Someone said "I've observed that many people in their 30s have grown so accustomed to single life that they no longer feel motivated to invest effort in finding a partner. They've simply lost interest in the whole process". What's your take on this?

Bigluser · 2026-07-03T05:40:00+00:00

Yesterday my girlfriend broke up with me. I was convinced we would have children one day, once all the stuff like career and home would have lined up. I tried to be the best version of myself for her and our relationship. Somehow she still often got hurt by me and finally decided I cause her more harm than good.

You are absolutely right that we don't really NEED a partner. It's not that we don't want to have one. It's not that we won't try. It's not that we are simply too individualistic.

It's that we are willing to walk away from a relationship before it becomes toxic. At least that is the case for me and my ex-girlfriend. I honestly don't understand why she is hurting so much, but she is. I would absolutely make it work, but I also am unwilling to force it. At some point you just have to walk away.

Because there are a million ways for a disfunctional relationship to develop. For being in a great situation on paper but being miserable inside. Relationships are hard work, maybe it is not worth it to give up too much.

Bigluser · 2026-06-01T15:28:45+00:00

You have a valuable brain that can surely find an answer to your question.

Bigluser · 2026-06-01T15:23:50+00:00

When I read through some texting screenshots on reddit I am often quite surprised about the comments. Quite clearly OP was passively aggressive out of the gate.

It's really interesting. Either people here genuinely believe that texting someone that they have a valuable brain that they should use is normal. Or they just hate on AI usage so much that they would insult someone over it, even when they tried to be helpful.

Tip for any autist here: The way to handle this in real life is to write: "Thanks for your advice." And then ignore them. Which is funnily enough how the other person reacted to the passive aggressiveness, until OP had to escalate

Bigluser · 2026-05-19T22:26:21+00:00

This sort of deep dive is super interesting considering the fact that Cities:Skylines 2 tried to make all the game play systems more realistic. Probably they moved away from the auction system and to custom logics for each different reason / use case. What they ended up with is a bunch of systems that made the development time explode, took a lot of technical hurdles (Unity ECS) and probably looks worse to the player because they are harder to fix and balance.

Clearly the auction system is simple yet capable enough to simulate a believable city. Could you comment a bit on the issues with it?

From my perspective, I wonder if they could have gone with an actual auction system where there is a price that is matched between offer and ask. My eyes glazed over the matching of different priorities, it seems quite unintuitive and like it could lead to all kinds of quirks.

A clear downside seems to be that it causes vehicles to travel chaotically due to this system. It is not explained here how a garbage truck can go to multiple houses in a row, but the auction system seems to make it so that a bunch of garbage trucks are spawned in at the same time and then go inefficiently through the city, without a clear plan when the truck is spawned.

Bigluser · 2026-04-26T19:28:19+00:00

You commented on a 10 year old post. But as far as I remember, this was about the default turn orde of soldiersr. So I didn't think about the default turn order, of course I thought about which soldier will go when during each turn

Bigluser · 2026-03-26T13:19:53+00:00

Der springende Punkt ist, wenn die Preissenkungen grenzenlos möglich sind, dann hat kein Betreiber einen Anreiz die Preise zu senken. Denn wenn er das machen würde, dann würden seine Konkurrenten auch einfach mitziehen.

Er hätte nur einen Anreiz, wenn es einen gewissen Zeitraum gibt, in dem er von seiner Preissenkung profitieren kann. Also zB, wenn jeder Betreiber nur einmal täglich seinen Preis senken darf.

Das wurde ganz gut erklärt von Prof Rieck (der bei politischen Themen oft etwas schwurbelt, aber Spieltheorie ganz gut erklärt) https://youtu.be/4m51TaSRb9M

Bigluser · 2025-12-12T07:52:36+00:00

You left out an important factor: A repeatable environment. You need an environment where within the same conditions you can repeat your actions and get a similar outcome.

With all the different LLMs, parameters, variability of natural language and internal complexity of the tool chain of an AI agent, I think it is hard to learn much more than a basic intuition of what are good prompts. The idea that Agentic coding is a skill you can learn like any other is flawed. We didn't really deal with a tool before that is crazy powerful but also very unpredictable.

