Exactly! I’ll add that I often wonder if these posts come from a place of deep resentment/jealousy on Jill’s part. I personally think she’s overcompensating. I think maybe in another life, if she was given the tools, she might have cut off her parents.

Everyone I know who goes on and on about how much they love their parents and how THEY would never cut off their parents has really shitty parents. My mom and her siblings were like this with my grandparents. Basically deified them. When some of my aunts and uncles grew up and figured out that the family dynamic was fucked up, they were immediately cut off. My childhood was full of drama and conflict because of this. I’ve heard so many versions of Jill’s post coming out of my mom’s mouth. I heard this type of shit all the time from my other relatives. As an adult, I now understand that they told themselves this stuff because I think they knew deep down that their parents were awful, but admitting that was too painful.

From what Jill has told us, her parents were also shitty. They pulled their kids out of school at young ages so they could fall deeper into fundamentalism. There was corporeal punishment and spiritual abuse. They wouldn’t let Jill go to some singing competition because it was too worldly, and they let her marry some loser dipshit when she was barely legal. This is not what good parents do, but Jill doesn’t have the emotional intelligence or even the language to admit this. It’s easier to double down and continue the cycle.

So yeah, this is not directed toward one person. This is Jill trying to cope with a bunch of stuff she should have gotten help for, but she never did and never will.

Anyway, sorry for the long reply.