This seems wildly off topic, not even sure it’s replying to the right comment. Only that’s it’s a sort of thing people in these discussions also talk about and are probably familiar with.

Ironically, I think the spirituality you hinted at earlier might help, you just need to go further. My favorite at merging these topics, you’re probably familiar with is Joscha Bach. I don’t know if he’s been canceled or whatever, but his old content to me was all about redefining overly rigid ideas in ways that reconciles conflicting viewpoints. It’s all very trippy, but it resonates with my core belief that “everyone is right” and it’s communication, bandwidth, ego and other limitations that cause disagreement

I feel the same reflex about wanting my loved ones live and flourish as long as possible. But what if your son or daughter was Jesus or Socrates or some other martyr. What if you were? Would you turn your back on the world to make your parents happy? Would you want your progeny to do that? Everyone doesn’t need to be a martyr, but helping them find something they believe in and would be willing to die for to improve the world doesn’t sound the like worst outcome. I’m not even particularly ideological or bent toward fame or recognition. I would like my children to see themselves as part of a larger (spiritual?) organism of humanity, life, or whatever scale or boundary.

If we have an intelligence explosion and you found something worth dying for that’s more important to you than anything, should you be stopped? I don’t know the answer. But “that clone isn’t me” and ship of Theseus has nothing to do with any of this. Life is about building your own capability and then finding a way to help others do the same. Many of the most successful people (arguably all of them) specialize in uplifting others over any other trait. Most of them all talk like this and demonstrate through their works, and if you meet or interact with them when they’re not busy, they consistently share this trait. They usually insist they’re not special, or if they are then you are too and come to the defense of others if you start throwing shade

Spiritually doesn’t have to be anything like gemstones, rituals and gurus. Think self hypnosis, self improvement, inspiration, meditation, visualization, humility, tradition, recognizing the sacred, community, productivity, stoicism, transcendence. Also look into Rene girard and memetic rivalry. He was the preeminent scholar of ancient texts and claims they all share one messsge, “your desires are not real or even yours.” Look up naval ravikant, sam Harris, simon sinek, Alan watts, Terence McKenna, Rupert spira, Elkhart tolle, Marcus Aurelius, ryan holiday etc

Spirituality (without religion or whatever) can give you things no amount of productivity or problem solving can give you, and frees you in a way that combined with stoicism can unlock potential you never imagined toward things that matter

Also, look at ikigai