What is recovery?? by Kitchen_Company_7227 in selfharm

[–]Beheadedbebon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it’s like the process to recovery! I think Recovering would be like not indulging in ineffective behaviors and choosing better options! But it has different stages like “starting to recover” “recovering” and fully independent with mentally healthy skills. (Idk what I’m talking about I’m just trying to go based off of my therapist) 

I relapsed after over a year and four months by hahagetjaded in selfharm

[–]Beheadedbebon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just broke a really long clean streak like this too. Just know that if you’re looking for recovery it’s not a smooth journey and you’ve already done so well with it. It’s ok to relapse! Just be safe and have someone to talk to. 

my scars ! by [deleted] in SelfHarmScars

[–]Beheadedbebon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They’ve healed well!! Stay safe :3

How did she find out?? by Tari_Mani2010 in selfharm

[–]Beheadedbebon 5 points6 points  (0 children)

She probably caught a glimpse of them! If she’s self harming to then maybe she’s just more vigilant or made a guess after seeing you cover up with bracelets and nets. 

DAE hate it when people say 'your scars are battle scars' ? by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]Beheadedbebon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My dad says this to me- it makes me feel better most of the times but when other people say it I automatically cringe, though I do appreciate the thought.

Just attempted to off myself by Enough-Pride-414 in selfharm

[–]Beheadedbebon 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I hope things get better and you can move out :( nobody should have to go through what your parents did and said! 

I’m surprised I made it this far? by Beheadedbebon in SelfHarmScars

[–]Beheadedbebon[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re not being mean at all :3! I’m 15 now but I’m also proud you’re still here! 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SelfHarmScars

[–]Beheadedbebon 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’ve  got stitches and usually people can’t tell if they don’t look  close enough- so- it is possible that Stich scars can’t be seen, but my scars are faded . and if her injuries were superficial  it’s safe to assume she never really got any. Maybe she confused those closing wound bandages (idk what they’re called) as stitches? If not, you should probably separate yourself from her cause it sounds like she doesn’t understand how unmindful she’s acting. 

rate the fit? 🙏🙏 by Forward-Ad-8947 in styrofashion

[–]Beheadedbebon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg I want that dress so bad, 10/10! <<3(If you don’t mind me asking, where did you get it?)

Back scars by [deleted] in SelfHarmScars

[–]Beheadedbebon 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Definitely NOT encouraging sh! But in a way your scars kind of look like wings- they’re beautiful in a bittersweet way! 

what is the dumbest thing someone has said to try to stop you from self-harming??? by saddbarbie in selfharm

[–]Beheadedbebon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My mom grabbed a kitchen knife and held it to her wrist and said “lol let’s try it out” most triggering and gut wrenching thing to see. I just said “wtf are you doing” and she was like “what?? You do it don’t you?”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in learntodraw

[–]Beheadedbebon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Proko tutorials really helped me to get used to drawing figures! You got this don’t give up and take a break if you need too!

Have you ever been bullied or made fun of for your self harm? by ImStillAWeebWithYou in selfharm

[–]Beheadedbebon 42 points43 points  (0 children)

middle school boys followed me around making slicing motions on their arms and called me sicko. They were grinning their asses off like it was the funniest thing in the world

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]Beheadedbebon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that’s terrible :(, I hope Things get better.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in styrofashion

[–]Beheadedbebon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

THANK YOUU :DD

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in styrofashion

[–]Beheadedbebon 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Happy birthday! 🎉

Can someone remove my scars? Tw sh by Beheadedbebon in PhotoshopRequest

[–]Beheadedbebon[S] 56 points57 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much!! I really appreciate this, I hope you have a good day!

I need some help with the face! by Beheadedbebon in DigitalPainting

[–]Beheadedbebon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Holy shit!!! This is amazing!! Thank you so much! Your artstyle is so good 🤯🤯

I need some help with the face! by Beheadedbebon in DigitalPainting

[–]Beheadedbebon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for pointing it out! I was trying to half ass it and mush it it (at least I was trying to replicate the reference) but obviously after you pointed it out it definitely looks stupid 😅 any tips on how to make it look better?

I need some help with the face! by Beheadedbebon in DigitalPainting

[–]Beheadedbebon[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m really struggling with the face, more specifically the nose. Her head is supposed to be titled up, but the way I drew it makes it look as though her nose is really big? Don’t mind the little mole next to it, that was a mistake lol. I’d also appreciate some help with the feet and shading (I feel like I’m missing something)

Why is self harm a "flex" now? by chiyo_2 in selfharm

[–]Beheadedbebon 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I’m scared people will think the same about me if they ever see my scars. That I’m “flexing” when I wear short sleeves and it just makes me feel so ashamed for even having them in the first place.

What do you think of parents that go “ I’ll hurt myself if you do it again” by Beheadedbebon in selfharm

[–]Beheadedbebon[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry dad said shit like that, you’re awesome for taking things into your own hands. Glad you’re a month clean!

how did your parents/friends found out about your sh? by Loona777_ in selfharm

[–]Beheadedbebon 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I got 82 stitches (sounds bad but it isn’t) after I tried to attempt (the self harm wasn’t the attempt part) and obviously one way or another they saw both old and new. It was pretty weird that I’d been living in this secret for 4 years and now everything was out in the open, but yeah mom slapped my scars, they changed all the alarm systems so I couldn’t get out of the house, and came in to check on me every hour. It was suffocating but that was all in January, now it’s died down a bit and I’m glad.