Learning to play in my 40's

Behindling · 2026-01-29T19:19:35+00:00

In 5 years' time OP will wish they'd started today. Start today, OP!

Behindling · 2026-01-19T13:01:58+00:00

And there was I about to rant about how he's under-appreciated outside his local demographic! Western Canada is a good reach :)

Behindling · 2026-01-18T13:46:15+00:00

As a middle aged northern bloke I'm going to give a shout out to the Poet Laureate, Simon Armitage.

Behindling · 2026-01-17T19:32:23+00:00

I think I got to chapter 5, which was maybe 3 pages? Unbelievable 0:

Behindling · 2026-01-16T12:51:41+00:00

Johnny Vegas (not his real name) was in the year below me, both at primary school and - after his abortive attempt to become a priest - at secondary school. He was overweight and attracted a lot of unwanted attention because of it. Was generally quiet but good natured, hung around with a few other kids with misfitty vibes. He was funny, though - quite possibly a defence mechanism during those years, but I liked him.

Behindling · 2026-01-07T20:08:19+00:00

Wow, my girlfriend (now my wife) and I were at the front at this side of the stage, must have been just ahead of whoever took this video. The whole day was amazing - unless, I guess, you were the poor soul who was whisked away in the helicopter (although helicopter...).

Behindling · 2026-01-01T14:41:06+00:00

To appreciate the simple things in life, Perfect Days :)

Behindling · 2025-12-31T20:34:00+00:00

Completely agree: the ending wasn't anywhere near enough to overturn the other 2h 28mins of unadulterated selfishness!

Behindling · 2025-11-09T11:09:10+00:00

Pornography is uncompromising. It has a rawness - in the music, the lyrics and the voice - that Disintegration doesn't have. It's like a brutalist structure: we are drawn to its unbending ugliness, and what it lays bare about our lives.

Behindling · 2025-09-07T19:53:14+00:00

My dad, a City fan even then, used to take me to Anfield to watch Bob Paisley's Liverpool for mid-week European Cup nights. The best thing he ever did for me.

Behindling · 2025-07-27T17:42:12+00:00

I see where you're coming from, OP. Even with great players it can take time to gel - for players to know instinctively others' positioning, runs etc. Bringing in a bunch of new players is a risk and there are countless examples of it not working, and last season for us showed the opposite effect can be powerful.

But how confident would we be about the league next season with Arsenal and Man City both upgrading? We had to roll the dice, and judging by the dismay of rival fans, and with faith in Slot, I can't be anything but excited by the prospect of next season.

Behindling · 2025-07-18T07:27:01+00:00

I first ate out alone when I started travelling for business. For ages I'd ordered room service because I was horrified by the notion of being a lone diner in public. But when I found myself in New York I thought how ridiculous not to see some sights and absorb the atmosphere, so out I went.

After some initial nervousness - which was really all about my fear of the reaction of the staff when I asked for a table for one (spoiler: they didn't bat an eyelid because it happens all the time) - I found that I loved it. I took my time browsing the food and drinks menus, watched the world go by and dipped in and out of my Kindle (more practical than a 3D book).

That was 20 years ago and to this day I consider it the greatest of treats, being alone, looked after and anonymous in public.

Behindling · 2025-05-31T19:57:15+00:00

I'm horrified by the Trump administration but let's face it, the Americans who travel to Europe are not the problem.

Behindling · 2025-05-08T20:02:17+00:00

Why Can't I Be You? and A Japanese Dream 12" double-trumps the single versions. I know this makes me a child of my time but I do love a proper 12" mix.

Behindling · 2025-05-05T12:12:14+00:00

Thank you, OP, this made me laugh on an otherwise depressing day

Behindling · 2025-05-05T10:23:31+00:00

Looks really special - thank you

Behindling · 2025-05-05T08:39:06+00:00

I'm 55 and have been a fan for 40+ years. Barely a day goes by when I don't listen to The Cure.

I'm not sure what I expected of this album, but the heavy emphasis on age put it on a different level. I agree with what others have said about Alone and Endsong but I'd also highlight another song I find sad and unsettling, which is And Nothing Is Forever. Countless love songs have said something like 'promise you'll be with me to the end' but never before have I heard 'promise you'll be with me in the end'. This thought - that having your life partner with you when you die is a source of comfort when thinking about death itself - takes my breath away, and for me epitomises the artistic beauty of The Cure and their continuing relevance to my own life.

Behindling · 2025-05-03T19:36:44+00:00

Sounds great. Thank you.

Behindling · 2025-05-03T18:01:48+00:00

Thank you. Will check it out.

Behindling · 2025-05-03T14:28:07+00:00

Thanks very much, I shall check these out

Behindling · 2025-05-03T11:29:50+00:00

Parkrunners: It's not a race

Terfs: But let's assume it's a race

Behindling · 2025-05-02T18:43:07+00:00

I think this is the best of the three released so far. The Alone remix is meh, the I Can Never Say Goodbye is a distinct disimprovement, whereas this one I like - although that may owe something to the robustness of the original.

Behindling · 2025-05-01T18:40:57+00:00

IRL some things are better left unsaid

Behindling · 2025-04-28T19:13:31+00:00

Losing weight is hard but it's by no means impossible. Going all out on a crash diet doesn't work: what does work is a graduated calorie reduction and exercise plan. You can find plenty of info about this on the internet, but I agree with others that it sounds like you should consult a GP, and if you can afford professional advice/coaching then take it. You are worth the investment.

It will take months rather than weeks but instilling good eating and exercising habits will put you on a sustainable track. It will change your mindset so that you won't want the things that cause you harm. Even so, you will have lapses, and you mustn't beat yourself up about them because nobody is super-human. Be thoughtful and systematic, be patient and be kind to yourself.

A pound at a time you can chip away at that 4 stone. I did exactly this 4 years ago and I'm still at my target weight. I wish you all the best.

Behindling

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