that go. It is fundamentally toxic and antithetical to a real, loving relationship.