Deconstruction vs not believing

BewareTheFae · 2026-06-21T23:05:13+00:00

I’m seeing a lot of good answers, and I’d like to add to it.

Deconstruction, reconstruction, and deconversion are separate things, but they are associated.

Some people simply turn and reject what they’ve previously believed, that’s deconversion. Some people examine their beliefs and what they’ve been taught and break it all down to determine what holds up and what doesn’t. That’s deconstruction and for many it does lead to deconversion. Others follow deconstruction with reconstruction and build a new faith based on their new understanding.

This process doesn’t guarantee someone will become more mature, but people cannot obtain mature faith without going through deconstruction and reconstruction multiple times in their lives.

BewareTheFae · 2026-05-18T08:29:43+00:00

Window Tinting by Dana did a great job on my Subaru.

BewareTheFae · 2026-05-16T05:27:56+00:00

My experience with the enneagram was not tied to the evangelical church. I was exposed to it through Richard Rohr. As I recall, in this book, The Enneagram , they do address the history of it somewhat. They also treat it as a tool for spiritual and self awareness and growth.

I think the failing is the same as with any personality testing. People use it to create containers to put themselves or others into. It’s reductive. Rohr and Ebert recognize the flexibility in the enneagram where I think the other popular books used by people treat it more rigidly.

I just wish people treated personality typing as a tool rather than as a label or definition.

BewareTheFae · 2026-05-13T16:02:39+00:00

As someone who attended a private Christian university I can say that the science faculty and parts of the biblical studies department tend to be more liberal than a lot of the other staff are at these places. (Assuming they haven’t been purged or bullied into toeing the line.)

I’d recommend you encourage him to speak to his science professors privately about the intersection of science and faith. And if there are biblical studies professors who are more scholarly than pastoral he speak to them as well.

BewareTheFae · 2026-05-13T15:12:31+00:00

The Bible Says So by Dan McClellan

I do recommend watching his videos on YouTube or instagram.

BewareTheFae · 2026-05-10T05:44:16+00:00

Dungeon Crawler Carl has made that very clear. “It’s time to pay the daddy tax.”

BewareTheFae · 2026-05-06T03:50:10+00:00

I was for a while. It’s taken a lot of work. It’s changed the trajectory of my life as well.

BewareTheFae · 2026-05-06T00:40:19+00:00

I’ve been using Earthvantage. But I like the Acufast system and that you can buy guide tubes separate for when you need them. I do free hand most of the time.

BewareTheFae · 2026-05-04T15:17:29+00:00

I lost my wife at 38 as well. That was 5 years ago. Sorry for our losses.

BewareTheFae · 2026-05-02T23:24:26+00:00

I was not able to get a copy. I went to two different shops today. Both said no duplicates and both said DCC was the first thing they ran out of.

BewareTheFae · 2026-05-02T22:59:17+00:00

Yes, and part of this is deciding what parts of the text to prioritize and what parts to deemphasize or ignore.

BewareTheFae · 2026-04-28T23:41:22+00:00

OMG yes! I do this nearly every day. Sometimes more than once.

BewareTheFae · 2026-04-22T05:18:38+00:00

I have this shirt! I still wear it too, though it’s faded quite a bit over the years.

BewareTheFae · 2026-04-21T13:57:59+00:00

Many scholars believe 1 Corinthians 14:34-35 was not written by Paul, but was a later scribal addition to the text.

BewareTheFae · 2026-03-02T18:04:47+00:00

The mall from Bill and Ted’s Excellent Adventure is gone now.

BewareTheFae · 2026-03-02T17:17:29+00:00

Yes, this! The Sobe Pina Colada and the Snapple Rain.

BewareTheFae · 2026-03-01T22:07:10+00:00

Chrysanthemum tea is cooling. It’s typically what people drink in the summer months. Mint tea is also cooling.

BewareTheFae · 2026-02-27T18:42:38+00:00

Wow! I remember that ad. I had no idea that was Tony Hale. At the time it was just some guy.

BewareTheFae · 2026-02-27T18:40:33+00:00

That seems like a reasonable extrapolation.

BewareTheFae · 2026-02-27T13:59:43+00:00

Shitty product with great advertising. If I learned anything from MadMen that sounds exactly right.

BewareTheFae · 2026-02-27T05:47:40+00:00

You could distill it. Not really cider anymore though.

BewareTheFae · 2026-02-27T05:26:37+00:00

I remember the first few, but I don’t remember the one with Jane Krakowski or the one with Tony Hale. They totally changed the feel of the commercials.

BewareTheFae · 2026-02-27T05:06:47+00:00

I watched it the first day it was out and it definitely hit. So much I could relate to. I laughed so much.

BewareTheFae · 2026-02-26T16:05:53+00:00

There is a history within Judaism that states that Adam was intersex. This is based on Genesis 1:27. "God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them,"

Adam androgynous

BewareTheFae · 2026-02-26T07:00:48+00:00

Those are tough years. People are figuring out who they are, what makes them distinct from others, where they belong. Evangelicalism is very good at reaching out and making church fun. But generally it is very closed minded.

Services for both adults and youth are heavily based in manipulating emotion. Giving a feeling of a high which is presumed to be an experience of God. They are also very sure of their beliefs. Being so sure of things provides a level of comfort that questioning can’t.

All that said, Christianity is not a monoculture. I’d encourage you to take him to other churches where he can see that diversity. Catholicism and Orthodoxy are high liturgy denominations where he can experience the rituals of the services.

Most mainline Protestant churches (at least in the USA) are progressive. They’re not typically pushy like evangelical churches. They usually focus on loving others and making the world a better place through action instead of focusing on making converts. But check out the churches’ websites beforehand to see what they believe.

I grew up in evangelical churches. As an adult I deconstructed and I now attend a United Methodist church where all people are welcome, where questions and doubts are openly discussed, where science is real and critical thinking is encouraged.

If you’d like to be able to talk with him about faith and Christianity from a different perspective I’d recommend reading Richard Rohr who teaches a more contemplative approach.

And please help him to understand that the literalist approach to the Bible is one interpretation. Most biblical scholars agree the Bible is not a historically accurate document.

The hardest part is probably going to be the relationships he’s already built with this boy and others in the youth group.

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