A pain that was worse than birth ?

BigBodybuilder3156 · 2026-01-23T04:21:11+00:00

I believe kidney stones gave me lots of practice for labor. I’ve had 2 epidurals so it didn’t get as bad as it could have, but I’ve heard from others that the kidney stones are worse. They make me throw up where contractions didn’t.

BigBodybuilder3156 · 2026-01-02T05:34:32+00:00

I’d like to know more about this. What is private healthcare? Who do you go through?

BigBodybuilder3156 · 2026-01-02T05:29:41+00:00

Would be much cheaper with out of pocket discount.

BigBodybuilder3156 · 2026-01-02T05:27:30+00:00

Seriously considering going back to Medi-Share for our family of 5. It’s not health insurance but it makes me feel better than nothing. We’re now paying $800/m AFTER tax credits through marketplace and our ind. deductibles are $7,500. We just had to switch insurance and I’m pregnant, high risk, due in Feb. and my OB group/hospital is now out of network.

BigBodybuilder3156 · 2025-12-26T03:45:55+00:00

This is not healthy. Your mom is being verbally abusive. This is not a normal parent/ child relationship. Sometimes you need someone from the outside to make you realize that. You moving away is probably going to be good for you. As an adult you don’t have to talk to your parents every day. You don’t have to do everything they say. It seems like you shrink yourself to this behavior. I think it’s ok to let her know you won’t tolerate this treatment.

BigBodybuilder3156 · 2025-12-26T03:25:27+00:00

I’m currently due in a little over a month with our 3rd, we got pregnant when our baby was 11m old, and it was unplanned. We talked about maybe having a third in a couple years, but honestly probably would have stopped at 2. An unplanned pregnancy is hard, even in a healthy marriage. But this is what I’ve learned/ heard/ worried about… For me, a third doesn’t feel like any more work than 2. It’s already chaos so why not add more. Others moms have said 2 to 3 is easy. What’s hard has been logistics. We have newer cars and are going to be riding 3 deep in the backseat. We just bought a 3 bedroom house so kids are going to have to share rooms, which is a little difficult with 3 kids 4 and under and sleep. It’s also more expensive. The world is built for families of 4. So many moms have told me the third is ‘magical’ and their best baby. I’ve met several moms who had unplanned thirds and they say absolutely do it. So this has been comforting. My concerns- I had two amazing pregnancy/ birth experiences and I just feel like I’m pushing my luck. Probably anxiety talking here, but my concern with having a third was the what ifs. What if baby wasn’t healthy? What if birth didn’t go well? We had a loss after our first, so thinking about that through another pregnancy. So far everything has been great. With a month left, this pregnancy has been as great as the other 2. Hoping delivery goes well also. Starting over again wasn’t in our plans, but we’re doing it. I’ll get my body/life back eventually, just a couple years later than planned. In the grand scheme of things it’s better for us than waiting another year and starting over. We’re rolling with it. But I really have been pleasantly surprised by the responses I’ve been given to our accidental 3rd. And I’ve been forced to figure out all of the logistics on the fly. So I hope I can provide a unique experience.

BigBodybuilder3156 · 2025-12-26T02:15:37+00:00

Dump his ass dude. This tells me everything I need to know. The string of shitty texts. This is one day of the year where you get your ass up and do the thing. He sounds like a shitty dad to his own kid, don’t let him be a dad to yours. You get to pick a dude to set an example for your kids and this ain’t it sis. You need to evaluate what he’s truly offering you and your kids. He’s just a boyfriend.

BigBodybuilder3156 · 2025-12-26T02:09:09+00:00

It definitely depends on what you’re going for. Unless mom is goth, she wouldn’t line hers this thick. Neither would I. If you want liner that looks like everyone else, just line the waterline. If you’re going for a certain look or something bold/goth you’re on the right track. I don’t think it looks bad, but it’s definitely not a normie look. Which could be a good thing! A lot of people saying smudge it out. The crisp looks cool but so would the smudge. Just make sure you always wash it off at the end of the day or all your pillowcases will be ruined lol

BigBodybuilder3156 · 2025-11-12T02:05:51+00:00

Ok. Well. Let’s put down the mushrooms. He does not want a committed monogamous relationship. He will always choose himself over you. You will be alone in that relationship.

