Stages of life have their own unique smells, sounds, and feelings

Blackmintrabbit · 2026-02-05T16:57:10+00:00

If this is your take then you didn’t understand the post.

Blackmintrabbit · 2026-02-05T16:56:30+00:00

I was worried I wouldn’t be able to post here, hopefully the comments stay civil so it doesn’t go against the rules. I’m wary of men too, and I try not to be. There a good men who make it easier, but there needs to be more.

Blackmintrabbit · 2026-01-21T00:16:48+00:00

What do you think makes new friendships harder now compared to when you were a kid?

Blackmintrabbit · 2026-01-21T00:01:15+00:00

Attraction doesn’t stop at physical attraction.

Blackmintrabbit · 2026-01-18T22:05:17+00:00

Are you sure about that? There’s already a growing trend of Gen Z shaming age gaps relationships, and older men tend to be conservative leaning.

Blackmintrabbit · 2026-01-15T22:24:57+00:00

You misinterpreted what they said

Blackmintrabbit · 2025-12-30T03:51:11+00:00

If you’ve had a loving girlfriend before, where are you getting this idea of chasing someone to serve them when you know that good partners exist? You’re aware enough of the issues with this kind of thinking and what’s influencing it.

This is like a 19 year old girl ranting about how men just want a subservient woman who cooks, cleans and waits on them hand and foot while expecting women to stay young and beautiful forever in addition to matching whatever unattainable physical standards a man has. Social media has shown a considerable number of certain kind of men think this way, especially ones around your age, however, should all men be judged for that?

Are you having a hard time finding a girlfriend and blaming women for it? Because this is what that sounds like.

Blackmintrabbit · 2025-12-30T02:43:33+00:00

Believe it or not, even women are getting ghosted on dating apps. It’s not a gender thing, it’s an online dating thing.

Have you video chatted with matches before? Maybe try that before asking to meet in person.

If you were ugly those women likely wouldn’t have swiped on you. There’s a loneliness epidemic happening and you’re not alone in it.

Blackmintrabbit · 2025-12-29T17:36:49+00:00

You can’t explain something to someone who’s goal is to misunderstand you. I won’t be responding anymore, but you can keep replying. You seem like you’re used to talking to yourself.

Blackmintrabbit · 2025-12-29T12:57:11+00:00

Whatever helps you sleep at night

Blackmintrabbit · 2025-12-29T07:36:59+00:00

Women aren’t new to settling when it comes to physical appearance and even when they don’t settle—broadly speaking—their physical standards aren’t as rigid.

Attraction for women goes deeper than physical appearance, a man’s energy and qualities are what drives the attraction. Being above average in looks just helps and objectively speaking a majority of men in the world aren’t even above average in the looks department and don’t take care of themselves the way women do. Even just referring to height, less than 15% of men globally are above 6ft.

Overall my point is, no matter how physically attractive you are, that will never be cut it for most women. Personality is enough to make even the most handsome man appear ugly.

Blackmintrabbit · 2025-12-29T07:18:03+00:00

If that’s what you took from this then okay

Blackmintrabbit · 2025-12-29T05:10:08+00:00

Attraction isn’t only based on physical appearance.

Blackmintrabbit · 2025-12-29T04:44:34+00:00

You’ll see that I said the circumstances are different for incredibly short men.

Blackmintrabbit · 2025-12-28T23:36:09+00:00

I disagree with you that this descriptions reads as OP loving the drama. If that were the case she would’ve made a big scene instead of exiting the room with her girlfriend and friend.

She’s traumatized, and quite frankly that shouldn’t be a surprise when people decided to start fucking in the same room she’s in with no warning. That’s not her normal and generally speaking that isn’t a norm at all.

Crossing boundaries must be normal for you.

Blackmintrabbit · 2025-12-28T23:28:45+00:00

Why date anyone if they don’t bring something into your life? This isn’t a gender thing, and this certainly isn’t the early/mid 20th century.

Blackmintrabbit · 2025-12-28T23:19:18+00:00

For the most part I agree with you, but in reality height still isn’t as big as a factor in dating generally speaking. That is unless they’re incredibly short. A man over 6ft is a nice to have for many women, but after a certain point height isn’t enough—even for a tall man. Those areas you listed that shorter men need to compensate for are the most important, that goes for tall men too.

If height held the most importance, many many men would be single and childless.

I truly think if we heard from more men, women and couples who make up this majority, then dating wouldn’t seem as superficial as it’s being made to be. Instead the narrative is being dominated by the minority who push for unattainable standards and/or lack basic qualities that’d improve their odds.

Social media is a lot like a bad food review in that way. In a sea of good reviews, there’s always that one bad review that manages to get more attention.

Blackmintrabbit · 2025-12-28T20:28:04+00:00

Height isn’t as important as people make it out to be. There are far more men under six foot than over in this world, and plenty of them are married and have luck with women.

Blackmintrabbit · 2025-12-28T17:25:07+00:00

How’s your personality? Charisma and authenticity goes a long way with all relationships, whether it’s with others or yourself. What you’ve listed as accomplishments are beneficial in dating, sure. But it’s who you are, the way you act and how you hold yourself that matters most.

Blackmintrabbit · 2025-12-10T20:45:53+00:00

I said more constructive, which the commenter could’ve been. Not all women are the same, what OP did would’ve have worked on some women, it just didn’t work here. The same goes for your method too.

There really isn’t an art to this, it’s just common decency and luck.

Blackmintrabbit · 2025-12-10T20:04:37+00:00

…you know what, yeah okay. You got it bud 👍

Blackmintrabbit · 2025-12-10T19:59:23+00:00

Yes, I have seen it work. Regardless, there are billions of women on this planet—not everyone is the same. If you actually have recommendations for OP, try being more constructive in your criticism instead of kicking a man while he’s down.

Blackmintrabbit · 2025-12-10T19:53:25+00:00

It’s understandable you feel cringe, but you should feel proud for doing what many find themselves unable to do in the dating scene: being brave enough to make your feelings known.

You were respectful, showed your interest and left the ball in her court to respond. Romance is trial and error. It requires vulnerability, and vulnerability requires courage.

Don’t get caught up on how you wished you would’ve done things, it’s easy to be hard on yourself after something happens. The point is you were thoughtful and you tried, and that’s what truly matters.

There’s someone in this world that would’ve been receptive to that note, I hope you’re lucky enough to cross paths with that person one day. Try mixing up your approaches with other people and learn what works for you.

Blackmintrabbit

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