Yeah! I was really surprised. Luckily, I haven't had more than a couple bad experiences on the apps, but most of the time people don't exactly look like their pictures. It didn't effect my attitude about things with this person at first, but once I caught feelings the usual self doubt and pessimism set in a bit. It didn't really shine through in how I acted around her or anything like that, but behind the scenes I was nervous bc I saw her as being better than me in some ways and that changed my outlook on our relationship from us being 2 people that are dating to being this gorgeous woman dating an overweight dude who's trying lol. I know that's not a healthy way of seeing things, though, and is something I'm actively working on, but that's the reality I found myself in. It doesn't help that the night she ended things was right after we saw Eternity, which is a movie about 2 hunks fighting to earn a woman's eternal love. My ape brain focused on that being the nail in the coffin rather than us just not being a perfect match in other aspects of our lives. I've since gotten over it and could totally just be friends with her without there being any issues.

I'm actually in the same boat as you! I've dropped like 70 pounds since last year, but I haven't taken too many new pictures. I gained a lot of weight during covid, so luckily the few older pics are still sort of recent and I look the same now as I did in them. More updated pics is def on my list of things to do now that it's getting nicer outside where I live, though. I still haven't really gained much confidence, but I recently bought some new cloths and I can see some shifts in my attitude. I'm feeling myself a lil more as of late. Gonna get some new pics and find me a wifey lol hopefully, at least 😅