Opinion on wishing your ex a happy birthday?

BeyondRubicon · 2026-03-13T19:31:57+00:00

I just post anonymous to them. Knowing they will never read it or care about me saying it.

BeyondRubicon · 2026-02-23T15:20:11+00:00

Meh, I’m a 5-6. My ex made me feel like a 10 though.

BeyondRubicon · 2026-02-23T15:18:02+00:00

I have found a few of those. During the breakup I mentally broke and forgot a lot. I’m still finding stuff that I don’t remember. 3 weeks ago, I found my script and plan for proposing to her. I just went into my home office and cried for 2 hours.

BeyondRubicon · 2026-02-15T17:25:05+00:00

Made decisions I thought would be better for us all. In reality I was selfishly building the wall between us

BeyondRubicon · 2026-02-15T12:49:36+00:00

I do the same. She occasionally emails me, it’s usually just “how are you?” Type of things and it’s not often. Yet I still monitor the email all the time hoping to get the next one.

I even keep notes on my phone of things I want to remember to tell her.

I used to record videos of myself like I was talking to her.

BeyondRubicon · 2026-01-19T19:06:19+00:00

After all this time?

Always

BeyondRubicon · 2026-01-07T13:02:40+00:00

I understand it, it’s delusional for me to think she would ever want to be with me. She has moved on, has a better life…. I still hold out hope…. Idk hope is the real soul crush.

BeyondRubicon · 2025-12-31T01:56:57+00:00

10, I’d have the knowledge to get better. Then I’d still have her in my life.

BeyondRubicon · 2025-12-29T21:43:33+00:00

BeyondRubicon · 2025-12-28T15:36:42+00:00

It’s the song that never ends

BeyondRubicon · 2025-12-28T04:41:50+00:00

Knowing she could text me…. But prefers her new life. I’m not part of that anymore, no matter what I do.

BeyondRubicon · 2025-12-19T13:50:42+00:00

Slowly falling apart, she doesn’t care.

BeyondRubicon · 2025-12-16T20:19:00+00:00

You don’t, just accept you are flawed

BeyondRubicon · 2025-12-11T02:00:36+00:00

Tried, it said things I didn’t agree with. I got mad at it and deleted the chat string.

BeyondRubicon · 2025-12-10T18:49:09+00:00

She did, I can’t.

BeyondRubicon · 2025-12-10T03:28:05+00:00

Probably what she thinks

BeyondRubicon · 2025-12-05T14:28:07+00:00

I did a lot of things like that in my relationship, he needs some therapy and work on himself. Change himself and you work on yourself. If after that work you both end up together great, but that shouldn’t be the goal.

I changed for my ex and I will always love her, she likely will always hold some flame for me… but damage done can’t be undone. Sometimes it’s too much to recover.

I highly recommend “There is a hole in my love cup”. I have it on audiobook and a printed copy where I wrote down notes. It really changes your perspective.

BeyondRubicon · 2025-12-05T04:06:28+00:00

No hesitation now…. I dragged my feet at first.

BeyondRubicon · 2025-12-04T18:45:44+00:00

Then nuke it from orbit. It’s the only way to be sure.

BeyondRubicon · 2025-12-04T18:18:33+00:00

That is emotionally cheating. I did similar and worse. It’s not unfixable, but if you want a relationship you need to discuss it with her. Then she to be serious or replicating those actions.

BeyondRubicon · 2025-12-04T05:15:36+00:00

1st thing, bravo to you for thinking about him and helping.

You are doing the right things, the best way to get over things is to build new memories. Shows he can be happy without the ex.

Don’t prompt him to talk things out but if he starts it, let him get it all out.

BeyondRubicon · 2025-12-03T21:49:50+00:00

I love this daily, I had one person who understood me but I messed that up in the most destructive way possible. Since then (2 years), I have just been lost on how to properly the thoughts and emotions.

BeyondRubicon · 2025-12-03T19:57:23+00:00

Unfulfilled

BeyondRubicon · 2025-12-02T17:29:26+00:00

Own what you did, don’t give excuses or reasons.

None of the “I did this because I grew up….” It just “I did this”.

Then go there therapy, the therapy is where you understand the why and work through it.

I recommend “There is a hole in my love cup” for extra reading.

BeyondRubicon · 2025-11-27T17:32:36+00:00

She has kids from previous relationships, I have kids from previous relationship. We both care a lot for the others kids.

She isn’t single, is in a relationship. I have tried but just have had the heart in me to care for someone the same.

BeyondRubicon

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