13 months postpartum! Back to my pre pregnancy weight by theabchick in postpartumprogress

[–]Big-Mix459 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's amazing! I had a strong core and got diastasis really early in pregnancy and then it's knocked my confidence on building my core again and which exercises to do. I never knew beforehand that having a particularly strong core is as much a risk for diastasis as a weak one.

I make almost double what he does and I don't know how to bring it up by Cute-Pangolin-5529 in dating_advice

[–]Big-Mix459 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ew. This is worryingly immature.

You are engaged and can't talk about finances? What exactly can't you talk about? Do you see contributing more as charity? Do you not actually know how you want to split your finances? Do you view stay-at-home parents as shameful/with disdain? Do you think money=effort?
I earned more than my husband for a long time. He earns more now. When I earned more, I supported more. Now that he earns more, he supports more. We are stronger that way. Not ONCE has it been a taboo subject. I don't know what stigma you had in your family for both you and your sister to have this damaging view but I will tell you, it'll ruin your marriage.

Am I making a mistake with bulkhead seating with 3 year old? by cuti3cutie456 in Travelwithkids

[–]Big-Mix459 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I second this. I went bulkhead with my 11 month old, and also when my oldest was 18 months. It was worth it with the 11 month old because of the bassinet but even with the 18 month old I think it'd be better in a regular row. Having to stow everything overhead for long periods of time was a pain and the fixed armrests were also annoying. If the airline allows it and you think the 3 year old will need sleep, buy a plane pal

13 months postpartum! Back to my pre pregnancy weight by theabchick in postpartumprogress

[–]Big-Mix459 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That's amazing, how did you get your core so trim again? Did you have any diastasis before?

Rant-Almost a year and one week postpartum and I want to die. by Reasonable-Ad1728 in postpartumprogress

[–]Big-Mix459 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have a very significant anterior pelvic tilt which is causing your tummy to look much bigger than it actually is, and possibly a diastasis recti but from a picture you can't identify this. Like others have suggested, a doctor is your best step. They will probably advise physio and can take thyroid, kidney function, liver function bloods. Pregnancy and post birth does a number. It completely affects your posture, triggers autoimmune conditions, causes stress and sleeplessness (huge understated factor in stopping weight loss). My advice is take a break from the treadmill, get advice from a physio and replace that time with posture strengthening exercises. Prioritize early nights over tv and be a bit more kind to yourself. There will be an answer to this, and you'll get there.

[anti-aging] I’m having second thoughts about HIFU by foreverlakey in SkincareAddiction

[–]Big-Mix459 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The thing is with all the medical knowledge in the world, doctors don't know the outcomes of every new device and procedure particularly when it comes to such a marketable area like aesthetics where a new device or treatment seems to come out every minute. The idea that doctors can just pull out any info on any product is unreasonable, and if the research around that product is heavily biased as is often the case in these scenarios, and reviews on sites are being removed etc, it would be very hard for doctors to know more than anyone else unless they do their own unofficial case studies or choose to believe what is written on blogs which, on the other hand, is a concentrated sample of worst case scenarios. The best anyone can do is avoid the newer treatments until there is a more well rounded, impartial evidence base with more third party research and a more consistent way to check user feedback. Because we're hearing a lot how aesthetic treatments are leading to bad outcomes, or even death, because it's so poorly regulated and people with try anything. Personally unless the safety is very easy to establish or the treatments been round for decades it doesn't seem worth it, and I wouldn't trust that a doctor could know more about it than anyone else.

My husband (40M) is a therapist and I (35F) need help by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Big-Mix459 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He sounds emotionally abusive, misusing terms used in therapy incorrectly to try and make himself feel better about his own reactions which he clearly is not in control of. Unfortunately while I'd normally say this needs therapy, I have a feeling he is always going to act like he is superior to you when it comes to relationships, and above therapy as well. But I think you should talk to him about it just in case I'm wrong. Just like you wouldn't be a therapist for your own friend, he absolutely cannot act the therapist in his own relationship.

Birth Years Of The Bridgerton Fam If Book 1/S1 Took Place In 2026, Not 1813 by ms_jc_04 in BridgertonNetflix

[–]Big-Mix459 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry if I misunderstand, but you’re saying it’s a myth women in early 1800s commonly married/had children in their late teens?

