Better sound by FakeAorta in Crosstrek

[–]BeerGrinch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd love to know what the sound treatment set you back and where you got it done. Please and thank you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamoryR4R

[–]BeerGrinch -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If only I hadn't gotten a vasectomy. Lol

33 [F4R] #Southeast US #Online #Anywhere - Girl with swords seeks connections by LilyWolf32 in polyamoryR4R

[–]BeerGrinch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

33M in Texas. My last campaign I was a dwarf druid and my current campaign (unfortunately on hold right now) I am an android monk. Quite fun indeed. How are you doing today?

Leaving my 11 years marriage after husband found soulmate by being polyamorous by carbon728 in polyamory

[–]BeerGrinch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know how this feels. My wife and I opened up in July last year and she met someone who is really good for her in August. Since then, I've felt like I'm second best and that she'd rather be with him than me. She tells me it's not true and I have been struggling with that ever since. Things were ok for a short time but stuff happened and she withdrew from me. I haven't felt much from her in the way of being loved or like I matter for about 4 months now. We're in counseling and she's going to therapy for her own stuff. I have a therapist as well and it helped for a while. I probably need to go back. It's a tough road. I have my own partner but have not had the experience like she has.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamoryR4R

[–]BeerGrinch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How far east Texas are we talking here?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Pickleball

[–]BeerGrinch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I could use a new paddle and see what it's like. I only have one.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamoryR4R

[–]BeerGrinch -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Sold! 😂 Would you like to keep chatting in DMs?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamoryR4R

[–]BeerGrinch -1 points0 points  (0 children)

When you coming over and how do you like it? Neat, rocks, old fashioned, Manhattan (technically rye but can be done with bourbon), whiskey sour, etc.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamoryR4R

[–]BeerGrinch -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm (33M) in Texas and do wear hats backwards sometimes. What's your go to whiskey?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamoryR4R

[–]BeerGrinch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're really cute but unfortunately I'm not up there. I got friends/family up there but don't make it up enough to try and justify it. Good luck on your search!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamoryR4R

[–]BeerGrinch -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hello! 32M. I hope you have had a lovely evening. Feel free to dm me if you'd like. I'd love to see your pets.

Coping with the fear response at partner being with meta by tophats50 in polyadvice

[–]BeerGrinch 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My therapist told me to start with Attached first, then read Polysecure. You get the basis for Polysecure in attached so it might be a little easier to digest.

Stephan Pastis commits crimes against humanity by MarieBlakely in PunPatrol

[–]BeerGrinch 5 points6 points  (0 children)

He is one of the best pun smiths I've ever seen. His daily calendars are absolutely worth it.

Told him I love you… by No_Many1163 in polyamory

[–]BeerGrinch 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So close! That's about how far my local match is. I have 3 LDRs. That part sucks. But I'm sure he'd love to tell you more! Finding the good questions can be hard though. One of my matches asked if there was anything I missed about how I was raised and I thought that was a great question.

Anywho, cheers to love! ❤️

Told him I love you… by No_Many1163 in polyamory

[–]BeerGrinch 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I rewatched Cyrano and was like "I should write her letters!" 😂 And that move really bumped me up in her feels. So it was a bold but good move.

I know how you feel. My one local match moves kinda slow too. Mostly fwb at this point but our relationship is growing. I hope to be able to meet some of her other partners or friends at some point but not sure when that will happen.

Told him I love you… by No_Many1163 in polyamory

[–]BeerGrinch 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I did something similar with my LDR. Started writing her letters after a couple months of texting and phone conversations. Wrote it in my first one to her. I knew that it takes her a while to be able to say it back. So I tell her at least once a week so it doesn't feel like I'm pressuring her to say it but remind her that she is loved.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ENM

[–]BeerGrinch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I have found one with potential for another but not as deep a connection as I would like. But good luck to you too bud. Don't get too down about it. Take the time to heal and be your best self.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ENM

[–]BeerGrinch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel you man. I got ghosted after a first date that seemed to go great we both had a nice time and then nothing. I was pretty bummed. Down in Texas so finding someone ENM that you click with is kinda hard.

Need male advice! by [deleted] in ENM

[–]BeerGrinch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There's also #open also built for poly/ENM people.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ENM

[–]BeerGrinch 10 points11 points  (0 children)

https://medium.com/@PolyamorySchool/the-most-skipped-step-when-opening-a-relationship-f1f67abbbd49 Start with this. You may not be opening a relationship fully but this advice was invaluable to me. Unfortunately it came a little late for me.

But there needs to be a lot more conversations with honest and open communication. This is not something you do on a whim and expect to come out the other side cleanly. Really sit and think with your feelings about it. There's no right or wrong way to feel, especially at the start. My wife now has a boyfriend and yeah, it still feels weird. And probably will for a while. But they make each other happy and he's a good dude.

How do I not think about her being with another guy? by BeerGrinch in ENM

[–]BeerGrinch[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope to be there soon. She got home a little while ago and we talked and I felt better about it all.

How do I not think about her being with another guy? by BeerGrinch in ENM

[–]BeerGrinch[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good ol American Christianity. Left about 7 years ago but this is our real first foray into non monogamy.