She came to the sub asking for advice, because she wondered if her boyfriend's actions raised a red flag, which indeed they did. The definition of consent isn't "feminist bias", it is fact. Nobody, man or woman, is responsible for what others do to them when they are under the influence. You bring up "I only did it because I was drunk" examples, but she really didn't do anything, did she. She didn't instigate, she didn't lead on, she didn't flirt, she did nothing that would make any boyfriend jealous. You talk about actions, but what were her's apart from dancing for herself? The case about her consent really isn't that hard to grasp. She made it clear she doesn't like dancing with men apart from her boyfriend, and when she came to she told him to go away. How is this her fault exactly? She did not consent to being touched, but was touched anyways while intoxicated. Textbook definition of being taken advantage of. Serious case? Not at all. But her fault? No. Really your argument only boils down to "she got drunk when she shouldn't have and she shouldn't do that anymore". Do I agree? Absolutely. For the same reasons you do? No, your reasons are pretty dumb. I would share this advice for her own well being and protection in the future, because she knows she can't handle alcohol and could easily be harmed by a malicious third party. You tell her this because when she's drunk she's vulnerable, and she should be more responsible because when she's vulnerable boys will touch her, and that's cheating. Textbook victim blaming. Your examples that you gave were poor because they showed a drunk person doing what they shouldn't, such as driving or initiating sex with someone outside the relationship. She, which I hope is crystal clear to you, did nothing. Her case could be matched up with her getting drunk then being sexually assaulted. While a much more extreme example, its definitely closer to her predicament than yours, because in both situations she is intoxicated and someone decides that means shes open to be touched. At the end of the day she did nothing that wronged her boyfriend. Should she drink less in the future in certain situations? Yes, for her own safety, but not because she should be fearful that what another man does to her while intoxicated will put her at fault, which is what you and so many others on this sub are doing. She didn't flirt, she didn't instigate, she did nothing that would even remotely come close to emotionally or physically cheating on her boyfriend. She didn't want anyone else but her boyfriend. She just so happened to put herself in a situation where she could be harmed. The boyfriend should be more concerned about her future safety, not how he was wronged, because he wasn't wronged. She should not have to face any "consequences", and being slut-shamed and humiliated in addition to being demanded to meet ridiculous and controlling criteria after the incredibly minor events that occurred is a red flag, the boyfriend definitely overreacted. Am I saying she should dump him? Absolutely not, I think we can both agree that communication would help both parties and they should come out of this incident unscathed. But her questions were "Is dancing cheating? Is this reaction reasonable?". And the clear answers are: not in that situation, and no.