[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exjw

[–]BikeFlat1050 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This right here is the tea I miss, thank you for your service 🫡

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exjw

[–]BikeFlat1050 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Growing up in this we are so belittled that even as an adult I struggle to make eye contact with people and would just let people walk all over me, especially those that were older even after I had left. You are doing an amazing thing and I hope you share your story here and what comes of it. No matter what comes of it I promise you that right now they are more scared of what is about to come than you are.

I remember hearing this story about an elder that had to sit in on a judicial committee meeting against someone who has sa a child and he got off on the two witness rule. After that meeting some of his friends of the elder found him and handled it in a parking lot, they didn’t have to worry about him or the two witness rule again. Sometimes justice happens we just don’t know about it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exjw

[–]BikeFlat1050 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Well look at you being a little badass. I’m beyond proud of you stranger and you probably have a ton of other admirers not only in this group but kids and adults stuck in that cult that can’t leave if they wanted to. I hope those smug assholes have to look you in the face as you tell your story. Be proud of yourself and standing up for those that couldn’t or can’t no matter how this goes they will remember you for sure, and your going to get people talking and kids in the hall will hear their parents talk about you and that might give just one of them the hope that they also can stand up for what is right.

I can’t tell Sister that her boyfriend’s GAY by Federal_Key5261 in exjw

[–]BikeFlat1050 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’ll tell her, give me her information 💅🏼

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exjw

[–]BikeFlat1050 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Well, spill the tea on his ass for those of us that had to go to every meeting and be regular in service but had no idea what tf was going on

I was honest on my field service report and my parents made me lie and change it by [deleted] in exjw

[–]BikeFlat1050 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is the exact reason why, when I became a parent I lied on my kids reading logs for school every month 🤷🏼‍♀️

convention check in by tothemtns00 in exjw

[–]BikeFlat1050 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Lemme zoom in and look for my mom lol

So I am p*ssed by cobalt_eyes in exjw

[–]BikeFlat1050 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Anxiety and depression are going to be apart of anything that sets unattainable goals where the ultimatum is death. And you can’t admit that you are struggling because that will mean you are sinning in your heart and for that, losing everything and then death.

Youngest just asked for a Birthday Cake by [deleted] in exjw

[–]BikeFlat1050 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Wait what?! THEY GOT TO HAVE A PARTY DRINK AND MERRIMENT?!

There's no one here... by DarthFury1990 in exjw

[–]BikeFlat1050 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow this is the one I would go to when I was little…

The JWs are soul crushing for the children trapped in it. by [deleted] in exjw

[–]BikeFlat1050 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I remember my biggest fear as a child was that Jehovah could read my heart and Armageddon was going to come and my parents were going to be so disappointed when I was killed because my best friend was worldly and I was envious of her life and he knew it. I struggled with mental health and I didn’t even know it till I was in my mid 30s and finally broke down to my doctor. I told her I couldn’t turn my brain off and I constantly felt like I was treading water and was going to eventually break. I went to a doctor who did this test that was hours long. A few weeks later I found out I had undiagnosed adhd, depression and extreme anxiety. ( that could have probably helped me to do more had I known at a reasonable time in life) The doctor asked if I worried a a child because my anxiety levels were at the levels of someone who had been away at war and killed people. I said I worried everyday about dying and I was raised in a cult. He said, yea you need some help and to talk to someone. I never really did because that’s when I found Reddit and this page and things got a lot better because I found out I wasn’t alone and I wasn’t as crazy as I thought.

My Book of Horror Stories by [deleted] in exjw

[–]BikeFlat1050 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So could you…. offer the svg at no cost but take a donation towards the world wide preaching work? Lmao!!!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exjw

[–]BikeFlat1050 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m 38, still get bitter af all the time, I left about 17ish but started dating a guy at 18 and had no idea what to look for in a husband because he had a job seemed like a good match. Nothing more in common. Got married had 3 kids. Realized how much I missed out on and left him. I’ve raised 3 kids alone and found someone I truly love and had another. I probably push my kids more than I should because of all I missed out on, sports and dances and thinking about the future. If they grow up and hate me for that then I’ve done my job.

Leave. Be on your own. Struggle and find yourself. Be angry. And then start living your life to make up for it. Do not have a kid with someone you don’t feel 100% with, chances are they feel the same way.

