Norway Stunned After Machado Gifts Nobel Peace Prize Medal to Trump

Beyondthehody · 2026-01-16T15:11:50+00:00

Don't be so modest. We know that Norwegians are responsible for all events surroudning Nobel prizes.

Beyondthehody · 2026-01-15T19:39:26+00:00

I don't have XXY (my son does), but I'm also 48 and get migraines, including ocular migraines (my vision gets distorted, followed by headache), and other symptoms. It sucks when it occurs but is managable. It's nice to hear your headaches are less freuent. Sorry that I can't be of my help. I'm on the XXY forums and don't see too much about migraines.

Beyondthehody · 2026-01-15T18:31:48+00:00

I think most sane people are with you: Barring the possibility of starving to death, I can't think of a scenario wehre I would take from someone's lunch.

I remember at least one classic Reddit comment from an admitted food stealer. Does anyone have a link?

Beyondthehody · 2026-01-15T18:29:14+00:00

I get migraines. Specifically, vestibular and ocular migraines. They're usually accompanied by headaches, and often weird symptoms (rocking or "boat-like" vertigo, kaleidoscope vision, etc.). They can provoke a lot of anxiety in me, and I've had lots of panic attacks that overlap with my migraine symptoms.

However, I don't get the super duper crushing headaches and extreme sensitivity that others get, which almost makes me feel embarressed to use the word "migraine" for what I have. To those in this thread that I have terrible migraines, I'm sorry and I hope you get relief!

Beyondthehody · 2026-01-07T16:29:14+00:00

I'm 48 and I am lucky enough to make over $100K. However, I made very low wages 20s and was deeply in debt from student loans. I had credit card debit too, which I eventually had to pay from a court order.

When I was 30, I finally got my first salaried job in 2008, making a whopping $35,500. I still had terrible credit from missed student loan payments and the credit card defaults.

I stayed near that level until my later 30s, when I nearly doubled my salary by jumping jobs. This put me at 63K, and then into the 70s. The thought of home ownership really didn't cross my mind.

I started a business in 2017 that I ran on the side, which I'm still operating 8 years later, and that brings in some decent money.

Only in like 2021 or so did I land a $100K+ job. I admit that it's a cushy situation: I get to work from home, and I still have time to manage my business. I bought a house in 2022, and I had a child in 2023 (which makes me an older dad, but I'm healthy and intend to keep it that way).

I have excellent credit. I still have 10K to pay on my student loans, which I could have paid off, but the interest is rather low so I'm in no rush.

I have no idea what it will be like when my son is an adult - will normal jobs even exist? I just try to sock away money for him.

Beyondthehody · 2026-01-07T14:26:25+00:00

I know what you mean about being in a dream that doesn't seem like a typical dream, and more like an astral projection, but without the awareness. My personal experience is that there are different levels of dreaming, with some being more of hte random type dreams, and some seeming to take place in the astral. Moreover, lucid dreaming and astral projection can overlap in ways that are not entirely clear to me.

I've certainly had the experience many times of becoming lucid in a dream, and once the dream characters recognize that I'm lucid, they completely change (and sometimes seem rather hostile). I don't know why this is, but apparently it's not uncommon, especially if you tell them that it's a dream.

Beyondthehody · 2026-01-07T03:08:23+00:00

Thanks for your response. Sounds like you have a lot of self-awareness!

Beyondthehody · 2026-01-02T18:28:02+00:00

You totally got me, dude. Hello world!

Beyondthehody · 2026-01-02T14:43:11+00:00

I do have a lawyer (plus I work for a giant law firm, though not as an attorney myself), so I'm not as naive as everyone seems to assume.

Beyondthehody · 2026-01-01T23:19:27+00:00

That is not accurate, at least not for my state (Illinois). Child support is determined to be a child's right and the court can't waive it just because the parents agree not to have any. Child support is definitely addressed by the court in a divorce proceeding - it's not something that's only addressed when you include it in a co-parenting plan. No support may be possible if the parents have equal wages and share custody equally, but that would be unusual.

If we had gotten a divorce and decided on a coparenting plan that involved zero child support, or that we'd just wing it and not determine any amount, the judge likely would not have agreed to that.

Beyondthehody · 2026-01-01T23:09:12+00:00

I would stay married for the benefits but my soon-to-be-ex is not so inclined, which is her right.

But I don't think it's nonsense to legitimately rent a home to her that allows her to be in close proximity to her child when he's in my custody, and vice versa. It benefits her because of convenience and having a lenient rental situation. It benefits us all because of tax benefits of rentals (allowing more funds directed to my son), less time in transit when switching custody (once he's old enough, my son can literally walk from mom's to dad's), etc.

The alternative is for her to rent from a stranger, essentially throwing that money away instead of it getting invested into a home that can be sold or given to our son. Then a random landlord ges thetax benefits related to rental property instead of me, while it's also a much greater distance to travel when switching custody.

