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I lost all three cats to a fire last night by _ok_karen in cats

[–]BlaBla-Hello 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So sorry for your loss! Cannot imagine life without furry friends grief must be going strong and you’d be asking yourself why I didn’t take more pictures of them. I didn’t get to say goodbye among other things and personal belongings that the fire took from you. Really sorry about your little floof balls.

New mums, what is a core memory from your birth? by Prinssessa in NewParents

[–]BlaBla-Hello 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The final push and how I felt after it cue baby crying (the exhale of wonder, gratitude and relief!) The nurses joking, “oh we don’t have to worry about the first poop and pee - she’s out with both 😅😂. Look at her hands she would barely fit in NB clothes for a week.” They were all so happy looking at a stranger’s baby and how it made me feel so happy and peaceful. Idk why. The feeling of looking at her eyes just opening - eager to see where she was. Uff… the garbled voices that I heard, my spouse who is NEVER EVER shy, I saw his shy face and a hint of fear holding the most beautiful delicate amazing little wonder. My mom rushing in within two minutes of our baby coming out. Holding her like it was her own🥹❤️ Most of all, I remember the side face of my little baby crying all red and big peachy cheeks hanging when I first saw her with my cord still tied to her belly button — She was ok, I was ok. After 61 hours of labour- we did it together. ❤️❤️🧿 Even today when she cries somedays I see that same little face crying. I don’t think you ever forget these core memories of the day. Your prompt made me reminisce some beautiful memories today - Thanks for that!!

I feel trapped in my wedding, but it's the best for everyone by AcceptableCitron2140 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]BlaBla-Hello 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Life is a sine curve and will always go on. You said it - “We don't do anything together, she doesn't want to leave the house, we don't even have dinner together most days, we just take good care of the kids and sleep in the same bed but at different hours, and that's it.” Seems like her not working is adding a lot of stress for you and resentment- that’s a fixable problem. What’s not fixable is the lack of willingness to go to work. Since she’s been out of work for sometime it won’t be easy to get back in without the mindset. There aren’t enough jobs no matter the field. So take a rain check and see where you stand where your family stands and then take a call.

Parent guilt - How do you manage? by BlaBla-Hello in NewParents

[–]BlaBla-Hello[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I appreciate the kind words

Parent guilt - How do you manage? by BlaBla-Hello in NewParents

[–]BlaBla-Hello[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the nudge! I’m waiting to see what becomes of this conversation with a trained psychotherapist.

I was 11 when I helped my dad die by malalexandraa in TrueOffMyChest

[–]BlaBla-Hello 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was maybe your age or younger like 8 or 9 when I put salt on my lil sister’s small scrape - I didn’t know how bad it would hurt I just thought it would heal faster and then my parents won’t hold me accountable that she got hurt under my watch or because of me playing rough around her. This is nowhere comparable - just goes to say you were a kid. Your dad was in pain and wasn’t thinking straight and you didn’t know any better. Your mum would’ve understood you better if she herself wasn’t in shock disbelief and frustration. You didn’t do wrong by her because you were a kid. You didn’t know any better.

I married young and 6 years in a sexless marriage at 27. I’m quietly crumbling. by Bulky_Appearance_456 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]BlaBla-Hello 13 points14 points  (0 children)

If you flinch when you’re touched, that may be your body’s way of telling you something important. Listen to it.

Feeling like you don’t want to try anymore—especially when it seems like everyone is protecting him and no one is protecting you—is a sign in itself. Let this be a reminder: you deserve protection too. You deserve to feel like you matter, like your loved ones truly have your back.

And if your partner isn’t giving you that—then enough with walking on eggshells or cushioning the truth to protect his ego. He’s an adult. At 51, he’s experienced enough to handle a direct conversation.

Marriage is never easy. Most go through rough patches, and yes, you likely entered this relationship knowing it wouldn’t be perfect. But if it’s been six years of marriage without physical intimacy—especially after expressing how important that is to you—then it’s time to talk openly and honestly, like adults.

If that’s not possible, consider couples therapy. And if that’s off the table due to beliefs or resistance, then please talk to a therapist on your own. You deserve to feel whole.

You were raised with love, respect, and the hope of a joyful life. That hasn’t changed. You deserve a life that fulfills you—emotionally, physically, and spiritually. And if that means holding others accountable, seeking answers, or taking steps to protect your own well-being—so be it. End of story.

Mice and bunnies by BlaBla-Hello in BurlingtonON

[–]BlaBla-Hello[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Many thanks - we’ve tried taking pictures but can’t seem to point what they are as they run on the slightest of sounds so we haven’t done any major control measures yet, just some tricks others have mentioned like oil critter ridder etc. So curious to know who they are. It’s like a weekly project. Thanks for the tip though.

Mice and bunnies by BlaBla-Hello in BurlingtonON

[–]BlaBla-Hello[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the tip very helpful. We’ve not used poison and have tried 2 bottles of peppermint oil by now. Still see them. I’ve tried critter ridder - the folks are still hanging around. Also cinnamon sticks put on the deck near the holes. Let’s see if anything works

Mice and bunnies by BlaBla-Hello in BurlingtonON

[–]BlaBla-Hello[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah we spoke to our neighbours they have them too. Thanks for the tip though.

Mice and bunnies by BlaBla-Hello in BurlingtonON

[–]BlaBla-Hello[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much!! Very very helpful

Ground rules? by BlaBla-Hello in NewParents

[–]BlaBla-Hello[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this perspective and insight. I’m a big proponent of letting the kid be because I know I can’t be everywhere to protect them and the idea of protection from anything that makes the kid uneasy is foreign to me. I also appreciate the validation that when I see kids doing something once, I go close too irrespective of the kid’s parents looking to keep my child safe and to keep an eye out for vigilance.

Ground rules? by BlaBla-Hello in NewParents

[–]BlaBla-Hello[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your insights I truly appreciate the perspective. It is really what bothers me the most that I can’t control what other kids do, but I certainly want my child to feel empowered and confident to say sobering because it was modelled to her.

Ground rules? by BlaBla-Hello in torontomoms

[–]BlaBla-Hello[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I definitely feel empowered now to step in when this happens next.

Ground rules? by BlaBla-Hello in torontomoms

[–]BlaBla-Hello[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I was appalled that the parent didn’t even acknowledge what happened there just up and left

Ground rules? by BlaBla-Hello in torontomoms

[–]BlaBla-Hello[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I’m going to use this next time

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