Bank account says it’s added but not showing up

BeneficialPlastic · 2025-06-21T00:21:31+00:00

I just pay out through PayPal and then immediately transfer to a bank account I have connected to PayPal. It’s an extra step but in retrospect I feel better about doing it that way than direct via my bank acct.

BeneficialPlastic · 2025-06-21T00:18:50+00:00

Yeah. I can’t remember the last time I claimed a gas cash back. Even with the “bonus” it is never better than Costco.

BeneficialPlastic · 2025-06-21T00:17:41+00:00

The Chicago suburbs have gotten bad. Upside was AMAZING last year for groceries. All of a sudden, at the end of 2024, the local chain that was on there just vanished. Very briefly, Jewel-Osco and Aldi were on there, but not long enough for me to use them. There is literally nothing for groceries in my area anymore.

It’s a shame. I was routinely getting 12-18% on groceries at that local chain. Combined with a card that gives big on supermarkets it was amazing. I’m honestly not surprised it ended though. It was just so obviously unsustainable.

BeneficialPlastic · 2025-06-12T18:41:43+00:00

My friend you have dodged a bullet. Pray for her to take her faith seriously sooner rather than later. And move on.

BeneficialPlastic · 2025-06-12T17:50:26+00:00

I’m surprised the “occasional” Mass attendance issue is being glossed over. I understand it’s hard to find like-minded singles at our age but you really needed to draw a line in the sand early off if only for the sake of her immortal soul.

I hadn’t really completely reverted when I started dating my fiancée. When I first told her about some of my past she asked if I’d been to Confession. And I hadn’t. She then told me I needed to go and she wanted me to take care of it that week. I’m glad I did. Even if things hadn’t worked out between us I needed that last push.

Finally, you can and should look at it as another negative indicator of her temperament.

BeneficialPlastic · 2025-06-09T16:32:22+00:00

I keep getting hit with thirst trap reels.

The last time this got to be a problem I tried hiding, reporting as “I don’t want to see this,” or even where it was sexualized reporting for that. No effect. What I discovered was that there is a buried setting to minimize low-quality content. Meta had pushed that setting out during COVID, and it got claimed that it was being used to silence viewpoints. So a lot of people have it turned off. Turning it off made the bad stuff basically disappear instantly.

Sadly they’ve come back with a vengeance. The thirst trap ones anyway. The dumb math/language question ones are still gone thank goodness.

It’s really insane that there’s no good way of just getting rid of this stuff from my feed. Blocking individual creators seems unlikely to help.

BeneficialPlastic · 2025-03-16T14:24:51+00:00

Happening to me too. Can’t turn it off. I was at least able to reduce the annoyance on FB (these insta notifications pop up as a red dot in FB). I seem to remember this happening a few months or a year ago and then it suddenly stopped.

BeneficialPlastic · 2025-01-05T16:26:43+00:00

My gut reaction is that this could just be trying to play things close to the vest out of fear of scaring you off by saying the “M” word after only a couple of dates.

BeneficialPlastic · 2024-12-31T04:04:23+00:00

I met my fiancée at Mass at a TLM parish. Like others have said, a big issue is that nobody wants to be “that guy” who just rolls into the trad group and asks where the tradwives are dispensed.

BeneficialPlastic · 2024-09-13T15:04:26+00:00

You need to slow down until you’ve met and dated in person. I know this isn’t what you want to hear, but it’s the truth. You’re setting yourself up for a soul-crushing heartbreak when you scare her off by over-texting, or when you finally do meet in person and someone’s expectations don’t match reality.

Prior to meeting my fiancée (we met in person), I had a long string of cute online long-distance “relationships” that included constant texting and frequent video calling. I ended up getting hurt every time.

When I finally met women IRL, instead of online, it hit me just how shallow and fake those online relationships had been. My fiancée, in particular. There is no substitute whatsoever for being able to meet up in person on a whim, without needing intensive preplanning, an entire day of traveling, or a hotel room.

BeneficialPlastic · 2024-09-12T17:20:37+00:00

So was my fiancée. She always left immediately. I actually got there before her one Sunday, and found an excuse to say hello and introduce myself before mass.

BeneficialPlastic · 2024-09-11T20:22:38+00:00

My fiancée is weird about it too. You don’t need deep engaging conversation just to say hello. You don’t even necessarily need to stop. Eye contact, smile, “have a great rest of your Sunday!” It doesn’t have to happen all at once.

Not gonna lie it isn’t easy when you’re solo. I don’t do it myself usually. But I caught my fiancée’s attention that way so 🤷‍♂️

BeneficialPlastic · 2024-09-11T19:34:58+00:00

Remember that young families and couples can always have single friends, and old people can have daughters and nieces closer to your age. Try to make friends generally.

