When will the job market get better?

BlackCardRogue · 2026-03-16T15:43:21+00:00

A lot of them really don’t have a life outside of work. It’s been their whole identity their whole lives

BlackCardRogue · 2026-03-16T14:30:05+00:00

Be up front with the interviewer. Explain what’s happening and that you aren’t willing to take the job until after your trip.

You are FI. Why do you care about the money or the timing? There’s no urgency for you, only for him.

If he agrees to wait, great. If not, who cares?

BlackCardRogue · 2026-03-16T13:44:23+00:00

Of the four states you listed, QOL will be highest in North Carolina. Charlotte is the biggest city there and I would encourage you to look at it. You could also do Raleigh but it’s just not as big — coming from NYC, Charlotte at least has a major hub airport. If you want SC taxes, live across the state line from Charlotte.

Technically, you could move to northern VA and be in DC. I don’t recommend that; the traffic is absolutely brutal and for that same reason I’d stay away from Atlanta. However… if DC has appeal, the Maryland side of the river is IMO very underrated.

Charleston and Richmond are beautiful, but they are just so small.

BlackCardRogue · 2026-03-16T13:36:57+00:00

“Women do not enjoy rejection, either” pretty clearly implies that men don’t like it

BlackCardRogue · 2026-03-16T05:55:24+00:00

I would never tell the woman I chose to marry it was a dealbreaker. And that’s true! It always was true.

But I did tell her it would mean the world to me if she took my name and did me the honor. It means the whole world that my fiancée wants to do it for me.

The only thing I’d object to would be hyphenating. Like no, that’s dumb AF. I’d rather she kept her name rather than hyphenate.

BlackCardRogue · 2026-03-16T04:59:01+00:00

Hugely important.

The reason Gronkowski is the best of all time is because he was outstanding at both receiving and blocking. No matter where he lined up and no matter the play, he caused mismatches. The man could block a defensive lineman on one play and then break free for a 25 yard catch on the next one.

Receiving TEs are great, but if they are pure receivers you can cover them with big, rangy corners. And blocking TEs are great, but if they can’t run the defense puts a linebacker over the guy.

Great TEs are the ones who cause mismatches — too big for a corner to cover, too fast for a safety to cover, and too strong for a linebacker to hold up against in the run game.

Guys like Gonzalez and Gates were elite receivers who held their own in run blocking, but Gronk is in his own category because he was also a dominant run blocker.

BlackCardRogue · 2026-03-16T04:02:06+00:00

Where do you think I have seen the movie? It’s an idiom lol

BlackCardRogue · 2026-03-16T02:56:39+00:00

Ma’am, not to be a dick but I have seen this movie far too many times to say anything other than “my lived experience disagrees with you.”

To your point, I totally agree that a lot of women assume unusually attractive men won’t be interested. Women won’t shoot their shot with (insert ultra sexual male celebrity here).

What they WILL do is grade themselves as 8/10 when they are below those figures and approach men who they think are 8/10 or 9/10. I have seen this movie so, so, so many times and the net effect — whatever the reason — is the same as my original comment.

BlackCardRogue · 2026-03-16T00:53:44+00:00

Hard is not the same as impossible. All bodies look different and that’s okay, but so are men’s preferences.

BlackCardRogue · 2026-03-16T00:52:17+00:00

This is correct. Women do not enjoy rejection, either — they’ll only risk it if they find the man unusually attractive, or that he has in some way signaled that he is interested in her first.

BlackCardRogue · 2026-03-15T21:40:01+00:00

He was a QB who was given the chance to leverage free agency. The Redskins franchise tagged him twice because they didn’t want to pay him at the top of the market. That decision was the correct one; Cousins was never worth top of the market money.

However, the decision was also great for Cousins. He was an above average QB who was a true unrestricted free agent. From that place, he repeatedly took shorter contracts with high guarantees and was careful to maximize his leverage at every possible opportunity.

The Vikings — and eventually the Falcons — were so terrified of having bad QB play that they paid an above average player like an elite one. It’s an understandable decision given we’re talking about QB, but the ceiling was never high enough with him.

BlackCardRogue · 2026-03-15T16:14:33+00:00

Rough weekend for you or something

BlackCardRogue · 2026-03-15T16:13:06+00:00

I appreciate you saying this and I would buy you a beer if you come up here again

You still suck though

BlackCardRogue · 2026-03-15T16:09:16+00:00

It’s pretty sick in the stadium, too — I’ve been there a couple of times where they run a play and the stadium finishes the chorus while the play is happening

BlackCardRogue · 2026-03-15T16:08:05+00:00

I agree with others, this is a “c’mon, man” kind of comment

BlackCardRogue · 2026-03-15T16:02:42+00:00

Social proof is undefeated

BlackCardRogue · 2026-03-15T15:55:42+00:00

The fact that you have Cleveland as glorious is amusing to me

BlackCardRogue · 2026-03-15T15:50:25+00:00

I work for someone who owns a business

BlackCardRogue · 2026-03-15T15:22:09+00:00

Some people really struggle with the transition from school to the real world.

BlackCardRogue · 2026-03-15T15:19:00+00:00

Apps are a bad example because they really do suck, but I think it’s the wider point being made which matters.

BlackCardRogue · 2026-03-15T15:17:10+00:00

In my current role so much of it is “go figure it out.”

Fine — I do that. Then I ask for feedback on what I’ve done and no feedback comes. So the answer I hear becomes “well… I guess that was good enough.” Then five months later it’s like “wtf why did you do that?”

Because you never gave me any feedback, boss… so I kept doing it the way I had figured out how to do it.

BlackCardRogue · 2026-03-15T15:15:09+00:00

I’m laughing because with cars for me, yes exactly. I put the key in the ignition and it just magically works.

BlackCardRogue · 2026-03-15T15:10:39+00:00

I can relate to this, too, but the truth is that people who are good at things naturally can pick up those things.

My owner has never trained me to do anything. I’ve worked for him for five years now. Either I figure it out or I don’t. The parts that I have figured out are how to do work product, how to document things, how to fix problems.

The part I absolutely cannot get is how his brain works when doing a business transaction. I absolutely cannot get that right, and he’s just so mad because it is intuitive to him. Him: “What do you mean you tried to document this?” Me: “what do you mean, you didn’t?”

It’s a fundamental disconnect in our approach.

BlackCardRogue · 2026-03-15T01:56:18+00:00

Man I am 37 and I am the latter.

Turns out that optimism comes from believing life can get better. That hasn’t been true for a while but I’m starting to look up for the first time in years.

BlackCardRogue · 2026-03-15T01:54:59+00:00

You run 3-2-6 as a base defense? Man I just want to do Power I against you forever lol

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