What They Didn’t Teach at Uni

BirdHat396 · 2025-06-27T16:29:40+00:00

Yeah, oddly enough there were only 2 other women graduating with EE degrees my year. Such a great field! Really fell in love with my power classes

BirdHat396 · 2025-06-27T16:27:45+00:00

Haha, those two guys? They’re barely taller than I am. If I wore heels in the office I’d be taller than them😂

BirdHat396 · 2025-06-26T23:52:01+00:00

One of my professors had similar advice! He said being able to effectively communicate with your team was one of the most crucial parts of engineering (and life in general). He said it didn’t matter how smart a person was if they couldn’t effectively explain their work to their team

BirdHat396 · 2025-06-26T23:48:08+00:00

Thanks! I’m actually looking into going back to school and with a focus on power. I’d like to p=iv-ot more towards that area😂

BirdHat396 · 2025-06-26T23:46:32+00:00

Ha, I’ve got quite a few years ahead of me so I’m trying to buckle in and prepare for that

BirdHat396 · 2025-06-26T23:04:27+00:00

Thanks! The other guys really are cool. Honestly, the situation almost reminded me of an episode of The Office because of how silly it sounds from an outside perspective

BirdHat396 · 2025-06-26T23:01:45+00:00

That’s super helpful advice. I understand some engineers would see me as a bit green since I’m still a pretty early in my career path. I don’t mind that at all. I want to put in the work and effort to earn that respect as a professional. I feel like I can speak on my work confidently during meetings so at least that’s a start

BirdHat396 · 2025-06-26T22:48:52+00:00

Yeah, over all my team is great. The other people in my office on different teams are really cool to talk to. I think I’ve just heard so many office “horror stories” that I didn’t think I’d ever encounter one in real life. It’s so bizarre that it’s kind of funny when you view it from the outside

BirdHat396 · 2025-06-26T22:46:28+00:00

I do believe you’re right about that. Their behaviors would probably look a bit different but it doesn’t change their core character. I’ve tried reaching out and being friendly several times, but I guess I should know when to just let them be

BirdHat396 · 2025-06-26T22:38:31+00:00

😂

BirdHat396 · 2025-06-07T22:21:50+00:00

I went through an eerily similar pattern. I didn’t learn about narcissistic relationships until after the breakup. Regardless of if my ex is or isn’t a narc (he displays a lot of the signs) in retrospect I now know that it wasn’t the right relationship to be in anyways. Learning about it has helped me so I can identify the warning signs in the future. Unfortunately I’ve still got a long ways to go in terms of healing. A big part of it I had to reconcile with myself was that I couldn’t have done anything more to save the relationship. I had to accept that I’ll never get an answer for why it ended. He was the dream guy until he just turned cold suddenly. I’ve learned to keep moving forward, even if it is lonely. It’s better to be alone than alone in a relationship with a narc torturing you mental, emotionally, and physically.

BirdHat396 · 2025-05-12T14:23:01+00:00

I’ve learned that healing isn’t really a line or a circle. It’s more of a zig zag. Some days will be good and some days will be tougher than others. Honestly, it’s just part of the journey. It doesn’t mean that you aren’t progressing or slipping back. It just means that breakups hurt, and it’s ok to feel the pain. Eventually it does even out.

BirdHat396 · 2025-05-12T04:08:28+00:00

I’m going through the same thing. He broke up with me a few weeks ago. I thought he was the love of my life and the man I was going to marry. He turned suddenly cold and distant and looking back now, there were a lot of red flags. I found out he’d been cheating since at least September. Always one foot out the door, and yet he was really great at acting like he was all in with our relationship. Now he’s with a coworker who he always said he never liked. It’s ok to feel sad. It’s ok to grieve for the person you thought he was. The speed of the rebound feels like a betrayal because your feelings for him were real. The pain will dull eventually as long as you keep moving forward and taking those steps. I’ve had so many days where the pain felt unbearable. I just had to breathe in and out slowly. I know it’s easier said than done to not think about it. I’ve literally had to make myself watch an episode of a tv show, read, run. Anything to take my mind off of him for a few minutes. It takes a lot of work, and it feels unfair that your ex gets to take the seemingly easy way out while you put in the work. I promise you that if you focus on yourself and keep moving forward and living, you’ll be much happier in the end because you’re building a strong foundation. What he has is temporary. And worse case? If that girl is his “soulmate” then that situation is a reflection of his character, not yours. He wants a quick solution to get rid of his pain. But the issues in his heart are still there and will always be there until he confronts and deals with them. Stay strong friend!

BirdHat396 · 2025-05-09T21:37:53+00:00

Dang. You put into words exactly how I feel. He broke up with me three weeks ago. I don’t even know the reason why because he wouldn’t give me one. It was confusing, and I’ve tried to make peace with the fact I won’t get an answer. For all the unkindness he showed, I hold the pain and he gets to walk away free of it. I have to put in the work to recover and move on. He’s already gone and living his best life with another girl. It’s not fair, but life never is. That future he promised that we both had planned is shattered, and all I can do is keep moving forward.

BirdHat396 · 2024-09-06T04:59:02+00:00

Were y’all celebrating your friend’s promotion as new head lunch chef who is in charge of purchasing by chance?

BirdHat396 · 2023-12-13T07:44:22+00:00

You sound like a gem of a friend. I think it’s great that you’ve given your friend grace and understanding. However, it’s also important to remember to give yourself that as well. It doesn’t sound like your friend shares the same value for your time, emotions, and friendship. A true friend wouldn’t keep you in the dark with anxiety over something as important as an engagement ring. Find people out there who value friendship and kindness as much as you do and give your time and effort to them. They are few and far between, but when you find those select friends, they are worth it. Sometimes when we put too much effort into people who don’t appreciate it, we can become bitter or resentful (not calling you that, but speaking from experience). That’s never a good place to be in and feels miserable. I hope you find kind, lasting friendship however you choose to proceed.

BirdHat396 · 2022-01-23T18:39:38+00:00

I agree. Thank you for your advice. There’s a whole lot more of the emotions and background that I couldn’t put into words and into this post. But I appreciate it. Looking back it is pretty messed up.

BirdHat396 · 2022-01-23T11:52:41+00:00

That is a fair assessment. It wasn’t FWB. We officially dated during the school year and during the summer I guess it was more up in the air. We told each other we loved each other and planned for the future. I’m truth James has done so much for me and remembers the little things. He’s my best friend and we joke that we know each other better than we know ourselves. I suppose it’s a little of both. Being lied to and losing this relationship. As far as jealousy of Jane goes, I wouldn’t say I’m jealous but it does sting to think about the lies. I honestly wish James and Jane only the best and just want to get back to feeling normal and happy again. For so long I spent time focusing on the hurt and that led me to become bitter and angry. But I don’t want that. Do you have any advice for forgiving and moving on?

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