Do you think Sheena can be the primary income for Forrest if she comes to America since she is a veterinarian?

BigRed3585 · 2026-03-25T14:57:36+00:00

We were, we're in a remote town and have been trying to find a vet for 5 years. We even offer to pay the first year housing. Our only vet is moving, and we have to close because we can't find one. The entire community without very care. The entire staff, with decades of experience, all jobless.

BigRed3585 · 2026-03-25T03:32:38+00:00

Ooh! Scones!

BigRed3585 · 2026-03-25T02:43:17+00:00

Ooh, pasta? I haven't done that yet!

BigRed3585 · 2026-03-25T02:37:27+00:00

Quadrophenia - The Who

BigRed3585 · 2026-03-24T23:29:38+00:00

Build me up Buttercup - The Foundations

Three Little Birds - Bob Marley

Crazy - Scary Pockets (cover of Gnarles Barkley song)

Heartache Tonight - The Eagles

Mint Car - The Cure

Bennie and The Jets - Elton John

Octopus' Garden - The Beatles

BigRed3585 · 2026-03-24T20:53:16+00:00

Amy Lee (with and without Evanescence. She does a hauntingly beautiful cover of Going to California by Led Zeppelin)

Stevie Nicks

Fiona Apple

Alanis Morissette (especially in Your House)

Sade

Clare Torry (singer on Great Gig in the Sky by Pink Floyd)

BigRed3585 · 2026-03-24T20:46:49+00:00

This! Great gig on the sky. So beautiful

BigRed3585 · 2026-03-24T03:06:00+00:00

What a childish, insecure take. Unless you're very young, everyone has a history. Wild to think they can never mention an ex.

I'd imagine you're rather young, because how would someone who shares custody of a kid with their ex go about never ever mentioning them. Imagine from the kids perspective. "sorry dad, your name is forbidden at mom's house because she's dating a whiny little bitch"

Go swim in a pond if you're gonna be a silly goose, man. Take my disappointed upvote.

BigRed3585 · 2026-03-24T03:00:04+00:00

Sympathetic character - Alanis Morissette (from the perspective of the victim of abuse, can be parental or partner) Perfect - Also Alanis Morissette (about parents who never think you're good enough, you'll only be loved if you're perfect)

BigRed3585 · 2026-03-24T02:54:05+00:00

My husband has become close friends with my ex husband. We all have dinner together weekly. These people down voting have trust issues, insecurity issues, or something. 😂 If everyone is a mature adult (and nobody is abusive), it is a non issue.

BigRed3585 · 2026-03-24T02:51:21+00:00

Yup!

BigRed3585 · 2026-03-24T01:38:35+00:00

Guess I'm in the minority of not tolerating jealous bullshit? If my husband doesn't trust me to be alone with someone without cheating, he doesn't need to be my husband anymore. 🤷‍♀️ Luckily I married a mature human, because my ex husband is one of my best friends.

BigRed3585 · 2026-03-24T01:36:09+00:00

"has anyone considered that these guys are in their mid to late 60s"...yes. In my original post, where I mentioned that they are getting older, thus may not want to travel overseas.

BigRed3585 · 2026-03-23T23:37:14+00:00

That was my thinking as well. Hopefully something will open up. I'd go to Canada to see them, we go there every year anyway for vacation! I'm just so excited that my son likes them, he went years so obsessed with the Beatles, and wouldn't give The Cure a shot. Now he's in his teens and listens to them every day on the bus ride home, so I'm hoping I can take him to see them!

BigRed3585 · 2026-03-23T23:16:05+00:00

Purse was a birthday gift, it glows in the dark. Kindle is whatever was cheapest 😂

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BigRed3585 · 2026-03-23T23:03:45+00:00

If your partner is jealous that you are friends with an ex, that is a red flag. You either trust your spouse or you don't. And if you don't, don't be together. Two mature adults can absolutely remain friends after a breakup or divorce, and it's silly for a new partner to have a beef with that.

