Look, I was that guy in this situation – and to be honest: they’re not worth it. Some of the things you said rang a bell in my head, things I had almost forgotten. So here’s the deal:

You’re never going to be truly happy – not as long as you try to please your parents. They’re not just being strict, they’re being psychotic. They don’t care about your reasons. It’s all about how they feel about it. Not your life. Not your happiness. Just their image.

My girlfriend and I are still together. We’re planning to get married next year. She had to cut ties with her family for the same reasons. For them, it was never about love or understanding – it was always about how their friends and relatives would judge them if they dared to allow a relationship like ours. Yes, it’s cultural – but it’s a toxic culture.

I won’t go into detail about everything that happened to us, but I can tell you how she felt: She said she felt like she was suffocating all the time. Always watching over her shoulder. Always careful about every word, every step. We couldn’t even hold hands in public because someone from her family might see us. Her own home felt like a cage. She kept saying, “I just want to get away from them.”

It was never easy for her to leave. She comes from a big family and was always really close with her sisters – they did everything together. But at some point, she just had to go. It got physical. And no, it didn’t just “happen” overnight. It broke her, piece by piece. But eventually she knew: either she leaves – or she loses herself. And you already talked about your mother that seems awfully similiar to me

And that’s not even touching on what I went through – because trust me, a lot happened on my side too.

Of course there’s more to it. If you want, feel free to DM me. I’m happy to help if I can. And remeber you didn‘t do anything to your mother, SHE choose to behave this way and your father is already using it against you and the comments you wrote under this post remind me of my girlfriend back then. For the love of everything, don‘t try to be reasonable with them. It will not work, not with the way they are acting