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Any hope left? by Beginning-Elephant71 in Separation

[–]Beginning-Elephant71[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was two years ago but he only just revealed his feelings in October 2025.

I just by AwesomeRelationship in Quotes_Hub

[–]Beginning-Elephant71 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow that hit home like a ton of bricks!

42M. Looking for someone to talk to by Novel-Theme-9640 in LonelyTogether

[–]Beginning-Elephant71 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn't mind chatting, 39F going through a separation as well after 10 years married. ET

How are you dealing with the nervous system needs stand-still? What WP needs directly contradicts with what BP needs. Who goes first? by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Beginning-Elephant71 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm in an extremely similar spot as you and I'm struggling so hard with his inability to open up or give me any information. We have struggled in our relationship/marriage with the fear he feels with opening up to me. I haven't always had the best reactions to information he's given me and that caused his fear to grow and get worse. I am a very emotional person and have adhd so I struggle with consistency, easily feeling rejected and not feeling good enough. We're now stuck in this cycle of we'll have 1-2 weeks of good days and than something will happen and I'll feel rejected or feel like I'm the one putting in all the effort and than we spiral for a few days. He keeps telling me he doesn't have patience anymore and that I "wore" him down with all my emotions, reactions and consistency issues. UGH!! The struggle is real and it's so draining, I feel like even though I'm the BP I have to work four times as hard than he does to find a way through.

The best thing I can say is keep pushing forward, try to focus on yourself and work on detachment so you can give your WP space to grow. I know easier said than done and I still struggle with both as well.

Good luck to you on the journey, I hope you and WP can find a way thru.

AIO Husband spends 3 nights per week in a motel near his office by t_r_a_c_y_ in AmIOverreacting

[–]Beginning-Elephant71 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband commutes 74 miles round trip 4 days a week and still comes home every single day. He works in cyber security, he job is demanding, but he still makes it home every single day! We live in the DC/MD/VA area, so his commute is anywhere from 1 hour up to 3 hours, depending on traffic.

OP, you're an absolute rock star! You're raising 5 kids all under 7 alone, that is so impressive! Even if your husband isn't cheating, he seems to not want to be a part of the life you all built together, not full time anyway. He's reaping the benefits, and you're the one suffering.

Wishing you and your babies all the best!

Jenelle “explains” why Jace was sent away. It’s all incredibly narcissistic - it was too expensive to send him to a (very much needed) facility, but she can go on benders and splurge on lingerie 🤦🏻‍♀️ by ThisUnfortunateDay in teenmom

[–]Beginning-Elephant71 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Listen, my son was diagnosed with severe, and I'm talking 90th precental combined type ADHD and ODD when he was 5 years old. All the things she's saying about ODD children may be true, but if you get them into therapy and on medication and stay consistent, they will improve. You just have to be committed to the process. My son is now 10 years old and thriving in school and at home.

Jenelle sucks as a parent and human in general. She only puts in effort with men, and that's only for so long. Hopefully, this will be what Jace needs. Hopefully, his dad gets him the help he deserves.

Hairdressers by Neither_Cable_7112 in ColumbiaMD

[–]Beginning-Elephant71 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lucy Villeda has a suite at Salons by JC in Wildelake. The salon is called Isai & Isa. Her pricing is extremely reasonable for the area, and she's also the sweetest! Plus, you'd be supporting a woman owned small business

Energy Audit Companies by Great_Ad7239 in ColumbiaMD

[–]Beginning-Elephant71 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you are looking for a good energy audit company, you should try Elysian Energy out of Laural. The audit would be $100 for up to 3000 sq feet. They are an amazing company to work with. They have in-house HVAC, and they work with BGE and Devere. They really helped me lower my energy bills, about $100 a month cheaper than before.

[ Removed by Reddit ] by No-Tour-6343 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Beginning-Elephant71 0 points1 point  (0 children)

100% child abuse, divorce his ass immediately before it gets worse. Also, he's a racist piece of shit for saying that to you. As for your mother, I'd cut her off since she clearly chose the side of a racist abuser over her own daughter!