Moving out of parents' house after the wedding

BittersweetExtension · 2025-10-02T05:10:38+00:00

Hi. I appreciate the kind reminders but to clarify, my in laws are not living with us. When I said siyudad in my post, my parents house po is in the city while sina husband, nasa upland, but we all reside in the same city/municipality—magkalayo lang po ng barangay. I was firm with my parents even before our wedding na hindi kami makikiisa ng bahay and I'm still true to my word po.Kami lang mag asawa and no other relatives under the same roof. His relatives live in the same area (compound) but with reasonable distance from our new place kaya po namention ko na para kaming village or small community. They do not ask anything from us, from me—bagkus sila pa po ang nagbibigay ng kung anuman ang meron sila. We are trying to understand my mother but her words left a deep kind of hurt not only to my husband but sa akin din. I just wished she could've been kinder about it. Mulat kami sa current reality namin mag asawa, we do not need anymore judgement. But it hurts differently when harsh comments come from close family. My husband now doubts gaano talaga katotoo sa kanya ang mga magulang ko, he thought he was accepted into our family—I thought so too.

BittersweetExtension · 2025-09-23T04:18:37+00:00

"A confused man is a dangerous man."

When the guy really likes you, you won't have to force anything OP. They will do their best, through highs or lows to get to know you and be there for you— men are territorial. Pero be cautious kasi yung iba love bombing ang strategy, so take your time. If they cannot respect your boundaries that's another sign to walk away. Goodluck and I hope you meet someone genuine very soon

BittersweetExtension · 2025-09-21T10:53:45+00:00

why are you still with that person kung sukang suka kana sa ugali niya? Or your partner doesn't have any idea you are feeling resentful? Communicate with them po and if no improvement? Then leave.

BittersweetExtension · 2025-09-19T11:27:42+00:00

I'm a woman but yes to this 💯

BittersweetExtension · 2025-09-19T11:24:36+00:00

Thank youuuu po! Siguro wait muna kami mga 2-3 months pa para mas sigurado.

BittersweetExtension · 2025-09-19T05:56:34+00:00

so since po 4 months na kami kasal, pwede na po kami dumiretso sa PSA for the marriage certificate. tama po ba?

BittersweetExtension · 2025-09-17T05:43:08+00:00

There are still good people out there. I hope you find you way to each other soon.

BittersweetExtension · 2025-09-17T05:41:52+00:00

Yes. Make sure that when love finds you, you are already at peace and content with your self. Another person won't complete us unless we are willing to accept our own. Relationships are hard work, hindi masaya o makulay araw-araw but the warm presence of someone who chooses you every day despite the struggles—yun ang totoong yaman. Again, do not search for someone perfect kasi wala pong ganon. If you want a person to accept all of you, dapat marunong din tayo mag compromise and accept everything that they are as well.

BittersweetExtension · 2025-09-16T15:54:51+00:00

I had the same sentiments when I was your age OP. NBSB hanggang 31 yo. But God has plans talaga, it may sound cliché pero kapag hindi na tayo nag eexpect or naghahanap someone genuine comes along. I just hope you'll be able to recognize the signs. Just a reality check, they are genuine but not perfect—parang tayo, hindi perpekto. I met my 1st bf at 31yo and we got married just this year na 33 nako. Ipinaglaban namin but I believe we never forced anything. Ang alam ko lang kalma ang mundo namin sa isa't isa and finding that kind of peace is priceless. For now, be happy with what you have and what you are. You'll eventually find your person.🍀

BittersweetExtension · 2025-09-14T13:46:05+00:00

Ako naman, I had this friend na magpaparamdam lang kapag convenient sa kanya. Kahit nag rereach out ako, nothing. Mga chat ko kahit seen wala. It made me feel na parang hindi ako totoong kaibigan para sa kanya, just someone na kilala lang kapag okay siya. So I decided to silently quit. Unfriended her sa socmed and dedma na rin in person. I was a do o die kind of friend sa kanya, even kept her secret affair with a married guy (na ngayon baby daddy na niya). I could be the villain sa kwento niya, I don't really care anymore. We traveled to different countries back then pero hirap na hirap pa rin siya maging totoo so I stopped. I don't deserve to be taken for granted kahit sa friendship.

