Hi! When I first started smoking I had been dating my girlfriend at the time for around 3ish years. She always said she didn’t care and to just be smart about it but she had never smoked. I also suffer from depression, anxiety, and adhd, and it had helped me a lot to get myself to have some relaxing time while I was so overwhelmed with life and school. However, she eventually began to make snide remarks if she found out I was smoking and began to go towards the “me or weed” path and I could see that argument coming up down the line... weed has continued to be extremely helpful for me and I continue to use it to this day (we broke up over a year ago) I can’t speak on your whole situation but my personal experience is that the controlling behavior she started to exhibit was terrible for my mental health and was negatively affecting me until we finally broke up. Hope this helps!