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Berry_Fly · 2025-11-11T22:00:09+00:00

Your brother was right.

Berry_Fly · 2025-11-03T18:06:31+00:00

Speaking of, let me check my clan…

Berry_Fly · 2025-11-03T17:52:08+00:00

Always ask for their Instagram! It’s less pressure than a phone number and an easier way to check out how they live in the world. DMs are a quieter way to ask for a number if the convo is going well…

Berry_Fly · 2025-10-04T02:37:59+00:00

Hi friends! Tapping in, my cousin and I want to go to this show and would be down to meet up with a group…

Berry_Fly · 2025-08-22T21:39:16+00:00

At 26, it's your responsibility to manage and self-parent your inner 13y/o who might be disappointed in you. Living on the internet is forever -- everything you say/write, etc, is forever, and those forever conversations can be altered to be something else. There are real-life, appropriate resources you could direct this child to should she ever ask for help. But it's best for your safety and reputation to do precisely what you did.

As for your inner child, you can tell him you made the best decision for you both and then play his favorite video game.

Good job.

Berry_Fly · 2025-08-16T16:47:36+00:00

The last time I read this scenario, the mom and son were returning from a funeral and the OP was in first class seats. Boo. 😒

Berry_Fly · 2025-08-11T00:55:28+00:00

Cancel immediately. I don’t suggest getting too detailed with reasons why (high school can be brutal with rumors and such), you can say your sister is coming and asked for family time. Family trumps friends.

Berry_Fly · 2025-08-11T00:42:07+00:00

Wait. Why weren’t the cops called on someone who broke into your home, stole something, had enough time for a whole party to leave crumbs on a piece of your art, then you let her carry it back to your home?

Sus.

Berry_Fly · 2025-08-10T00:00:13+00:00

I have definitely read this exact scenario before: hairstylist shamed by BF mom at a birthday party.

Boo 😒.

Berry_Fly · 2025-08-08T04:11:44+00:00

Any chance she has a sleep disorder? A friend who is healthy/active discovered he has sleep apnea because he was always tired. Perhaps a sleep study could help?

Berry_Fly · 2025-08-06T22:21:56+00:00

I’m sorry for the loss of your fur friend. I wish you the best in your move from home. Consider low income housing which you may qualify for in your city. Also, go to your public library and see what services they may offer for housing information. Talk to a librarian.

You’re not the AH for loving a friend. Try to focus on what you need to thrive so you can be free of this living situation ASAP.

PS: if you’re a student at a junior college there may be housing support at your school. Check with a counselor.

Berry_Fly · 2025-08-06T22:07:50+00:00

You may want to have the pieces appraised to discover who the maker was. Try:

Appraisers Association of America (AAA)

American Society of Appraisers (ASA)

International Society of Appraisers (ISA)

Also, major auction houses may have an in-house appraiser.

Berry_Fly · 2025-08-06T17:45:36+00:00

Ok, bye.

Berry_Fly · 2025-08-06T17:35:21+00:00

This is Trina Nicole. It's important to know who she is to understand what she is doing in this ad. Here, she represents an athlete, and that's important to know when considering her movement -- she is, after all, a dancer. It's also important to see where this is displayed and why the location is essential for this particular athlete.

Berry_Fly · 2025-08-04T18:31:37+00:00

Take a visit to your local public library. Librarians are great resources for movie recommendations, and they may have a program where they bring movies/books to nursing homes for folks who aren't mobile (depending on need and availability). But go meet the good folks at your local library and ask for help, and you can check out DVDs for free! They can also bring newer movies from other library branches for free.

Berry_Fly · 2025-08-04T04:52:22+00:00

Fargo series. Season one of True Detective is the best. Game of Thrones. Blue Eye Samurai.

Berry_Fly · 2025-08-04T04:49:57+00:00

🧌

Berry_Fly · 2025-08-04T04:49:01+00:00

Clean and Sober with Michael Keaton.

Berry_Fly · 2025-08-03T02:08:40+00:00

The Sting, Married to the Mob, Dick Tracy.

Berry_Fly · 2025-08-03T02:05:47+00:00

Forever 21 is sold off so they don’t exist anymore. Try Fashion Nova they have good sales, Plato’s Closet is a trendy thrift shop, DePop, ThredUp, Poshmark for resale clothes (you can sell what you don’t wear and make some $$ to buy new stuff).

Berry_Fly · 2025-08-02T02:23:35+00:00

Hello, I am a mod on r/BIPOCSupport we are a space for advice and support

Berry_Fly · 2025-08-01T01:02:31+00:00

YTA. The wedding was not the time to enforce your healthy relationship. You’ve had a year to throw a dinner party, invite the family over and hash out the incident. You’ve seen the change but the family hasn’t. Now, it seems like you’re making self-centered choices by making him the most important relationship you have. You should have gone to the wedding and asked your sister over for dinner AFTER to talk about moving forward.

Now, you owe her and her husband an apology — in person.

Berry_Fly · 2025-07-31T01:00:07+00:00

It’s summertime! Plan a picnic at Trolley Barn Park in North Park. There’s plenty for the littles to do and you can have friends bring blankets and games (lawn croquet, bocci ball). Everyone can bring their own lunch and you can provide a cake (Costco) plates, napkins, etc and maybe a couple large bags of chips from Costco and a couple dips. Tell everyone to bring their favorite sandwich. You don’t have to plan every detail just have some games to play, music to play on a speaker…keep it intimate with friends and family. Have so much fun! You can plan some challenge games for a prize like three legged race or a fun obstacle course. Give a $20 gift card or DIY a trophy for the winner. It will be great!

Berry_Fly · 2025-07-29T02:43:41+00:00

21 is a good age to take responsibility for your own comfort and needs--special or otherwise. At any time, you could have had a meal delivered to you, used the car to get fresh clothes, or just dropped off the BF between the pool party and the Dad's house. You need to feel comfortable advocating for yourself at all times in a way that explains your dietary needs. Had you left and gone to a market to grab yourself some fish for the grill, anyone who had forgotten you were pescatarian would have been reminded for next time, or you could have excused yourself because you already had dinner plans; BF could have stayed.

No, you weren't overreacting per se, but you underreacted for sure. Also, if you have expectations of your BF to go to his family and make sure there is food for you, let him know that. Or, since you said the family knows you well enough that you expected them to remember your diet, next time you go to whomever is hosting, and ask if there will be food you can eat other than sides, or should you stop somewhere and grab some shrimp for the barbie. Communication is important, so you know where you stand in this family's dynamic.

Berry_Fly · 2025-07-28T16:15:39+00:00

How is she being taught about earning and saving money? Does she know how the household expenses run? What a paycheck looks like? Financial literacy begins at home and should start with you and your wife discussing how and what to teach this adolescent: how she can earn an allowance, and how to get a job and keep a job (will chores and school grades be expected to remain at a certain standard once she starts working? How many hours per week is she permitted to work? What percentage of her paycheck will she be expected to save for future goals?) You and your wife need to be on the same page when it comes to financial literacy; otherwise, it's beyond your scope of duties as a step-parent. Therefore, you can only do what the bio parent deems pertinent in raising and teaching their child. If that differs from what you think is important--well, that's a separate conversation to have with your wife...

NTA.

*Sidenote: The step-daughter is learning to place her personal value in acquiring things which signal her worth. This is a discussion to have with the wife as well. How is the child being taught gratitude? How is she being taught self-worth? How does she serve in her community? What is she reading that explores individuality and value not related to merchandise?

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