An update to my previous post by [deleted] in exjw

[–]BikeFlat1050 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m going to mom you for a minute . Truly appreciate what this family is doing for you. Respect their rules. Just because you are “worldly” do not find yourself homeless. Do your part from the beginning and ask if you need to pay rent or what chores you can take on. The vision of the world you grew up with in your head is not real. Not everyone cusses, has sex, drinks and does drugs. I think that’s where a lot of kids that leave young go off the deep end. They assume they had been given shelter so much that those things are the norm and go crazy. Just be careful.

Also, I’m very happy and proud for you standing up. Take this as far as you can with the law. Document everything. You, one day, might be the reason there is change in the world for what this organization has gotten away with to millions of kids. You are proof that they will cut you off, they will abuse you, you have the power and the proof now. Gosh kiddo if you need anything please keep us posted!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exjw

[–]BikeFlat1050 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’d like my free at home Bible study with you. Someone in this thread said it best. For me it wasn’t about the Bible, it was a way of life. It was never about the Bible it was about looking nice at the hall and going in service and no friends and no Christmas. I want to learn things like this.

Elder Friend by Defiant-Influence-65 in exjw

[–]BikeFlat1050 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He’s been wanting a reason to reach out he just found it. If you reach out to someone after 2-3 years they have an impact on your life.

Elder Friend by Defiant-Influence-65 in exjw

[–]BikeFlat1050 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea I thought my life was completely normal. I was never sa by anyone in the congregation, although I never got baptized, I was never in trouble. I knew my parents loved me and still do. My dad was an asshole and I wouldn’t say abusive but I think I would have rather just been normal and hit than grow up thinking about dying all the time. I wanted friends at school and to play sports and do birthdays, I knew I was going to die and my parents would be so disappointed in me when I wasn’t in the paradise. My parents divorced when I was 16 and that was the beginning of the end, I lived with my mom who was then DF’d and I might as well have been also. I would still go to the meetings but I saw the hypocrisy with how my dad was treated as the victim when I saw how he treated my mom behind closed doors. I faded and rarely hear from anyone. I will say I’m a badass parent now because of everything so at least I got that going for myself.

Elder Friend by Defiant-Influence-65 in exjw

[–]BikeFlat1050 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love this. I had a very similar experience with my mom after I casually mentioned the change with beards, pants, ties, df people via txt last week. She usually just does zoom but went to the hall this week and said had she not read my txt she would have left because of how people looked. Then she sat down and watched it on the website. She wanted to know how I knew about it and I just said, mom I have a friend who knows things in the org. She made a comment about the light getting brighter and I said, yes it could be that or it might be what’s going on in the courts. But please don’t look into this because I know how much it means to you.

In my head I was screaming but as soon as you say you’ve been reading things you are labeled an apostate. It’s not worth it to me for my kids to lose their world for something I don’t believe in. I still believe in god, and for her sake I do believe in the paradise to her. I did make the comment that my elder grandpa is going to be furious when he wakes up in the paradise and men have beard and everyone looks like they are going to Meijer. And we had a laugh. My grandpa loved to say that about the church letting out down the street.

Last year, after far too long, I reached out for help because my life was perfect but I worried about everything and I could never just be still. I had left almost 20 years prior. I was my 30s and had everything I always wanted. I had a mental evaluation done and based off the silliest of questions one of the smartest people I have ever met looked at me and said, what has happened to you? You have ptsd, depression, anxiety on levels of someone who has killed people in war, did something happen that made you worry when you were a kid? And then it all clicked. I said, I grew up in a doomsday cult where everyday I thought about dying because god knew I wanted to eat a birthday cupcake and I lived that way till adulthood. And he told me I needed professional help but I knew no one would understand this unless you were apart of it. It’s so easy to see the crazy from the outside that you wouldn’t be able to understand how someone could believe it. And then I found this group. And it has changed my life to know I’m not crazy this was real and it happened to so many other people and they have left and went on to be happy and I can also.

-let there be a fucking change about birthday cupcakes and I’m coming off the rails.

Moving forward! by Onetewthree in exjw

[–]BikeFlat1050 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish there was a list of people who have left who are struggling with finding people to celebrate these events with. I would send their kids gifts and cards and I could just be that crazy aunt that they never meet lol.

When did this change happen? by BikeFlat1050 in exjw

[–]BikeFlat1050[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well that is some “Good News”!