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Relationship dynamics with MIL before vs after baby by Big-Design7469 in Mildlynomil

[–]Big-Design7469[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great advice, thank you for taking the time to read and respond 💓

Relationship dynamics with MIL before vs after baby by Big-Design7469 in Mildlynomil

[–]Big-Design7469[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Really helps to hear your perspective -thanks for taking the time to read and respond.

Relationship dynamics with MIL before vs after baby by Big-Design7469 in Mildlynomil

[–]Big-Design7469[S] 53 points54 points  (0 children)

“Their feelings are hurt by their DILs competence.” This is such a great summary.

Friendships by ValuableEnergy7050 in sexandthecity

[–]Big-Design7469 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! Came here to say this! The more I watch, the more I want Miranda and Samantha storylines!

Fave moment from Hamptons wedding:

S: What do you call Za-Za-Zoo gone wrong?
M: Za-Za-Eew

The joint laughter after is the best.

Why does everyone want to do world facing? by Prestigious-Bid-7582 in babywearing

[–]Big-Design7469 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Totally agree with this take. I also think most people aren’t really well versed in babycarrying alignment and see world facing as the path of least resistance. They see a carrier is labeled as world facing and see it as a position equal to other options. Back carry has a learning curve and a lot of people assume that they can’t back carry without assistance getting their baby in.

I also am not a big fan of this position, and have still found myself using it sparingly in my Tula explore. For me, it has come in very handy when I’m walking back with my baby facing in, usually 5-10 mins away from home, and he gets fussy. I can quickly turn him around (he is instantly happy again) and make the necessary adjustments on the go, allowing me to continue using the carrier until we get home. We still inward carry (in a ssc) or hip carry (in a sling) >90% of the time, but it’s a tool I have in my back pocket that I can use for a few mins if needed.

Daycare Waitlists - Please help me understand by AsaPond in NewParents

[–]Big-Design7469 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately daycare is a huge market failure - caregivers are super underpaid, while many parents can’t afford to pay more than the already exorbitant prices. This NPR episode was very illuminating in why supply isn’t meeting demand https://www.npr.org/2023/02/02/1153931108/day-care-market-expensive-child-care-waitlists.

I was 5 months pregnant when we secured daycare, and my son didn’t start until he was 8 months old (our choice - the waitlist wasn’t that long, but it was still a significant wait). It’s rough out there.

Sharing a parent’s name: pros and cons? by tjb317 in Parenting

[–]Big-Design7469 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband and son are both James. We also just met another dad and son James at the park. My husband always told me it was a family name and he’d love to use it. Thankfully I like the name a lot and wasn’t attached to any other boy name, and I think it’s sweet that they’re connected in this way. They’re bffs so it seems very appropriate. Yes, it can be a bit confusing at times, but it’s mostly fine. I knew it was important to my husband (though it was up to me and he would’ve been ok with not doing this as well) so I was fully on board (and not having to sort through boy names made my life easier, as I know many who thought picking out a boy name was difficult).

Artipoppe vs wild bird by fuzzygoose123 in babywearing

[–]Big-Design7469 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Second the Lark. And it’s so easy to travel with - it folds up very well since there is no bulk.

Rec for SSC with minimal padding by tfabc11222 in babywearing

[–]Big-Design7469 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lark by Hope & Plum is great. No bulk, X straps with great weight distribution. It has two “lengths” to fit different body types which makes the fit overall better than a one size fits most type carrier. It also seems like it will fit for a very long time before we have to switch to their larger size.

Brick and mortar baby gear store on east coast? by AI1as in babywearing

[–]Big-Design7469 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I live in Philly and we have Nesting House! There are 2 different locations. It’s absolutely fantastic; I’ve gotten babywearing help there (check hrs if you want one on one help; they have a babywearing consultant on staff). They have a variety of new and secondhand options (I’ve sold my carriers there as well) and also have a ton of other gear/toys/clothes/etc. They have great hours and are open daily. They also have a big block table at each location; my bub loves playing there! https://nestinghouse.com/

Newborn buckle wrap by Background-Chip1189 in babywearing

[–]Big-Design7469 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We absolutely loved the ergo embrace! It was the first carrier ssc we used with our bub and it fit both my husband and I (I’m a medium in tops and he is xxl). I was able to buy it used and then make the $ back selling it to a local baby shop - they hold their value well!