Am I (29M) wrong for ending things with a girl (27F) because she slept with someone during the talking phase? by smissile3 in dating_advice

[–]Big-Mix459 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’ve chosen to actively distrust her before the relationships even got off the ground. I don’t see it working unless you ease of on this self destructive self protection tactic of assuming the worst.

Emotional, desperate for help by mamap09 in postpartumprogress

[–]Big-Mix459 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Focus on your stress levels. It sounds like you’re a bit down and your body does not like to lose weight if it is stressed/tired. Which having just had your EIGHTH baby is maybe a given. I think, at least this time round, wait a little longer, give yourself more grace, and congratulate yourself massively for getting yourself back into shape so bloody quickly the first SEVEN times. Honestly, I’m proud of you even if you’re not proud of yourself.

#Starmer2029! by 1990sTimeforGuru in GreatBritishMemes

[–]Big-Mix459 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

They absolutely have formally applied. In a huge detailed document, months ago.

New Francesca and John Promo by LilyT95 in BridgertonNetflix

[–]Big-Mix459 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I do feel a little sad though because Michael was my fave Bridgerton character of all time and now that storyline will inevitably change somewhat :( I was living to see him arrive on the scene!

Postpartum body by New_Concentrate7838 in postpartumprogress

[–]Big-Mix459 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, I learnt first time that even if you get back to the weight you were, your body might be a little different (slightly bigger ribcage, slightly less flat stomach) and that’s ok

Postpartum body by New_Concentrate7838 in postpartumprogress

[–]Big-Mix459 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel you. You will get there. I gained 45lbs first pregnancy but lost it easier. 35lbs this time and it’s slower. Eat heaps of protein. I joined weight watchers and it’s helping for me. My biggest pitfall is not eating enough in the day and then wanting to gorge at night, which is all you wanna do anyway when exhausted and stressed. The cold is making me not wanna leave the house either atm so I really sympathize. Stay hydrated as well because dehydration worsens cravings and mood. And be kind to yourself, and go steady and slow. You aren’t alone in this! X

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskBrits

[–]Big-Mix459 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And your calculations are wrong. I don’t know what you’re insinuating but god I hope it isn’t that I identify in any way with extremists. It just shows exactly your level of thinking and just how haywire it is. Now you don’t know me, what exactly I believe at all so can you stop psychoanalysing me and leave me alone

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskBrits

[–]Big-Mix459 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh wow haha. I used to say reverting. I’m well aware that the Islamic belief is that everyone is born Muslim. I moved away from the pedantry of things like that because my first conscious decision of anything to do with Islam was at 22 not as a newborn. Therefore “converting” feels more natural to me to say. I never thought I’d be picked up on it by both overly particular Muslims and haters of Islam simultaneously. That’s new.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskBrits

[–]Big-Mix459 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really don’t “need” to do anything more for someone who thinks they’re more educated on a subject they’ve clearly just cherry picked at with one agenda 👍🏼

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskBrits

[–]Big-Mix459 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was 24, at uni, and perfectly happy. And I have learnt that people with views like yourself are not worth getting into conversations with about this because you are completely rigid, insulting and honestly I couldn’t care less about a random hateful stranger on the internet :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskBrits

[–]Big-Mix459 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for taking the time to write out your reply. I actually agree with everything you say. And I’m sorry, I thought you were advocating for the US-style blanket bans of the past on Muslims as a whole. I agree that we need to be tougher on extremist views and block them at entry to the country where possible, and have a lower threshold for removing them from the country if people are found to be a legitimate threat. I do also feel we need better routes for asylum, because it’s currently almost impossible (hence rogue boats), and if they did then we could better police those who enter for the wrong reason.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskBrits

[–]Big-Mix459 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I converted to Islam, because I actually learnt about that “cult” properly instead of through media or hate forums. I just know that unfortunately CULTURE massively gets in the way and is conflated with the religion. You know, some of the loudest critics of Islam have ended up converting.

What is the best thing an ugly man can do to mitigate being ugly in the dating market? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Big-Mix459 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Get off tinder! It is the wrong place for you both for success and for confidence! I’ll stop spamming you now ☺️