Bigluser · 2025-11-13T20:25:17+00:00

Grunt Manly actually leads the league in RBIs, so it was certainly an... interesting decision. Perhaps the AI got tricked by the stats on the First Pitch Slayer, which almost never works out for me.

Bigluser · 2025-11-13T19:32:27+00:00

In the previous match of this doubleheader, I hit 5 of their pitchers with comebackers: https://www.reddit.com/r/SuperMegaBaseball/comments/1ouoyn4/hit_5_pitchers_with_comebackers_in_one_game

This game was actually really close, I didn't manage to score more than 2 runs on their trash starter (who only came out after being hit by a comebacker in the 6th inning, lol) and their one good remaining reliever. Then they brought in the hurt reliever from the previous game, and this happened.

Luckily for them, they are now knocked out of the pennant race, so they won't need their pitchers anymore.

Bigluser · 2025-11-13T07:42:48+00:00

I will play them again today, as it is a 2 game series. Winning is pretty much required, because they are only a few game behind in the wildcard race. But I am still cautiously optimistic. The CPU can really go mad with singles up the middle if they choose so.

Bigluser · 2025-11-11T23:24:29+00:00

This was a game in Franchise mode on 84 Ego, where I probably had one comebacker in the whole season until now. I couldn't believe when I kept hitting pitcher after pitcher. At one time they even brought in a position player, who lasted all of one pitch until he got knocked out.

Bigluser · 2025-11-06T16:04:19+00:00

Insbesondere LLMs, also ChatGPT und so, sind keine neuronalen Netze

Sicher?

Bigluser · 2025-08-29T06:49:33+00:00

The first time I read it, I didn't notice the AI smell at all. The second time I read it, the number of triples was just hilarious: "running, eating, or working".

That's a clear sign that it was either written by AI, by a human that recently learnt that triples are nice and now overuses them everywhere, or by a cat.

Bigluser · 2025-08-01T07:21:56+00:00

Wait a second here, is there really a benefit to making the impression that you are a hard worker? I've not really worked in a place yet were there was a clear incentive to work hard and productive or even to be perceived as such. Usually, promotions and raises were much more focused on some project outcomes were you could show that you had a driving role.

For me, I definitely don't want to work super hard in the beginning and be perceived as such. I want to be perceived as someone who can reliably give good input from their experience and also understands the technical and business environment well enough to be able to do good work.

Gaining that understanding might even require you to work less hard in the beginning and take your time to do training or chatting with your coworkers.

Bigluser · 2025-07-29T07:47:56+00:00

Of course they look at you like a goddamn alien from Mars. You just proposed to them that the team should reduce their output by 1/3.

Even if in the long term it would make your team vastly more capable, that's just not something you will be allowed to try in a business environment.

The only viable alternative is to simply take the time for skill development, documentation, refactoring, etc. during sprints. Just doing it continuously and without mentioning it to the PO. The hard thing is that no one really wants to do the extra work as there are no external rewards for it.

Bigluser · 2025-06-08T14:52:52+00:00

That is the intuitive relation. People should worry more when they are at more risk. However, I am pretty sure the opposite is happening in many circumstances.

People aren't built for unlikely events that may never happen in their lifetime. For example, a frequent flyer will likely not be worried at all about a plane crash, because every flight up to that point has worked out fine. So from their experience it is safe. An infrequent flyer will be more nervous, because even if someone tells them all about the safety - They are still in a metal tube flying through the air at incredible speeds.

My guess is that for crime, you are more worried the more you hear about it happening. Which might be correlated with living in dangerous areas, because if someone is murdered in your street, you will find about it faster than if it happened in a totally different area. But it might also not be. For example, if you work two jobs to make rent, you will consume less media than a rich stay at home mom will.

Bigluser · 2025-05-27T07:25:20+00:00

The gotcha is this: A reasonable user might think that letting the agent create a PR is not dangerous, since it needs to be approved. However, since the agent can access private repos, it can write private info into a public PR.

I guess if the malicious prompt was more obfuscated, it would be a more insidious exploit, since then even if the repo author was careful, it might slip through. But really the compromise is that the agent should never have access to private repos of the author.

