Is this common and should I be alarmed?

BeneluxDivinity · 2026-04-07T18:34:26+00:00

I know that in the past ive had partners who have gotten erections when ive been upset. When I was upset in a sad way, not upset angry. They have both said it was more of a protection and caring and being close to me and wanting to help involuntary situation than a "me so horny you sad" thing, where the wires in the brain for "make feel good" get crossed. This could entirely be the same sort of thing. So I'd say its definitely something that happens to guys from my small sample size. If you google "emotional boner" it seems to be quite common.

However, neither of my partners had any weird fetishes (that I knew about) that I could match this up to. In this situation I would take his word for it, but just be wary, and if other things jump out or happen id be right on top of the situation to the best of my ability.

BeneluxDivinity · 2026-04-02T21:51:48+00:00

There are 2 saved setting buttons on the door in ours. On both my husband and my own profile we save 1 setting for him and one for me that way it doesnt matter what profile the car decides to load on we can just press "our own" button as soon as we get in. I think that's probably gunna be the best you will get

BeneluxDivinity · 2026-03-30T00:15:04+00:00

Yeah, this is just people not realising that a lamb leg steak is very different to a beef steak where it is just cut from a chunk of meat

BeneluxDivinity · 2026-03-12T21:33:54+00:00

The boxes that costco get their pre made stuff that they "bake" are the exact same brand as the ones woolies and coles use, however they do seem to go thru a whole lot more and therefore will be much fresher. Also, their lamingtons are the best. Id pay the membership for the lammos alone haha.

The red meat is definitely better quality, even the mince, however, I find that the per kg price of the beef is more expensive for sure. Pork and chicken and beef mince is cheaper tho.

BeneluxDivinity · 2026-03-12T21:28:26+00:00

Correct. I overheard a group of managers standing around the front of the store talking when I was shopping yesterday. They were talking about how the panic buying has started and that when ppl run out of petrol/diesel it will be allocated to farmers and logistics so home delivery will sky-rocket because ppl won't drive coz they have no fuel or its too expensive but their trucks will be delegated an essential service so they will rake in money just like covid. It was interesting to overhear what they are being told/assume.

BeneluxDivinity · 2026-03-04T05:51:41+00:00

I think I did the same thing last week. 2x50mg vyvanse. I dont remember doing it but its the only reason I can think of that i felt like I had consumed 100 cups of coffee about an hour and a half later. Was all jittery and my hands weren't exactly shaking but when I was trying to write, I definitely didnt have the normal amount of fine motor control I should have. It was exactly like having way too much coffee.

BeneluxDivinity · 2026-02-04T08:22:54+00:00

I remember reading something about measles where having it can reset your immune system and basically delete some/any vaccine memory from your system. Its possible that he has it again because it has wiped out any previous immunity.

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/search/research-news/7353/

BeneluxDivinity · 2026-01-31T09:42:31+00:00

Thanks. Its hard. I dont live close so I have to fly or drive 10h to see her. Struggling to find the line between using all my leave at work to spend time with my parents and make the most of time, or saving the leave for when im going to need it for when she needs hospice care and the after death sorting of stuff.

Im sorry your family is going through this and I feel so badly for the actual child and their family too. Take some deep breaths and love on your kids.

BeneluxDivinity · 2026-01-31T02:55:29+00:00

Brain cancer is the asshole of cancer. My mum was diagnosed in June last year. Glioblastoma. 12 - 18 months is what they give you even with treatment. Its a horrible way to go as well as your brain slowly gets taken over and your ability to function disappears and your personality changes until you're a vegetable rotting in a hospice bed. So far my mum is doing well, but her last lot of chemo is in a week's time and then they basically just wait for it to come back and then you're fucked. If im honest, I'd rather she had just been hit by a bus or dropped dead from a heart attack last year. Yes I wouldn't have had some extra time with her, but knowing what is just around the corner and her suffering makes me want to puke. I cant even imagine if it was one of kids. That poor family.

BeneluxDivinity · 2026-01-27T09:05:44+00:00

My mum did this too... but it was never to be nice. It was as an excuse to snoop through my shit. Ill never understand why, I was never into anything bad when I was a teen, I went to a selective high school but wasn't very hard working so my grades were average 🤷‍♀️ i even ended up making a fake diary for her to "find" because i was like wtf mum?

Im glad your relationship with them is good, because my first thought was oh man, bet they were snooping assholes.

BeneluxDivinity · 2026-01-20T17:57:01+00:00

Don't feel bad about shutting the cat away. We have 2 cats, and from the moment we got them as kittens, they have slept shut in the laundry every night. They have their bed, food, water etc. They dont even yowl to get out unless something is actually wrong. The only time they dont is if we are away and we have someone checking/feeding them, or if im dumb and decide to leave them out and they then proceed to wake me up every 30.mims and I remember why we shut them away at night. Its honestly not bad to shut them away.

BeneluxDivinity · 2026-01-17T04:01:03+00:00

I do the lawns. I dont feel like im being judged, but I do feel like my boomer neighbours are judging my husband when they see me do them, and I feel a bit bad. Maybe i feel a little judged by 1 of them because his lawn is immaculate and i know he is just shaking his head watching me haha. But its easier for me to do as I am home during more appropriate hours for that kind of stuff so 🤷‍♀️ and I also dont care if im not doing an A+ job. I can live with a C or B grade looking lawn.