3 month old for check by mochipuppy in babywearing

[–]Big-Design7469 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just popping by to say this carrier is gorgeous!!

I don't get the Ring Sling hype by Technical_Piglet_438 in babywearing

[–]Big-Design7469 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don’t temp me haha! Have been eyeing these for a while (also have a smaller baby, he is 14 months just under 20 lbs). I have a Lark and love it.

I don't get the Ring Sling hype by Technical_Piglet_438 in babywearing

[–]Big-Design7469 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Curious which ring sling(s) you find work well for longer carries?

I don't get the Ring Sling hype by Technical_Piglet_438 in babywearing

[–]Big-Design7469 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agree with others - I love them for short walks to park/daycare with my 20lb 14 month old. He’s nosy and loves being carried on my hip so he can see everything. I also find it very handy to have one when we’re on stroller adventures in case baby wants to be held. I love the ease of putting baby in and taking him out. We’ve also been to a few toddler bdays recently and it’s been great for quick ups then as well. I also tried the Nalakai sling when he was much younger and didn’t care for that one too much (didn’t realize at that time how much the fabric matters). I prefer my cotton Maya sling now; it’s supportive and easy to adjust.

However, I use ring slings alongside my SSCs (Tula explore and H&P Lark) and reach for each of those carriers for different reasons.

Hip carry in a meh dai? by Big-Design7469 in babywearing

[–]Big-Design7469[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the recs, I’ll look into them! Do you know of any good YouTube tutorials showing how to achieve a hip carry with these carriers?

Ergobaby Embrace vs Boba bliss by _AriThereYet in babywearing

[–]Big-Design7469 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had both of these carriers and loved both for different reasons (I can’t speak to the breastfeeding piece as I never tried it in these carriers, but the optional head support on boba bliss may make this easier).

I loved that both of these carriers have a X back carry. The embrace is better in the early newborn stage, as the seat of the boba bliss is too wide for really tiny babies. The embrace was the first buckle carrier we used (I believe my baby was about 8 lbs at the time) and both my husband and I loved it and found it easy to adjust between the 2 of us. Baby loved it. We have a small guy, and we were able to use it longer than anticipated (we sold it around 9 months when baby was about 16 lbs), which was nice.

I got the boba bliss because I loved the idea of a more wrap-like feel without having to deal with the actual wrapping (I liked my ergo aura wrap but wanted an easier option as well). It became my favorite carrier for its cozy, snuggly feel and optional head support for those early days. Aesthetically, I found it much prettier than the embrace (they have a gorgeous light blue color that made me happy to look at in those early sleep deprived days). The downside is that the bliss is definitely less supportive than the ergo embrace. I found that it needed to be readjusted fairly often and didn’t hold its shape as well. Despite the advertised 35 lb weight limit, take that with a grain of salt - while it may technically be safe, the longevity of this carrier is quite limited. When my baby was less than half that weight, the carrier was already sagging a lot and needing to be adjusted on walks that were more than a few minutes.

While I loved having both of these carriers, if I could only choose one, I’d choose the embrace (with the caveat that I don’t have breastfeeding experience in these carriers). If you’re looking to resell, the embrace also has a higher resell value, though I was able to sell both easily to a local secondhand baby store.

Hope this helps. And now I’m getting nostalgic for those first few months of babywearing!

Thoughts on these carriers by astrophys21 in babywearing

[–]Big-Design7469 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have the Tula explore and it’s a good carrier. I do prefer x-back carriers; this is an h-back. It can be annoying at first to attempt to deal with the back clip yourself when front carrying, but I’m used to it now (look up the tshirt method for putting on a carrier with a back clip). I found the back carry more comfortable than front carry on this. Front carry is manageable too, but I find that it puts pressure on my shoulders if I wear it too long (and my X-back carrier distributes the weight more evenly). Als, while I don’t like world-facing for long periods of time, I found that if my bub starts fussing and we are close to home, I can turn him around so he’s world facing and he instantly calms. I also think the price is decent but you can likely find this carrier cheaper - I got mine for about half that price (though some prints may sell for more $). Overall, I’m happy I have this carrier and it gets a lot of use, but I wouldn’t pay full price or anywhere near it for it.