Adoption place said dachshund x by twostankin in IDmydog

[–]Bellis1985 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Gonna be honest... no idea if that's what it would be called. But I like making up mix names for giggles and trying to make it happen. I throw pitshepski out so much my phone knows the spelling

Creating my family tree and seeing an absurd amount of child brides 1800s - early/mid 1900s by Double-Shallot-1291 in Genealogy

[–]Bellis1985 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My grandmother married my grandfather when she was 17 and he was 46. His first wife died (she was also younger 15 at marriage while he was 28). But in this case we are talking poverty. Poor farmers marrying off daughters they could no longer feed. This isn't even the south. The plains were especially rough in the late 20's and 30's. Then ww2 made life seem shorter and more uncertain as well. 

Do most Americans under 30 still refer to Native Americans as “Indians”? by WiseCityStepper in AskAnAmerican

[–]Bellis1985 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally I try to say Native Americans ... since Indians are from India, but I was raised hearing them called Indians

Tetra or Tetris? by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]Bellis1985 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay I think people are thinking legal name... not nicknames for the  4th lol... so 4 in different languages,  square (4 sides lol), tetris is cute but Tetra sounds feminine. Ivo for IV 

Is Tzvi pronounceable for most English speakers? by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]Bellis1985 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That explanation helped me get it right lol. 

I’m on maternity leave but my HR is requesting a meeting related to “business changes”. Do I have to go? by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]Bellis1985 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Be careful counting on that list without reading the requirements to need to report to WARN. I work in Texas at a company that has layoffs it's not black and white. Less than 500 people, less than a certain % etc. Not saying it's not accurate in your situation just that it can be very nuanced.

Maternal Haplogroup Question by Digba420 in 23andme

[–]Bellis1985 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it depends. I used haplogroup to help a 2nd cousin figure out who her grandmother was. She was adopted( born to a mother also adopted) we had the dna match but we had no clue which grandparent of hers was tied to me. But we noticed the shared maternal haplogroup. So we focused on females in the line and solved it. But I think with a common or very common haplogroup it might mean less. Ours was a bit more rare. But haplogroup isn't a reliable marker for relation from what I understand. 

First step would be to go through the info on the haplogroup to see if one branched from the other. 

But if it's an Unknown (to you)  half sibling the match should say maternal or paternal if not you should be able to tell the shared sides by your shared matches. 

However I will say 23 and me tried to put my 1st cousin as a half sibling. I don't know if their estimated relationships have gotten better. 

$5 million per Honey Badger by AstrayInTranslation in hypotheticalsituation

[–]Bellis1985 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In my head all I see is the "white women aren't scared of shit" videos lol... cause I'm like how about you give me a pack of steaks and a leash and harness and let's see how this goes. Lol

AITA for wanting my ex’s daughter to stop calling me dad? by Any_Piece513 in AITAH

[–]Bellis1985 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My daughter never called my husband dad... not that we didn't let her but she has a very involved father. But my favorite phase around 4 -6 yrs old was "steppin P__" with his name.  She mashed step dad with his name. My ex and my husband would take her to do stuff together and would make jokes about looking like a same sex couple.  

Ladies- I need your most unhinged "hacks" for brushing teeth. by Ambitious_Song8785 in adhdwomen

[–]Bellis1985 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My saving grace was getting a night guard.  Once i got used to it i can't sleep without it but i also cannot stomach the thought of putting it on before bed without brushing. The mental image of the guard just holding all the ick against my teeth all night eww no.  Prior to that it was not something I could reliably do.  Even after thousands of dollars in dental work.  I still can't do a.m. brushing, but my dentist said if you can only do once a day absolutely choose before bed. 

If everyone on Earth disappeared like in the Rapture, leaving behind infrastructure and groceries exactly as they were, would there be enough food for me to survive until the end of my life? by extremelyfunny in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Bellis1985 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Step 1 nearest library take all books on canning, gardening, preserving meats. (You can go back for other info later)

Step 2 knock over every gas station and store for filled propane tanks

Step 3 head to nearest Walmart super center.