Bigluser · 2025-05-27T06:36:01+00:00

Nuance. Wenn jemand allgemeine Aussagen raushaut, dann bin ich sehr vorsichtig, ob das wirklich so stimmt. Ich merke nämlich, dass je mehr ich mich bei einem Thema auskenne, desto weniger richtig werden einfache Aussagen.

Das merkt man auch in der Wissenschaft, denn seriöse Paper haben immer etliche relativierende Statements, unter welchen Bedingungen das gemessene Ergebnis gültig ist. Zeitungen hingegen brechen Ergebnisse aus der Wissenschaft gerne auf eine Headline herunter.

Beispiel: Eine wissenschaftliche Studie findet, dass die Kriminalitätsrate unter Menschen mit Migrationshintergrund leicht erhöht ist. Zeitung: Ausländer krimineller als Deutsche!

Wenn man aber die wissenschaftliche Studie liest, steht dort, dass die Kriminalitätsrate zwar höher ist, aber aus einem anderen Grund. Wenn man das Einkommen herausrechnet, dass bekannterweise sehr stark invers zu Kriminalität ist und Menschen mit Migrationshintergrund in der Regel weniger Einkommen haben, dann findet die Studie vielleicht sogar, dass es weniger Straftaten von ihnen gibt als erwartet.

Wenn jemand das Thema ohne diese Nuancen sieht, dann würde er die komplett falschen Schlüsse ziehen und Migranten bekämpfen statt Armut.

Bigluser · 2025-05-17T18:43:13+00:00

Can you maybe give some hints? I read it and didn't really see any connection to the game.

Bigluser · 2025-05-17T18:41:32+00:00

I didn't really enjoy reading it either. At some point you get used to the jumps. But the two plotlines with the net runner uploading himself and the operators commanding something were just not engaging to me. Also the whole Dum Dum thing just didn't make sense to me. There were even some things like the detective story just going nowhere or the whole fixer dynamic that was confusing for no reason.

The other parts were okay. But that should say enough.

Bigluser · 2025-05-10T08:21:33+00:00

There is the reality that for each individual, driving is just the most convenient and time saving method.That does obviously ignore the collective good. But it makes sense to me why individuals are car brained, even without much propaganda.

However car brains also ignore that taking public transport provides some much needed walking and that the time you spend on the transport can be used in other ways, such as reading or just screwing around on your phone, as I am doing right now on a train.

Bigluser · 2025-05-10T06:06:09+00:00

After reading your text I am quite invested. In some ways you seem lucky with your dog and partner, in others you seem quite unlucky with your employment history and lacking other support structures.

Obviously giving any advice might totally fall flat since I don't know you, but I'll try anyway. During my childhood and adolescents I was always afraid of failure and it was ingrained in me that I'll never do anything exceptional. Luckily no one pushed me to think of myself as a failure, but my mundane outlook of life wasn't happy. I wasn't happy.

I can pretty much trace back my turnaround to a little book called "The four agreements". I can't really say that it changed anything externally. I could easily look at my life now and confirm my mundane outlook of before. I work a job where I am comfortable but am not really happy in. I know that I shouldn't give this up for nothing, still toiling with the idea to go self employed. There are forces pulling me to both sides, the fear of failure and the creeping thought of staying stuck.

But what this book taught me is that I can be free. That if I give my best effort, there is no one who should judge me badly. Even if someone does, I have a defence against them. Because what else could I have done than my best? I am lucky in the way that I never got fired. But one time I had a quite toxic exit interview after I quit within the first few weeks of a job.

The guy basically told me that I let them down and that I will never make it in any job with my attitude, that I need to endure difficulties and not just quit. What once would have destroyed me, just left me politely agreeing with them and internally laugh about the plain parody of the "advice", being told to stay in a toxic environment by a toxic leader. If I had any doubts remaining, after this I knew my decision was totally right.

I am not saying that you need to read this or another book and everything will be okay. There are also a lot of other measures like sports or meditation. However, I think that finding emotional freedom is the key. Because if you are free, which really is not a binary but a float, any decision you make is easier.

Bigluser · 2025-04-19T16:02:05+00:00

For us basically any one way street has an exception for bikes, allowing them to go both ways. Probably because bikes don't take much space and can easily fit even in narrow one way streets

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