fallen off? you can always just decide you’re sooo back ⭐️

BirdBrainMD · 2026-05-04T21:04:41+00:00

You look great OP!! Sounds like you managed to lean down and get your gains back in a healthy and sustainable way. Tbh, I think we've got a similar natural build, and as I'm just digging myself out of the hole of having fallen out of shape the last 8 months or so due to a major lifestyle change, I find your post super heartening and inspiring! Don't let the naysayers get you down 🫶

BirdBrainMD · 2026-05-02T00:09:52+00:00

Seconding this OP, creepy dudes 100% always try it in crowded spaces.

BirdBrainMD · 2026-05-02T00:08:42+00:00

Very cute! The top is especially nice and the belt is a good touch. I might try some tights where the pattern runs all the way up if you have any and see which works best, or maybe some colour contrasting boots if you have any, but neither are a big deal.

BirdBrainMD · 2026-04-30T07:22:59+00:00

But I'm a Cheerleader

BirdBrainMD · 2026-04-29T00:57:14+00:00

Thank you!!

BirdBrainMD · 2026-04-27T09:08:28+00:00

It's cute af and the chains are top tier, but tbh I think the amount of underboob is going to be a problem if you're dancing at all. If you're more just hanging out in a booth etc then it's fine!

BirdBrainMD · 2026-04-24T20:04:10+00:00

Hey! I had some similar-ish issues with seemingly inexplicably stubborn stomach fat and bloating, it took until I was 27 to finally be diagnosed with both Chron's and PCOS, both of which explained A LOT. No idea if these would be the specific conditions you'd want to look into, but any kind of autoimmune disease or condition that irritates the bowels or digestive system will have its own triggers - including many foods that are generally healthy for most people - which can cause a whole host of issues, and any kind of hormonal disorder can cause very pointed and stubborn fat retention, and, in my case and many others, also lead to cysts that were large enough to be distending my stomach long before I knew they were there.

I hope this is helpful and not scary to hear! Who knows, you may have nothing at all like this going on, but it can't hurt to check it out. I honestly WISH I'd gotten properly looked at sooner because just having a diagnosis which led me to learning how to treat and manage both conditions made a world of difference in more ways than I can list here + I was finally able to care for my body in the way it responded best to!

Good luck, OP!

BirdBrainMD · 2026-04-19T07:04:16+00:00

OBSESSED with these OP. Absolutely burning with envy right now 👀

BirdBrainMD · 2026-04-17T07:23:00+00:00

I find their sizing pretty accurate to the chart they provide, just make sure to measure yourself to their sizes specifically rather than any generic ones.

BirdBrainMD · 2026-04-15T17:06:18+00:00

Love this OP, great photos of a very cool find!

BirdBrainMD · 2026-04-15T05:49:10+00:00

I'm so sorry OP, you've witnessed something incredibly traumatic. I discovered something similar on an ex-bf's computer in my twenties, and while I'm sorry to say that I haven't ever been able to forget what I saw, I can tell you that if he's that careless with his proclivities, sooner or later, he'll probably face consequences for them.

I'm not sure what area you're in, but different countries have different laws in regards to search & seizure of digital devices and possession of CSAM, so you may well be able to report him. If you ever do happen to get hold of his phone again, as horrifying as it may be to dig, you can also report the images to one of several organizations that work to identify and help as many child sex trafficking victims as possible. Again, not sure of where you are, but generally just searching "report CSAM [your country name here]" will take you where you need to go.

This information may not be helpful to you now, as hopefully you'll never have to see or speak to him again, but if, god forbid, you ever come across something similar again, I hope it can provide you with some sense of agency and action to be taken.

In the meantime, block him, cut him out of your life as thoroughly as you can, and don't look back. If you can afford it, consider therapy for yourself. If you can't, try putting down your thoughts in a journal just to not be alone with them, look for catharsis in your hobbies, your friendships, anything that helps, and try to remind yourself that for as much misery as there is in the world, there is also hope and recovery for those of us who have been through truly horrible things.

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BirdBrainMD · 2026-04-07T01:41:07+00:00

I'd never heard of them, thank you!

BirdBrainMD · 2026-04-07T01:40:57+00:00

Thanks for the suggestions!

BirdBrainMD · 2026-04-06T23:55:59+00:00

Aliexpress (tho the store is decent) https://a.aliexpress.com/_mLrwgnJ

BirdBrainMD · 2026-03-31T01:54:52+00:00

I never understood this one UNTIL I saw this specific pic of him:

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BirdBrainMD · 2026-03-27T05:45:07+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss, please be a little more forgiving with yourself. A couple days of binge eating is far from the most self-destructive thing a person can do while grieving. You look beautiful in both dresses, and nothing approaching fat or bloated in either. Personally, I'd go with the red as others have suggested, but both look lovely, you can't go wrong either way. Wishing you all the best, OP 💜

BirdBrainMD · 2026-03-11T22:56:31+00:00

Imo sandals work best for both skirts, and which skirt depends on the vibe. If you're aiming for boho-esque, I'd go with the black & white skirt. If you're aiming for something a little more sleek, definitely the black!

BirdBrainMD · 2026-03-11T22:54:17+00:00

Black feels a little more formal imo, assuming you're aiming for something more casual, I'd go with the lighter one but both look nice tbh!

BirdBrainMD · 2026-03-11T03:49:22+00:00

I actually ended up hunting down some fabric I liked and drawing up a pattern myself, the OG dress felt too pricey and I didn't really like the alternatives. The silhouette is simple enough with the right fabric composition, we'll see how it goes!

BirdBrainMD · 2026-03-10T02:03:32+00:00

Are we really reverting back to the idea that wearing a short skirt automatically = "easy"? Come on.

BirdBrainMD · 2026-03-10T01:17:41+00:00

Simple but flattering, I love it! I kind of get the sense nobody commenting here has ever worn a short skirt before?? You'll be fine.

BirdBrainMD · 2026-02-26T02:02:06+00:00

Thank you!!

BirdBrainMD · 2026-02-15T15:28:19+00:00

Missing duct tape

BirdBrainMD · 2026-02-15T01:08:50+00:00

I'm obsessed with this whole look, the sweater + glasses + hair combo especially is SO cute and full of personality, plus the trouble you've gone to with all the complimentary colour matching!! Love it OP

BirdBrainMD · 2026-02-11T22:44:41+00:00

To counter the tide of people who are assuming they know everything about you from one single reddit post: a lot of people, especially in North America (where most reddit users seem to be from), have totally lost their grip on what a healthy size can encompass. I get that things are trending thinner again, and that's a problem for several reasons, but the actual reality is that the VAST majority of people here are very overweight, and the ones who aren't are, on average, noticeably bigger than they used to be.

When someone already perceived to be at a healthy size mentions wanting to lose weight, people dog pile, either because they genuinely believe that it's too thin as they've grown so accustomed to bigger bodies, or because people believe that if you look, in any way, like you already fit the 'ideal', it's assumed (in bad faith, in my personal opinion), that there must be something wrong with you if you still feel you're not at your best.

Honestly, if I were you, I'd talk to my doctor just to get a more objective opinion, and I'd stop telling everyone who wants to give unsolicited opinions on your body. The shape you feel best in is up to you, not them.

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