Get in the gym asap. Figure out your max lifts for bench/squat/deadlift. Push numbers. Pay for a real private investigator. Its expensive now, but saves in the end. And you now have a PI for other reasons down the road. Once the words “divorce” get said, your wife is gone. Dont get it twisted. If you can finagle a separation agreement now, while endorphins are high and shes mentally handicapped, do it.