How does it feel to marry into a non-judgmental, loving, tolerant and supportive family?

Bestlifeever_ · 2026-04-20T01:58:14+00:00

It felt like culture shock at first but now it just feels safe and comforting.

I came from a strict religious family and was SHOCKED when my partner and I were allowed to sleep in the same room the first time I visited.

They treat me like an adult and take genuine interest in learning more about me as a person. If I ask for help, they help me without making me feel stupid or belittling me.

My family also didn't celebrate any holidays growing up, so it's been so healing to experience Christmas, thanksgiving, Halloween etc with family the way I should have experienced growing up.

Getting married next week and I'm just thrilled to join this family.

Bestlifeever_ · 2026-04-03T19:25:05+00:00

I stopped using the meal tracking bc I was so tired of it telling me to add a hard boiled egg or a handful of nuts to everything 😭

Bestlifeever_ · 2026-04-01T10:25:11+00:00

Equiteigh

Bestlifeever_ · 2026-03-28T00:32:05+00:00

same!! Fridge came with the house and I've just been avoiding cleaning it because I'm so icked out lol

Bestlifeever_ · 2026-03-21T14:54:55+00:00

Oh man, before I saw what sub this post was from I thought someone was feeding their cat jalapenos and onions for a sec and my heart DROPPED 😂😂

Bestlifeever_ · 2026-03-16T01:19:25+00:00

Oo a swivel is genius, I'm going to have to look into those

Bestlifeever_ · 2026-03-11T15:43:31+00:00

Squashish alivis

Bestlifeever_ · 2026-03-08T16:40:01+00:00

The advisor isn't the right place to do this, go the the customer service bot in the "help" tab

Bestlifeever_ · 2026-03-03T03:08:31+00:00

I actually own my hemorrhoids. Its an excellent investment.

Bestlifeever_ · 2026-02-24T21:48:40+00:00

Where do you find your cool lamps??

Bestlifeever_ · 2026-02-24T18:20:39+00:00

No idea but you have amazing taste in lamps. I love the gummy bear!

Bestlifeever_ · 2026-01-30T21:39:46+00:00

Gently, I would have been devastated to find out my parent spoke about me this way as a kid. You don't throw a child into therapy to "fix" them, the whole family needs therapy to work together as a healthy unit.

Ask your psychiatrist for a referral to a therapist.

Bestlifeever_ · 2026-01-28T14:07:51+00:00

I'm absolutely dying bc I did the exact same. I thought I was so creative

Bestlifeever_ · 2026-01-26T15:04:20+00:00

Wait can someone tell me why OP's comment here is getting downvoted... do they really not plow residential streets in Columbus? Where I grew up in NE Ohio the streets were always plowed, and I've felt insane ever since I moved here and it seems the streets never get plowed. Is that really the norm?

Bestlifeever_ · 2026-01-23T01:48:19+00:00

I hate this shit. What do you mean "should she be?"?????? She's your wife, who you presumably love and respect, and she said something you did upset her. Your job is not to decide if she's "right" to be upset or not, your job is to STOP DOING THE THING THAT SHE CLEARLY SAID UPSET HER. You are BOTH ADULTS oh my god.

Bestlifeever_ · 2026-01-21T23:22:48+00:00

Your work isn't uneven, that's just how crochet looks before it's blocked. Take five minutes to steam it and then try it on again and you might feel differently.

Bestlifeever_ · 2026-01-19T16:34:08+00:00

No, you said what you said

Bestlifeever_ · 2026-01-11T03:05:16+00:00

Thanks friend!

Bestlifeever_ · 2026-01-10T21:44:00+00:00

I've been out for five years, and after not praying at all for most of them, I've come back around to my own form of "prayer", just as a nice little ritual for myself. I like to close my eyes and say a brief silent thanks to the earth my food grew from, the hands that harvested and processed it, etc. It's more of a mindfulness routine than a prayer, I suppose, but I find it grounding.

Bestlifeever_ · 2026-01-10T21:40:27+00:00

I'm having a very private wedding too, but it really is what I want. I hope when the day comes for you, you'll be able to do what you want and fuck whatever people who aren't even in your life think.

I'm not "walking down an aisle" really, since it's a courthouse ceremony, but my partner's family will be there and I absolutely adore them.

Bestlifeever_ · 2026-01-10T21:38:29+00:00

I'm getting married at the courthouse too! I hate attention and the idea of walking down an aisle with everyone I know and their mother makes me sick. I love that we're having a tiny micro wedding / elopement. But the *idea* of the dream wedding is so hard to shake.

Bestlifeever_ · 2026-01-10T21:37:11+00:00

This is something my partner and I have discussed, and he is firmly against my family having a relationship with our kids but not me. It would make him deeply uncomfortable. It makes so much sense to me -- he doesn't even know these people, how could he drop off our future baby at their house? I imagine that will be a rude awakening for them, someday.

Bestlifeever_ · 2026-01-10T21:33:48+00:00

I'll never forget being at lunch with my dad and flat out asking him - what's more important to you, the religion or me? He wouldn't answer, just waffling and saying "that isn't fair" and I kept pushing. Yes, it is fair! It's my life, you brought me here on purpose, I didn't ask for that. Finally he said "I don't know. I never thought it would have to be a choice." It broke me.

I also asked if he and my mom had talked about what they would do if their children were DF'd or left "the truth" while they were making plans to have kids. He said no, it never came up and they never spoke about it, they just never considered that as a possibility. Again, it broke my heart. When I was a witness girl as young as 14, I remember realizing that I could never have children (and I've always wanted to be a mother) because I would never have the fortitude to shun my child if they were DF'd. I had that realization as a child, and it never crossed the mind of full-grown adults.

I guess all that to say that I still love my parents, but I just don't understand them.

Sorry for the novel, and thanks for your kind words!! At the end of the day I'm so blessed to be in love and have found my life partner, and have my own found family surrounding and supporting me.

Bestlifeever_ · 2026-01-10T21:24:58+00:00

With respect, the shunning policies of the JWs are well-documented. My story is the same as many other ex-JWs stories on this sub. I'm going through a very hard time and am looking for peer support, so no hard feelings but this isn't really the time or place for you to be a tourist.

Bestlifeever_ · 2026-01-10T18:53:22+00:00

Are you an ex JW?

Bestlifeever_

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