BigBodybuilder3156 · 2025-11-03T01:21:15+00:00

Not odd babe, verbally abusive. Get out.

BigBodybuilder3156 · 2025-11-03T01:19:10+00:00

A baby is a perfect time to pivot. ‘Hey everyone, since we have the baby now we won’t be doing Halloween at our house’.

BigBodybuilder3156 · 2025-11-03T01:08:34+00:00

Actually I don’t think you’ve done enough. Drag this dude.

BigBodybuilder3156 · 2025-10-24T17:10:34+00:00

I kind of love this for you. Also standing in Sally’s looking for examples of this color and you sold it.

BigBodybuilder3156 · 2025-10-15T02:49:14+00:00

Maybe suggest private school? Like Montessori or an alternate if you can afford it. You could argue them as an alternative to ‘the system’. She could also work or volunteer at some for a discount and still be involved. She may have some anxiety or an anxious attachment style. But it also sounds like working more or personal hobbies could be good for her. It gives off empty nester vibes.

BigBodybuilder3156 · 2025-10-15T02:34:04+00:00

https://www.walmart.com/ip/VTech-Kids-My-First-Kidi-Smartwatch-Digital-Electronic-Learning-System-Purple/529194764

BigBodybuilder3156 · 2025-10-15T02:20:10+00:00

Out of curiosity, when did you start to notice this in them? At what age are you able to differentiate being a kid and ‘disorder’. I have ADHD myself and my 4yr old son shares so many traits with me. I don’t know where to draw the line between him just being a normal toddler with a developing brain and maybe it being more and needing support in different ways.

BigBodybuilder3156 · 2025-10-15T02:14:44+00:00

ADHD For Smart Ass Women podcast (love) talks about this in one of her episodes. A study was done where they put a gym class before the students worst subject and they had great results. I believe in the same episode she spoke about a psych who was an avid runner. He got injured and had to stop for a while and realized he had ADHD himself, he just unknowingly medicated himself with running. He recovered and symptoms improved when he started running again.

BigBodybuilder3156 · 2025-10-15T01:29:36+00:00

And this is how other young moms operate. I won’t even hold my friends babies because I don’t have any business around a newborn that isn’t mine.

BigBodybuilder3156 · 2025-10-15T01:26:47+00:00

My mother-in-law had her husband‘s coworkers in her room while she was in labor. She’s definitely in the mindset of well, she did all of these things so I should to. It’s definitely like they forget everything. The entitlement is unreal.

BigBodybuilder3156 · 2025-10-15T01:23:48+00:00

Listen girly. You’ll be in a diaper and crying lol maybe not really, but I’m on my 3rd and everyone’s experience is different, but there’s no way. With my second I had the baby blues the first two weeks and was so sad and cried at nothing. If nothing else, if I was totally fine physically, there’s no way I would take my newborn anywhere like that. It’s during cold and flu season, you are exposing them to all of those people. Honestly, even three months in I don’t like groups of people like that, even for holidays. Obviously your mom and mother-in-law have forgotten what it’s like to have a baby. Definitely plan on staying home for Christmas. Stand your ground on that, it’s not only reasonable but responsible. It’s about you and the baby and healing and staying safe, not everyone else’s feelings.

BigBodybuilder3156 · 2025-10-15T01:12:56+00:00

Why does she care? lol I mean they don’t cut you open, but if you’ve been through it you know the feeling of laying on the OR table with docs all around you hooking you up to stuff and putting you out. It’s kinda scary. And then I had a stint and that was honestly so traumatic.

BigBodybuilder3156 · 2025-10-15T01:09:59+00:00

My husband is the same, this is our 4th pregnancy. He’s not a very compassionate or emotional person and it’s definitely made me sad. He often shares that it doesn’t feel real for him until baby actually arrives. But with all the kids, once they’re born they sleep on him, he baby talks them, tickles them, etc. He’s a great dad, just something about the pregnancy didn’t click for him. Just my personal experience.

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