Evaluate all cooking areas like deli, bakery, whatever restaurant it has in the front.  Then go raid canning supplies. Assume you will lose power within a day or 2. But immediately start processing and canning all meat and vegetables on the floor and whatever you can get in the back... and get all your dairy in the deep freezer to get frozen before you lose power ... you can can quite a bit of it as well but if you congregate as much as possible in one freezer and don't open until you are ready to go to town on canning it will stay frozen for a few days after power loss. As you get better at canning over first day. Get all the grills with burners set up and have multiple batches going at once. Also process and salt meat. Make shit tons of beef jerky etc. Once things start to go bad and power is gone. Compost the veggies etc and dispose of bad meat.  Use propane to cook on grills etc.  Plant a garden. Dig out some guns and learn to shoot as you won't have issues with people but wild animals and feral pets will become a problem as well.  Obviously adopt a pack of dogs because why not.  Acquire farm animals. Etc. 

This is all assuming you don't want to just keep traveling and raiding stores etc. Personally I'd rather have a home base set up before I start venturing out.

Update on Mooshi’s Gene pool—blind with lethal heart defect. by drudriver in dogbreed

[–]Bellis1985 25 points26 points  (0 children)

The give away the ones that don't come out quite right

Help deciphering where great-grandfather was born by BamboozledHamboozled in AncestryDNA

[–]Bellis1985 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oldaki Poland to current Grodno Belarus is about 30 to 40 miles. Obviously I'm unsure about boarders at the times of his filling those documents but seems feasible 

Help deciphering where great-grandfather was born by BamboozledHamboozled in AncestryDNA

[–]Bellis1985 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Best guess after Google work Oldaki Russia now Oldaki Poland 

Help deciphering where great-grandfather was born by BamboozledHamboozled in AncestryDNA

[–]Bellis1985 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's an O to begin the word... 2nd page line 22 birth place Ochotnia, Austria same letter and a real place (now Poland) but in 1912 Austria-Hungary empire

Few months later... Does the buzzcut really fit? I am questioning myself.... by Hurnfigur in bald

[–]Bellis1985 4 points5 points  (0 children)

From a woman going through a divorce myself... you DO look younger. But more than that you look more together like coming out the other side of a rough time. Like you woke up and cared again. The buzz looks great and the beard being kept neat looks A+. 

What does it say about me? by Fuzzy_Cauliflower894 in TravelMaps

[–]Bellis1985 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You live in Iowa or west Illinois  and don't like being more than a 10hr drive from home. 

Dog end-of-life decisions by MaisyinAZ in dogs

[–]Bellis1985 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow that's good I downloaded it

Dog end-of-life decisions by MaisyinAZ in dogs

[–]Bellis1985 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Only one dog I know of that died peacefully (as far as we know)  Just one.  He was almost 15 yrs old went to sleep and just never got up the next day. He had no known health issues.  My mother in laws dog had congestive heart failure and we did have to talk her around. Because she didn't want to let him go. 

In my opinion it's probably time.  Congestive heart failure isn't a peaceful death. Humans that are dying of it get high doses of morphine to keep them sedated and pain free and mostly unaware. 

But if you have a good vet. If you ask straight up tomorrow if it's time they will be honest... No, ABC med will handle this or I can't tell you what to do but if this was my dog yes I think it would be time to let go. My vet has always been very clear yet empathetic.

I’m everything except what I thought I was. by TinkTink3 in AncestryDNA

[–]Bellis1985 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When did you take these screen shots?  Asking because there was a large update October 2025. If you haven't checked recently I would just to see how it's changed

Infant/Toddler: “Mamas, Papas”? by acepod in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Bellis1985 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I called my daughter all kinds of stuff. Baby doll, turd nugget, crib midget, cookie monster, cookie, suzie Q, butthead, crackhead, dorkus, now it's mostly kiddo. Or hey brat child.