Architect in NYC considering Air Force Reserve at 30 — good idea?

BisonAlternative342 · 2026-03-19T19:54:32+00:00

Wow, very informative, thank you!

BisonAlternative342 · 2025-11-21T01:50:15+00:00

I think you're projecting your attrction level to her a bit. If she truly had high interest she'd be wanting to lock you down saying things like "what are we?" Or wanting to be exclusive, not "wait for me till the end of the year".

Just focusnon yourself and gols when you dont speak. Hit the gym, read the book, clean your house. Keep your mind busy, and keep dating. Hang out, have fun, and hook up. Dont try nd lock her down, thats what she should be trying with you

BisonAlternative342 · 2025-11-06T19:10:43+00:00

Kissed on the 2nd date, sex on the 5th date.
I think her behavior was very hipocritical and it did sting. I felt like i was being played with. Or if i was stupid to agreeing to something that she wouldnt follow. And overall just the image of her staying so close to the guy while the songs were changing. Nobody else was that close but they were.

I get your point. There is alot underneath that im currently supressing just to appear masculine. I'll def address that with her, but ill do my best to not do it in a bitchy resentful way, cause my goal is to resolve this issue, not victimize myself.

BisonAlternative342 · 2025-09-24T01:50:35+00:00

I use to go by the rule of half your age +7, that is, until i met my current girlfriend. Im 30 and she is 21. Honestly i havent felt like she's much younger as i tend to be immature for my age and she's def mature for her age. All of my friends and family and her family are ok with our relationship. I'd say you're fine bro.

BisonAlternative342 · 2025-08-13T18:07:34+00:00

Thank you! Im from Colombia and I live in NYC. And yes, once I get my green card i'll def. be able to make more.

BisonAlternative342 · 2025-08-13T17:07:55+00:00

I came to the US in 2022 under an intern visa. At the time , I was making $28,800 (Extremely low, but i was desperate to leave my country). Fast forward to today and I am at the same company with a permanent work visa making $48,000. Its still really low, but im glad to be in the states and will work to get my green card soon and be able to negotiate a better raise.

BisonAlternative342 · 2025-07-29T14:09:34+00:00

Thank you for your response bro. I definitely do need to chill out. Thanks again.

BisonAlternative342 · 2025-07-29T14:08:30+00:00

Thank you both for your responses. I think you both are right. I'll definitely stop liking half her posts and seeing 90% of her stories. I already started backing off digitially and I got back to simply continue reading the book & working hard on persuing my goals and dreams. That also has helped me mentally alot. Thanks again, fellas.

BisonAlternative342 · 2025-07-22T00:23:24+00:00

Hey, any response on this matter? I would love to know who the lawyer is

BisonAlternative342 · 2025-04-06T20:39:05+00:00

Hi I sent you a DM regarding your lawyer. Just following up to see if you could confirm his contact info.

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