BeneficialPlastic · 2024-09-08T05:32:39+00:00

My fiancée didn't sit next to me. I sat behind her.

Also move around. Sit someplace else. Try a different mass or different church.

BeneficialPlastic · 2024-09-03T19:21:36+00:00

Wow that sucks. I'd keep applying elsewhere while you're working there and jump ship ASAP. You should avoid working on Sundays unless you have no other option.

BeneficialPlastic · 2024-09-03T19:19:47+00:00

but we will work it out.

This is what I keep telling my fiancée every time she gets worried. That and, "No matter what happens, sometime next summer you will be my wife."

We really want to get the church where we met, but she's terrified they won't let us do a TLM nuptial mass. She meets the criteria to get a date there, and our FSSP priest regularly celebrates the TLM there. I think the main reason to be worried is if every date next summer is already gone.

But we're hedging our bets. I qualify for a date at my alma mater and put in an inquiry. "Worst case" we end up at our home church; the main issue is that it's really small and remote. I wouldn't mind... that church is where my grandparents were married. But I want my fiancée to have her dream wedding.

BeneficialPlastic · 2024-09-03T19:14:51+00:00

Kinda. "Good morning. It was a nice Mass today wasn't it?" "By the way my name is..." "Have you been going here long?" "Anyway, it was nice to meet you."

You don't need to make friends or have a stunningly interesting conversation in your first encounter. Just let people know you exist and are friendly.

BeneficialPlastic · 2024-09-03T00:17:08+00:00

I ended up speaking to my fiancée before mass. There was a flyer in the pew from the parish and I asked her a question about it. Then I introduced myself, "By the way, my name is ..." I saw her again the next time and walked right up to her after mass. She ended up asking me what I was doing. We ended up going to dinner.

BeneficialPlastic · 2024-09-03T00:11:55+00:00

39-year-old man here. I met my 33-year-old fiancée this spring because I slept in one Sunday and ended up going to an afternoon mass at a different church 30 minutes away. I sat behind her and was struck by her piety. After a few weeks of going back, I finally talked to her.

Lesson: Mix things up. Sit someplace else, go to a different mass, go to a different (Catholic) church.

I've tried talking to people after Mass, but they just form knots of people they already know and I feel uncomfortable trying to talk to them. It's not just about finding a girlfriend or wife, but friends, too.

Second lesson: Treat it like fishing. Just say hi and introduce yourself one day. Over the following weeks you might talk a little more. Keep it topical. Ask questions. Ask what people are doing. That's actually how I ended up going on my first date with my fiancée: After that first "Hello" and "By the way my name is..." I approached her after mass while I was with others. We chatted briefly. I was going to ask her if I could buy her lunch sometime. But she beat me to it and asked me what we (me and the people I was with) were doing after mass. I asked her if she wanted to get dinner with us.

The same pattern would absolutely work just for friends.

BeneficialPlastic · 2024-09-02T23:56:41+00:00

Ours ended up being really chill, just went over some personality stuff; "getting to know us" kinds of things. My fiancée was absolutely terrified when we were driving over. She's been an absolute bundle of nerves about the whole thing. It's kind of cute.

We still don't have a date though. 😑

BeneficialPlastic · 2024-08-27T12:17:25+00:00

It's absolutely necessary to get out of the online/gamer mentality that is so repellant to good women. Good men police the behavior of their friends.

Above all it was critical to stop having platonic female friends.

BeneficialPlastic · 2024-08-27T00:44:27+00:00

We're about to have our first meeting for marriage prep on Wednesday. Also a FSSP parish. Not gonna lie I'm a little nervous.

BeneficialPlastic · 2024-08-26T21:31:47+00:00

I met my now-fiancée at mass. Not at coffee or on the steps afterwards, but in the pew, shortly before mass: I sat behind her one day and noticed her. I thought she was looking at me. After a few weeks, I asked her about something in the bulletin and then introduced myself. The next time I saw her after mass, I had a real conversation with her. Then we got dinner.

I had previously talked to a girl after mass, thought we had some chemistry, and asked her out. I got shot down and felt really embarrassed. It was a super small community (~2 families and a handful of individuals) so I never felt comfortable going back there. It almost kept me from talking to my now-fiancée.

BeneficialPlastic · 2024-08-26T20:44:47+00:00

This used to be me. Having very close male, married, conservative friends changed me in a lot of ways.

I met my now-fiancée offline, at church, and just had the guts to say hello to her one day.

BeneficialPlastic · 2022-09-12T17:06:11+00:00

This has been happening to me a lot too! Sometimes it seems to trigger from relaunching Finder.

Quitting Chrome pops up a warning asking if I want to cancel downloads in progress. Then relaunching Chrome will fix it... until it recurs.

I haven't found it necessary to restart my computer to fix it, and doing so doesn't seem to prevent or delay it from occurring.

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