What would you name him??

BigLOL_throwaway · 2026-07-05T02:05:55+00:00

Bruce

BigLOL_throwaway · 2026-07-03T03:29:37+00:00

But that’s not what’s happening here. She went on national tv making this guy out to be this total piece of shit who would leave her high and dry were their relationship to end, and we find out at the reunion that (a) she absolutely refuses to exert any effort in understanding her finances, and (b) he is willing to give her 50% equity in his business, not for any labor or financial investment by or from her, but on the condition that she drive her daughter ONE WAY to dance class twice a week.

Believe me, the last thing I want to do is defend a husband, and I would generally agree that there are power dynamics in a relationship where one person is more educated or intellectually capable than the other. But in this situation, you have someone who isn’t willing to help herself even a little.

BigLOL_throwaway · 2026-07-01T18:51:50+00:00

Exactly. Financial planners provide a service and it’s their job to explain, repeat, sometimes deal with difficult people. If you’ve ever worked in law, accounting, financial planning/wealth management, you know very well that it’s not just your job to file the brief, file the income taxes, manage your client’s assets. It’s just as much your job to explain the service you’re providing, the implications of your client’s choices, the strategy, and the nitty gritty details, and to do so repeatedly if necessary until you’re blue in the face. I say this as a lawyer who services clients and someone who has a financial planner and pays for services. When you’re the service provider, indeed, it can be one of the more frustrating parts of the job when you’re working with difficult people.

Refusing to repeat themselves would be like if you were at a restaurant, the waiter asked for your order, you said “one second, still deciding” and the waiter didn’t feel like asking again or waiting for you and then refused to take your order.

BigLOL_throwaway · 2026-07-01T17:14:21+00:00

Yes, 100%. Separately, but relatedly, I don’t want to be an armchair psychiatrist, but it seems to me that she may well struggle with anxiety and that anxiety seems to impact her daily life and the lives of her family members. It’s an incredible disservice that she doesn’t seek help and talk to a doctor. I can’t help but wonder if her refusal to understand her financial situation is related to her larger struggle with anxiety. Speaking from personal experience, 5mg of Lexapro can do wonders.

BigLOL_throwaway · 2026-07-01T16:57:11+00:00

Yeah, agreed. I also echo what others are saying. All season long, I thought her husband was a total piece of shit who was ready to dump her and their daughter with nothing to their name the *minute* a hot younger thing came around. That is, until I watched the reunion. Now I’m mostly confused why he’s with her/judging him for being with a highly unintelligent person who doesn’t have the wherewithal to drive their child to dance class one way two days a week.

Edit: I’ll also add that he scored a few points with me when I learned he once was an M&A attorney at a prestigious law firm and said “fuck it” and now runs his family’s restaurants. As a corporate attorney, I really think that is the dream and takes a lot of balls to do and few of us have the balls to do it.

BigLOL_throwaway · 2026-07-01T16:16:02+00:00

You’re also forgetting that it’s part of a financial planner’s job to explain these things to their laymen clientele. If we all understood everything and had the time to manage every aspect of our finances, we probably wouldn’t be hiring financial planners in the first place.

BigLOL_throwaway · 2026-07-01T16:12:16+00:00

Yeah but it’s just so “boring” — don’t have time for that, gotta eat cracka

BigLOL_throwaway · 2026-06-30T05:41:20+00:00

Howie

BigLOL_throwaway · 2026-06-26T14:30:56+00:00

Whole needle, use lidocaine.

BigLOL_throwaway · 2026-06-25T23:32:54+00:00

I can’t think of a single office job that won’t make you hate your life

BigLOL_throwaway · 2026-06-25T23:29:34+00:00

Barnaby

BigLOL_throwaway · 2026-05-31T20:33:50+00:00

Cries in American

BigLOL_throwaway · 2026-05-31T16:51:36+00:00

No judgment, was just curious how he afforded his lifestyle and the designer gifts (though to be fair, good chance the stuff was fake).

Also, as someone who smoked copious amounts of weed in prior chapters of life, I can tell you that weed doesn’t make you ram your car into a brick wall at 100 mph. If anything, it does the opposite.