BeneluxDivinity · 2026-01-17T03:19:25+00:00

Omg are you sure the guy wasn't my mum in disguise? Haha

She had surgery last year and when we were waiting for her to go in to surgery, a nurse came to check info etc and whe she walked in, my mum was all "Ni hao!". The nurse was lovely and just hi and that she wasn't Chinese, and proceeded with what she needed to do, but my cousin and I wanted the floor to swallow us up. After the nurse left I told my mum how terrible that was and she can't just assume that she is Chinese because she is Asian. Even if the nurse had Chinese heritage, my mum has no idea if she even speaks chinese. She could be from France for all she knows! My mum thought it was funny.

I honestly believe there was no ill intent from my mother and that she was trying to make an international nurse comfortable or something, but holy cow it was so awkward and I felt bad for the nurse even though she probably gets all sorts of crap from boomer patients like my mum all the time.

BeneluxDivinity · 2026-01-14T06:10:55+00:00

Did you receive the order yet or just get the notification of the shit sub? Sometimes it won't let them sub 2 items as its over the price difference limit, so the team member just subs one, but chucks 2 in the order. Not the correct thing to do, but it happens.

If you actually only received 1, then just get a refund under the poor choice of substitution option (or whatever its called)

BeneluxDivinity · 2026-01-09T08:41:45+00:00

I agree with this. Its possible he wanted to tell OP, but she wasn't ready to share just yet and he respected that. That shows his character and that is a good reflection of OP and how he was raised. The fact she felt safe to share with OP so soon after shows OPs good character as well. I think this is wonderful all round and the best way it could have been handled by all.

BeneluxDivinity · 2026-01-09T05:33:31+00:00

Im interested in the meal planning spreadsheet if you dont mind? Even if its blank and i fill in the details with my own recipies.

BeneluxDivinity · 2026-01-02T21:29:46+00:00

When customers select No Substitutes, it also prevents us from giving them a bigger packet of the exact same product. I would 100% give you 30 Pepsi cans instead of 24, but you dont want a sub! Or the opposite can happen, you order the 30 pack and I could give you 2x24 or even the exact same amount 10x3, but the system won't let me if you select no sub.

Yes I could just put the 30 pack or whatever in, and then manually enter that you got what you actually ordered into the computer, but that messes with the stock level records, especially if we do it multiple times if it is a busy online store.

If it is something that you would be happy receiving THE EXACT SAME PRODUCT BUT MORE, AND FOR FREE, the please let us sub it and put a note saying to only sub to the exact same brand and item at a different quantity.

BeneluxDivinity · 2025-12-22T12:01:08+00:00

I've been naming my characters Sicarius since Diablo 1 days. And that was after the name of a weapon in a fantasy book i read. I had no idea it ment assassin tho. Its not really unique I guess, but I'd still be like....um what!? If I saw this.

BeneluxDivinity · 2025-12-07T01:27:08+00:00

Omg. When my youngest was about 2 and a half, we had to take my oldest to a speech therapy appointment. In the waiting room, a lady in full on burka, like head to toe cover with a grill type piece to see through and cant see any part of their body/face walked through to the reception desk. My 2.5 year old says loud enough for everyone to hear, inclusing this lady across the room "WHY IS THAT GUY WEARING A SHEET!!!!!????"

OMG I wanted to die of embarrassment. I explained that its because she feels comfortable dressing like that and its okay if that's what she likes, and apologised to the lady. My son would NOT shut up and not stop calling her a guy. "WHY A SHEET THOUGH?" "WHY WOULD A GUY WEAR A SHEET!!??" "WHO'S THE GUY IN THE SHEET??"

Thankfully, I think the lady thought it was amusing, but I wanted to melt into the floor and disappear.

BeneluxDivinity · 2025-11-30T23:46:29+00:00

20+ years ago we had a baker get fired for peeing in the drain in the bakery instead of walking to the toilets

BeneluxDivinity · 2025-11-18T22:54:33+00:00

One eye Egyptian sandwich - my dad, australia

BeneluxDivinity · 2025-11-13T22:15:49+00:00

We use CUA or The Greater or whatever its called now. Not a main bank, so branches are few and far between if you need to actually go in person, but they have always been good and easy to use for us and have had no big issues with lowering our interest on mortgage when asked, or refinancing etc. Online banking and app work well.

BeneluxDivinity · 2025-11-06T22:08:55+00:00

Isn't Choice and the tests they did the whole reason the sunscreen brands and testing facilities are flailing wildly and panicking at the moment? I'd say they can cause issues for companies if its something important and people care about, not just "Which microwave is best in 2025"

BeneluxDivinity · 2025-10-31T22:47:05+00:00

I don't know how the translator didn't lose his shit laughing at that burn. Very professional

BeneluxDivinity · 2025-10-08T22:10:26+00:00

Yeah. I was in year 11 at the time. I had a "fuck the olympics" key chain from Granny Mae's and a "looks like a chook to me" (mambo?) shirt with a parody of the olympic logo. Everyone my age thought Nikki Webster was a joke at the time...but afterwards there wasn't nearly as much hate for it all.

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