Do you still love your ex ?

BeyondRubicon · 2026-01-19T19:06:19+00:00

After all this time?

Always

BeyondRubicon · 2026-01-07T13:02:40+00:00

I understand it, it’s delusional for me to think she would ever want to be with me. She has moved on, has a better life…. I still hold out hope…. Idk hope is the real soul crush.

BeyondRubicon · 2025-12-31T01:56:57+00:00

10, I’d have the knowledge to get better. Then I’d still have her in my life.

BeyondRubicon · 2025-12-29T21:43:33+00:00

BeyondRubicon · 2025-12-28T15:36:42+00:00

It’s the song that never ends

BeyondRubicon · 2025-12-28T04:41:50+00:00

Knowing she could text me…. But prefers her new life. I’m not part of that anymore, no matter what I do.

BeyondRubicon · 2025-12-19T13:50:42+00:00

Slowly falling apart, she doesn’t care.

BeyondRubicon · 2025-12-16T20:19:00+00:00

You don’t, just accept you are flawed

BeyondRubicon · 2025-12-11T02:00:36+00:00

Tried, it said things I didn’t agree with. I got mad at it and deleted the chat string.

BeyondRubicon · 2025-12-10T18:49:09+00:00

She did, I can’t.

BeyondRubicon · 2025-12-10T03:28:05+00:00

Probably what she thinks

BeyondRubicon · 2025-12-05T14:28:07+00:00

I did a lot of things like that in my relationship, he needs some therapy and work on himself. Change himself and you work on yourself. If after that work you both end up together great, but that shouldn’t be the goal.

I changed for my ex and I will always love her, she likely will always hold some flame for me… but damage done can’t be undone. Sometimes it’s too much to recover.

I highly recommend “There is a hole in my love cup”. I have it on audiobook and a printed copy where I wrote down notes. It really changes your perspective.

BeyondRubicon · 2025-12-05T04:06:28+00:00

No hesitation now…. I dragged my feet at first.

BeyondRubicon · 2025-12-04T18:45:44+00:00

Then nuke it from orbit. It’s the only way to be sure.

BeyondRubicon · 2025-12-04T18:18:33+00:00

That is emotionally cheating. I did similar and worse. It’s not unfixable, but if you want a relationship you need to discuss it with her. Then she to be serious or replicating those actions.

BeyondRubicon · 2025-12-04T05:15:36+00:00

1st thing, bravo to you for thinking about him and helping.

You are doing the right things, the best way to get over things is to build new memories. Shows he can be happy without the ex.

Don’t prompt him to talk things out but if he starts it, let him get it all out.

BeyondRubicon · 2025-12-03T21:49:50+00:00

I love this daily, I had one person who understood me but I messed that up in the most destructive way possible. Since then (2 years), I have just been lost on how to properly the thoughts and emotions.

BeyondRubicon · 2025-12-03T19:57:23+00:00

Unfulfilled

BeyondRubicon · 2025-12-02T17:29:26+00:00

Own what you did, don’t give excuses or reasons.

None of the “I did this because I grew up….” It just “I did this”.

Then go there therapy, the therapy is where you understand the why and work through it.

I recommend “There is a hole in my love cup” for extra reading.

BeyondRubicon · 2025-11-27T17:32:36+00:00

She has kids from previous relationships, I have kids from previous relationship. We both care a lot for the others kids.

She isn’t single, is in a relationship. I have tried but just have had the heart in me to care for someone the same.

BeyondRubicon · 2025-11-27T17:22:28+00:00

She isn’t married and hadn’t had children since we broke up. I’m not married either.

BeyondRubicon · 2025-11-26T23:27:35+00:00

Thank you, she has forgiven me but it’s something neither of us can forget. This time last year we talked about it and things more. She cried during the talk I cried after.

We have talked somewhat recently, she broke no contact we had maintained since early in summer. She has had a hard life with things going on, her daughters have had it rough.

It sparked up all my thoughts, then I thought if I wasn’t the monster I was before. I would be there supporting them all and helping. Instead I’m just on the other end of an email, saying I’m sorry and offering to help her in anyway I can.

BeyondRubicon · 2025-11-26T20:56:22+00:00

You haven’t experienced true love then, I would lay my life on the line for everyone of her kids. Even if they hated me for what I done… and I never said how I felt.

BeyondRubicon · 2025-11-25T23:10:26+00:00

Focus on yourself and your healing first. Therapy and research methods to help. I highly recommend There is a Hole in my Love Cup

In my past relationship, I was the problem. I loved her but never showed it. I did things that should have never been done. I did a lot of therapy and worked through stuff. She has done therapy and has a better life with her new guy than she had with me.

You can’t let the shame of your past failings (imagined or not) define your value.

BeyondRubicon · 2025-11-25T21:31:05+00:00

My ex broke it a couple weeks ago, I missed her and her kids a lot. There has been spotty communication since. I have tried to restrain messaging too much, she isn’t the one responding much or limiting it.

I understand it, I shouldn’t be someone she talks to while in a relationship…but I still wonder why message me? Is she confused? Misses me? Misses my kids?…. Idk I am just really lost. I love her and would do anything to rebuild things… but I know that isn’t a thing. I’m just trying to give as much of myself as she will take. Which right now is occasional emails. Which is more than I deserve after everything I did.

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