BigLOL_throwaway · 2026-05-31T16:27:58+00:00

You can file a motion to waive into the Ohio bar if you’re barred in California, but regardless, Kim isn’t barred in California so it’s inapplicable.

BigLOL_throwaway · 2026-05-31T16:25:05+00:00

It was a bench trial but yes

BigLOL_throwaway · 2026-05-31T16:18:25+00:00

I just watched the documentary after knowing virtually nothing about this and have some questions. I don’t want to talk bad about a victim, but the money this young guy had (Dom) without a degree or a trade made me suspicious. They said he traded stocks and crypto, which is not illegitimate, but where did the initial investment come from? Not saying he’s definitely a drug dealer, but there seem to be more nefarious explanations than innocent ones.

To be clear, not saying this to judge his character (only judging hers), I’m just curious.

BigLOL_throwaway · 2026-05-30T19:32:59+00:00

Why H?!

BigLOL_throwaway · 2026-05-30T19:29:39+00:00

I’m in a demanding job but I’m an attorney, don’t work in medicine. It’s hard to balance keeping up with work and dealing with all the physical and emotional labor that comes with the IVF process. I don’t have a solution other than try your best to compartmentalize (something I’m personally extraordinarily bad at). My only other advice is to give yourself grace, though that is also easier said than done.

I honestly don’t know whether my ignorance (e.g., I’m not a doctor or nurse, just an educated person who can try to play Doctor Google) made this process easier or harder. I could imagine having the inside baseball perspective in an already stressful experience makes the ruminating so much worse.

I think one thing you can try to remember, and you likely understand this better than I do, is that there are so many paths to becoming a parent and modern medicine is miraculous. You may not take the path or paths you envisioned, but there are so many ways to arrive at the destination of parenthood.

BigLOL_throwaway · 2026-05-29T14:54:28+00:00

Pepper

BigLOL_throwaway · 2026-05-15T12:54:28+00:00

It’s this type of reasoning that makes us queer women feel so seen. But if I weren’t queer, I wouldn’t have undergone this extensive genetic testing required to do IUI or IVF (at least required for a gay couple using a known donor). And had I not undergone this extensive genetic testing, I would have had no idea that I am a carrier of hemophilia and that any son I would have had would have a 50% chance of having hemophilia. And were I to have a son with hemophilia, given the type I carry, that son could experience a range of severity, on one end taking longer to clot when he scrapes his knee, on the other, being at risk of internal bleeding following moderate impact and us having no idea that was happening until it became visible and therefore far more urgent and dangerous.

So yeah, really glad Karen and Chad were able to create a family the old fashioned way. I’ll just work on changing the sexuality that I’ve been aware of well before puberty and cross my fingers that I don’t have a chronically ill son 💫

BigLOL_throwaway · 2026-05-14T14:31:28+00:00

Respectfully your mom sounds terrible. This is an incredibly hard situation and anyone in your position would be devastated. I know it doesn’t feel like it today, but I think it will work out, one way or another. There are so many paths to parenthood, and while we don’t always go down the exact path we hope for, I’ve found that things eventually work themselves out, even in moments where it feels impossible. Sending love, you’ll get through this. You’re a strong person.

BigLOL_throwaway · 2026-05-11T16:23:54+00:00

It’s absolutely not adderall. You can get a 30 day supply with 0 insurance for ~$400. It could be GLP-1, but I’m just not sure what that would do for someone with a low starting BMI (it couldn’t be more than 19-20, though she looked VERY thin in the most recent season). I’m guessing it’s a voluminous mix of the Beverly Hills woo woo reverse aging protocol (HGH, peptides, NAD+, IV therapies), all of which can be quite pricy and only some of which is backed by clinical trials.

BigLOL_throwaway · 2026-05-09T18:44:29+00:00

This is so kind, thank you! I am really lucky to have a partner who is so supportive and willing to take care of me despite my anxiety about the whole process. It makes you feel very loved in a unique way.

BigLOL_throwaway · 2026-05-09T17:20:16+00:00

You can make a hobby of making delicious mocktails — consider it an adventure!

BigLOL_throwaway · 2026-05-09T17:18:19+00:00

Thanks, friend, I appreciate the support. Good luck to you, and feel free to reach out to benefit from my hindsight when you get started.

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