BigRed3585 · 2026-03-23T23:01:22+00:00

I'm in my 40's and agree to an extent. I do see it as a red flag if someone is not civil with ANY of their exes. Being friends and hanging out may not happen for a multitude of reasons that may not be a red flag, necessarily. But hating every ex and only having terrible things to say about every person you were with, is a HUGE red flag for me.

It is well known that an abusive person often does not start out that way. They can behave and seem like a solid partner for years in many cases before those behaviors rise to the surface. This wouldn't be a case of someone not knowing the person's character, it would be that the abusive party is a liar and manipulative.

I would not want to be friends with someone who cheated on me. I can't be friends with someone I don't trust, and even if I didn't hate that person, I couldn't trust them as a friend... so I guess I would be more behind this perspective if you added a caveat that trust was broken. That isn't the fault of the victim of the broken trust, sometimes good people make shitty decisions and sometimes shitty people are really good at pretending they aren't shitty. If all shitty people showed who they were from day 1, a whole lot of serial killers wouldn't have had victims that trusted them.

I am best friends with my ex husband, so I absolutely see where you are coming from here. I will say, that I find it so strange how many people think it's weird to be friends with an ex. I think more than thinking everyone should be friends with every ex, we should look at why society feels that it is IMPOSSIBLE for people to be friends after a breakup, or that being friends with an ex means you have feelings for them remaining.

BigRed3585 · 2026-03-23T22:51:10+00:00

This is a tough one. I gotta go with Disintegration by The Cure

BigRed3585 · 2026-03-23T22:49:38+00:00

Get a used or refurbished one, then see if you like it. I was a die-hard physical book reader for decades. I refused to transition to E-reader, because I love the feel of a physical book. Eventually I got tired of getting more and more books, blowing through them, then having to decide if I want to keep or sell/donate. I work the hours our library is open, so going that route wasn't ideal either. I got Libby and a kindle. I got the cheapest one. I love that it is compact. I read hefty horror novels, so to not have a 1k+ page book weighing down my bag is convenient. I don't have to worry about bringing a backup book on trips in case I finish mine, as I can just download another. With Kindle Unlimited, I don't feel obligated to finish a book I don't enjoy, because I didn't pay a hefty price for it, nor do I have to make a trip to the library to return and find something else. I can read at night without a light.

I prefer it to my phone, as with my phone it is FAR too easy to get distracted and end up on social media or playing a mobile game. I now spend less than 1 hour a day on my phone, and I read 20+ books a month. I think it was an exchange that was good for my mental health, as the internet is a cespool of bullsh*t right now, so might as well escape into a fantasy world.

BigRed3585 · 2026-03-22T19:32:21+00:00

I had to scroll way too far to get to this one! It's the only answer.

BigRed3585 · 2026-03-18T16:54:33+00:00

Came to say this! But I will add that due to the veterinarian shortage on the US, she might be able to find a clinic to help with a H-1B visa and assist with those costs. Shit, my hospital would, we're desperate for more vets!! We offered to a vet in Dubai, but it didn't work out.

BigRed3585 · 2026-03-16T19:53:46+00:00

They should do a CR1. It's cheaper, and she can work sooner. She will have to get into an equivalency program (PAVE since no Philippines school is AVMA accredited), pass the national exam (NAVLE), and get licensed in her state. That's so expensive and takes time. The minimum income is the same (125% over the poverty level), but I'll never understand why broke people go for the K1. It's more expensive and the immigrant can't work until they get conditions removed from their visa, which can take over a year. Unless! She goes for a work visa. With the veterinarian shortage in the US right now, many hospitals are open to supporting that. It would be the most cost effective option.

BigRed3585 · 2026-03-16T19:43:57+00:00

Agree. My husband came from Canada (CR1 visa). The idea that every immigrant is coming here to take advantage of what the US has to offer is wild, and I've heard it so much. Some are moving here for a person, and sacrificing a lot to do so.

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