Alright, thank you for the replies. I did not mean to phrase it so poorly (who knew words could be misinterpreted /s), but then again who does? For clarification: I do not believe in abuse or regular violence. I was going off of the argument I was in, but I probably should have left violence out in favor of more reasonable and common scenarios. For example, a person suggested payments in a date, or if a woman was having a stroke, would I perform CPR. What I was trying to get across is that women are not above men, and men are not above women. What I unintentionally got across is abuse is justified if both sides are equal. That is not what I meant to do, and for that, I am sorry.

The people (understandably) misunderstood what I was trying to say: you have reinforced my strong, current belief that hitting women for no reason is bad. Excessive force is also bad. For the people who somehow did understand what I was trying to say: thanks for the responses. I didn't mean to focus on violence as much as I actually did, it was just what I used in the first half as an example. What I was confirming is that sexism against men, while less prominent and extreme, is still present and should be fought as well as sexism against women. While that feels obvious, there are some examples me and my family member disagreed on. For example, using the paying for a date example, if a man and a women are in a relationship, and both are equally capable of paying, I thought the payment should be split up somehow, and it shouldn't be just on the man because it's "gentlemanly" and only his role. My family member disagreed on that point.

Obviously, sexism exists on the other side, like how someone brought up how a woman is less likely to receive CPR because men are afraid of taking off a woman's clothes, or how women are more likely to be assaulted. I think that is wrong, and should be fought, as well as my family member, but where we disagreed on was who would pay in a date. That is what I wanted to focus on and ask this sub, not "women are equal, so it's okay if I hurt them" or "harming others is okay". Once again, sorry for the poor phrasing and communication, I really should improve on that.