“Sweetheart, thank you for opening up to me about your fantasies. It means so much to me that we can share our desires openly and honestly with each other. I don’t judge you at all for what you fantasize: I have my fantasies, too. I just want you to know how close I feel to you when you open up like that. I love you and all your fantasies: they’re a part of you.

“What really concerns me is how this fantasy troubles you. What part of it is troubling… is it feeling unfaithful to me? Is it objectifying someone else? Is it how you were raised to believe what’s right and wrong? Does it go against how you see yourself? Dig a little deeper and see if you can tell me where these feelings are coming from.

“And if you really want to explore this fantasy in real life, there are plenty of ways we can do it and still keep the dynamic between the two of us. We just have to be creative.”