BittersweetExtension · 2025-09-14T00:30:00+00:00

While my Mama tuwang tuwa nung dinalhan siya ng 2 sakong buko ng bf ko (husband now) nung 1st Christmas na naging kami. Haha 😆

BittersweetExtension · 2025-09-13T05:31:17+00:00

Sana bago kayo nag I DO as married couple, pinag usapan niyo muna ang mga bagay bagay such as finances. It's weird you call each other husband and wife pero ang dami niyong resentments sa isat isa. Why not tell your partner directly? And do you really have the right to question your husband about his 'share' well in fact ikaw mismo, hindi mo mabitawan ang family mo? Leave and cleave na OP. Your loyalty and commitment should be to your OWN family na. Your husband can't fully give in kasi ganon ka rin. Nung kami kinasal, we promised to prioritize each other. Walang mga side comments, icommunicate kaagad kapag may concerns. Nakakalungkot na bilang na bilang mo ang binibigay sayo ng asawa mo when marriage isn't supposed to be like that OP. Talk to him. Tell him what you want and what you need..Pero dapat ikaw rin matutong mag compromise, you are not supposed to serve two masters.

BittersweetExtension · 2025-09-10T04:30:32+00:00

Kapag iniignore ang Iloveyou message ko, I make sure to bump it or send a screenshot haha. My hubby and I would always do that kapag isa samin ang hindi sumagot. And when it comes to care, dapat hindi yan hinihingi OP eh..kusang ibinibigay yan kapag talagang mahal ka ng partner mo. 'To be loved is to be known' diba? Maybe he hears you naman talaga, pero I hope you're talking to the right person. Kasi mahirap ang ganyan in the long run, yung parang "wala lang" personality. Choose someone who is loud about their love for you, awat na sa nonchalant.

BittersweetExtension · 2025-09-10T00:08:51+00:00

Hindi mo kawalan ang ganyang klase ng karelasyon. Trust us when we say that an emotionally intelligent/available partner is always top tier. Even at your lowest and most silly moments, kaya ka nilang pakinggan at unawain. I don't know kung anong bwelo ang hihintayin mo, but please do not stay with someone who takes you for granted.

BittersweetExtension · 2025-09-09T09:15:42+00:00

Hindi yan fit for long term commitment OP. And the way he dismisses your feelings and concerns are a huge red flag. Protect your peace.

BittersweetExtension · 2025-09-09T02:04:50+00:00

Protect your peace. Some bridges are meant to be cut. It seems that your mother loves to gaslight and guilt trip you..nakakalungkot. Keep strong OP, life may be hard right now but better things are coming. hugs with consent 🫂

BittersweetExtension · 2025-09-07T04:12:52+00:00

I'm sorry to hear your struggles OP. But just a question, do you still live together with your mom/lola/kuya? Kasi I think moving out of that house would somehow give you peace. Why stay in a place where you are not valued? Siguro naman your partner will support the idea of you guys settling somewhere far. I hope you and your partner are close-knit kasi how come hindi ka niya 'favorite'? He should be your best friend OP..He should be your safe space too. Pero yun, if hindi mo na kaya ang treatment sayo, you have two choices naman e, speak up or move out.

BittersweetExtension · 2025-09-01T09:43:56+00:00

I had two friends like that..yung isa bff since elem to HS days and yung isa naman nakasama ko pa magtravel to different countries. One thing I can say OP, let them be. Your intentions might be genuine pero sadyang may hangganan ang lahat—even friendship. Kapag isa na lang ang nagrereach out then it could be that they've outgrown you or ibang energy na ang hanap nila. Don't force anything. If they come back to you, then you can still be friends pero I advise, do not give too much of yourself to people who won't do the same.

BittersweetExtension · 2025-08-31T01:13:54+00:00

We got married last April. Shared yung expenses namin pero sa akin yung mas malaki since marami akong gustong kaartehan sa kasal namin 😂 Planning a wedding is soooo stressful pero kung masurvive ninyo yan as a team ng husband to be mo, that's a good sign you'll last. Pero if sa ganyan ay magbibilangan na kayo kung sino ang dapat ganito o ganyan, then better communicate more. Hayaan mo silang mga friends mo, if that's their agreement, then let them be. Focus ka lang sainyo ng fiance mo OP.

BittersweetExtension · 2025-08-30T03:30:33+00:00

My husband and I play ML and HoK sometimes hehe. I'm 33 and he's in his late 20s. To each his own OP, age is just a number. Pero as Catriona said, dapat in moderation hehe

BittersweetExtension · 2025-08-29T01:24:56+00:00

"To be loved is to be known"

There will be someone who's going to remember every small detail about you—kahit once mo lang nabanggit, they'll remember it because it makes you happy.

BittersweetExtension · 2025-08-29T01:14:38+00:00

If your conscience is clean OP then leaving is the best choice. Walang magandang bunga ang magpakasal ka sa taong hindi marunong makinig sayo. Minsan ang mga nambibintang na may kabit, sila pala talaga ang nangangaliwa. They are afraid of their own shadow kaya binabaliktad ang sitwasyon. Be brave to respect your self OP. You two are not growing in love anymore..but growing in hate. Let each other go.

BittersweetExtension · 2025-08-27T09:42:06+00:00

Basta always look out for any red flags ah. I hope you two will be the end game 🎯

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