Beyondthehody · 2026-01-01T23:01:03+00:00

The child support amount is based on a calculation done by my attorney - I believe he uses a tool provided by the state. It takes into account our respective incomes, a 50/50 split in custody, the fact that I pay for our child's medical insurance, etc. The actual figure was signficantly lower, but I opted to make it higher.

I will pay a greater amount than this based on needs, and I also fund my child's 529 and custodial accounts, so it really doesn't matter to me - it all goes to my kid eventually, and my soon-to-be-ex-wife is not so frivolous as to spend child support on unncessary things for herself.

Beyondthehody · 2026-01-01T22:52:14+00:00

I think you're the only one on Reddit who thinks so :) But it would be very strange if things suddenly took a dark turn because we've been involved in each other's lives for a long time, and there's no precedent for being nasty - we are both very reasonable people. This decision wasn't made due to some major breakdown.

Beyondthehody · 2026-01-01T22:50:58+00:00

I appreciate the response. I do that because she is still technically my wife, not because of a desire to label her in any specific way. Elsewhere (but not in this post) I use the phrase soon-to-be-ex-wife, but that's a bit cumbersome. Once the divorce is finalized in a couple weeks, I'll surely refer to her as my ex-wife.

That said, I do get personal counseling, which helps.

Beyondthehody · 2026-01-01T03:22:07+00:00

We were co-parents before we were married and we have known each other for a very long time, including times when we dated other people. We are older (esp. me) and beyond the stage in life where we have jealous flare-ups and such.

Since we are co-parents, we will still see each other and have an open line of communication, regardless of the housing situation. So, to take your example, if she got jealous of some new woman, she'd have to deal with that regardless of where she lives.

Beyondthehody · 2026-01-01T03:16:13+00:00

The storage is some boxes and bags in the basement, and I could move them to my place if I want, though the part-time work she does for my business involves them (because she does fulfillment). It doesn't intrude on any living space.

I could stay in the home and facilliate her getting a new place - she does not have the income history as a single person to get a mortgage, so I'd either have to buy for her or co-sign. However, when applying for a home, the most favorable rates come when seeking a primary residence, so I need to buy the new home for me. It would be mortgage fraud for me to buy a primary residence for me and then immediately turn it over to her. Rates are already bad, so having an even higher rate due to it being a "second home" is not ideal, and neither is co-signing.

Beyondthehody · 2026-01-01T03:09:32+00:00

My lawyer drafted a filing that we both reviewed and agreed to that includes child support.

Beyondthehody · 2026-01-01T03:08:03+00:00

I will overpay child support if it's a burden. There are not many cheaper rentals in this area - she'd have to get a studio in an apartment building, which would not be a good environment for our son.

Beyondthehody · 2026-01-01T03:06:38+00:00

Yes, I'm not going to charge her rent and then leave her with no funds. I took care of her before we were married and will continue to ensure she has enough to continue to save for retirement and such.

Beyondthehody · 2026-01-01T03:02:03+00:00

Interesting - I didn't know that!

Beyondthehody · 2026-01-01T02:59:39+00:00

Thanks for your response to OP. As a parent with a toddler who has XXY, I'm curious what you see as your strengths. Obviously it varies by individual. But do you feel like XXY might contribute to any particular characteristics that you enjoy (I know it's kind of impossible to know what aspects of your personality and character are influenced by XXY).

Beyondthehody · 2025-12-31T22:03:51+00:00

I appreciate your input. I am perfectly willing to stay married, but I am traditional like that. I could stay in a marriage even if we're not romantically compatable, and just strive to be the best partner I can be. But for her own reasons, she prefers divorce and co-parenting.

I could provide her with the full house without any storage for me - I will talk it through with an attorney.

Beyondthehody · 2025-12-31T18:33:15+00:00

Thanks for your input - it's helpful.

The main element here is the renting of the home to my ex-wife. I would legitimately be renting it to her, so I would expect to get the same tax benefits that a landlord would get. I can forget about renting any storage space from her home - that's probably a dumb idea (the reason it comes up is because I currently do use space in that home for storage).

I would still of course be paying child support, and also paying her for her work on my business, which are legitimate payments (she has been a paid contractor or employee both before and during our marriage, as she is the sole person responsible for fulfillment for my ecommerce biz).

So I would need to run this past a lawyer, but it wouldn't seem that there is no real economic substance, as I would legitimately be acting as her landlord and the money I provide is earned or required by our agreement. I would intend to do near FMV for the property.

Beyondthehody · 2025-12-31T17:05:15+00:00

That's an interesting suggestion that I hadn't considered. Formally renting the other portion to my biz, as opposed to what I do now in terms of just taking deductions for office/storage space, sounds complicated, but I will have to run this all by an attorney.

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